To do or not to!?!?

rade · December 2014

I thought it would be a great idea to surprise my husband for Christmas and find a cool way to tell him what we are having. BUT.... When we found out we were expecting, he was less than thrilled... And after all that settled he then said he was upset I didn't tell him in an exciting way!

so now I feel nervous to find out without him and suprise him. Thoughts!?

princessbmw · December 2014

I would not find out the sex without my husband. He would be hurt if I did that behind his back. You could ask the tech to write it in an envelope and you both find out on Christmas.

mamahawk12 · December 2014

princessbmw said:

You could ask the tech to write it in an envelope and you both find out on Christmas.

This is exactly what we did with the last two bc DH couldn't be there - and it was more special for us to find out alone, together, than in an awkward dark room with an ultrasound tech. I would come up with a cute way to find out together.

delujm0 · December 2014

He was upset you didn't tell him you were pregnant in an "exciting way?" That has high maintenance written all over it. You shouldn't be expected to make a show of every announcement just to please your husband. Ain't nobody got time for that. I hope that behavior doesn't continue after you have this kid because I don't think you'll have time to make a production out of every announcement at that point.

Having said that, I agree with PPs that you should just find out together. If he can't be there put it in an envelope and open it together when it is convenient.

Schnurette · December 2014

I agree with all the PPs re taking DH with you if at all possible. HOWEVER, if he already knew that you were going to go without him and you were just trying to think of a creative way to tell him - I always liked the idea of filling a huge box with appropriately colored balloons (helium) so when the person opens the box all the balloons come out.

But that's just me. My dream proposal was coming home to a house filled with balloons. My reality was DH forcing me to open a Christmas present on Christmas Eve while I was trying to get ready, so I took it with me into the bathroom and opened it while I was trying to put on makeup. It was a ring.

leenziepops · December 2014

Shouldn't he be excited from the news of a baby? Bit precious. Sorry.

momtobeobrien · December 2014

Have the sonogram tech put the gender results in an envelope and you two could find out together, on Christmas day???

DolphinLover2002 · December 2014

I agree. I wouldn't find out the sex without my DH. Have the tech write it down in an envelope and have a friend or family member help do something for you, so you find out together. Maybe do a cake or balloons. Good luck!

ksimo6 · December 2014

Let me preface by saying that this is #2 for us. My doc called me at work and told me the sex. I stopped and bought some baby boy clothes and gave the bag to my husband when he got home. He said "these won't fit me" and I said "they will fit your son". He was thrilled. Do something simple but special.

ghostof5letters · December 2014

rade said:

I thought it would be a great idea to surprise my husband for Christmas and find a cool way to tell him what we are having. BUT.... When we found out we were expecting, he was less than thrilled... And after all that settled he then said he was upset I didn't tell him in an exciting way! so now I feel nervous to find out without him and suprise him. Thoughts!?

What a dick.

Bednarova · December 2014

We're on baby#2 also, and I found out via phone call earlier this afternoon and immediately called H. No issues there.

I agree with PPs about the tech writing it down and you opening the envelope together.

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