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OhBaby+2013 · December 2014

Ok ladies with a new little.....how's it going? Is your toddler home with you every day too? How is your toddler adjusting? Any tips or tricks to keep toddler busy? How old are your LO's? Edit: to add a question

OhBaby+2013 · December 2014

It's goiNg ok here. dS#1 is 22 months and 2 weeks, DS#2 is 2 weeks. The first week pp my mom was here and that was great. I've been on my own all week this week. DH was home with us Monday but I had Ds#1 and #2 all on my own on Tuesday and Thursday. Those were challenging days but not impossible. I'm still not allowed to drive so we are land locked a bit longer. We have lots of stairs in our house and I haven't been allowed to carry baby up or down stairs before today so now we can actually go out for a walk if we want. Too bad we got a bunch of snow yesterday so now I dont want to go out. Lol! Today DS#1 will go to daycare and he will go to daycare all next week to give me a bit of a rest and some more time to recover from my CS. dS#1 seems to be handling the new addition pretty well. He loves giving him hugs and kisses and only whacks him once every other day or so. And most of the whacks are directed at me because I'm telling him he can't squeeze the baby so tight. Lol! I'm sure we will go through phases of love and hate, so far I'm enjoying the love phase. Right now colouring is my best friend. DS#1 will sit and colour for 30-60 minutes so it's a nice way for me to get a break and him to have some quiet time. About a week and a half pp I had some big emotional swings. Just couldn't stop crying and feeling like I was way over my head. Luckily it lasted only a few days. I'm still in over my head but I'm managing! Lol! Glad I have you ladies to turn to when things get crazy!

portentosa · December 2014

It's going well. DS will be 2 in just a few weeks and DD is 3 months old.

When I first came home with DD I remember being completely panicked. I had a toddler running around, a newborn to take care of, and a c/s to recover from. I had a lot of help from family... my mom and my MIL visited often and DH stayed home from work for two weeks. When he went back to work cue the panic again, but we got into a rhythm.

I have both kids home all day most days. My parents or my ILs sometimes still take DS for the weekend like they did when I was working so I can have quality time with just DD. That's really a sanity saver sometimes.

Getting through the day to day I have to keep the kids separate when I can't watch them interact (DS likes to hug DD or put his fingers in her mouth). I take DS with me when I have to pee and I wait until DS is napping or occupied in his room to do housework. DD does great in her swing, thank goodness.

I try to get out of the house with both kids as often as I can each week. Mondays is 3 and under free-play day at the local gymnasium. I wear DD and DS gets to run and jump around with a bunch of kids his age. Thursday is storytime at the library. At home I've really relied on TV more than I am proud of to help distract DS when DD needs me. He has a couple favorite shows and LOVES the living food animals in Cloudy With A Chance of Meatballs 2.

Overall, I think he's adjusting well. He loves his sister, gives her hugs and kisses and helps with her diaper changes. He has developed the habit of pointing to her swing when I'm holding her and he wants something and will sometimes tantrum if I or DH can't get to him right away.

I think it's been more of an adjustment for me. I REALLY missed him the first couple months when I felt that I was ALWAYS with DD. I would get jealous of DH doing bath time or just cuddling on the couch with DS, and it broke my heart when DS would reach for me but I was nursing DD. It's getting better though now that DD is getting older. I'm able to have quality time with each of them separately and together.

ETA: I go back to work in January. I'm dreading it but really hoping we all adjust as well as we did the first time.

chrissynena · December 2014

It's going ok....

We have been home from the hospital for a little over a week. My mom is staying with us for most of the month, and has helped out so much with DD. Recovering from a c section with two babies and a toddler is no joke. Not being able to lift DD has been really hard. She just doesn't understand why I can't pick her up.

DD is now starting to warm up to the babies. She will hold them for a split second, and almost give them kisses. Lol, she gets just to their face and turns away. She likes to point at one baby and say "baby" then look at the other one and say "another baby".

Ugh I hate to admit that we have relied on wayyy to much screen time to keep DD busy while the three adults handle babies and house hold stuff. She plays on the iPad wayyy to much or on one of our phones. I'm finally starting to feel better so hopefully a routine will fall I to place soon.

DD and new babies are 23 months apart.

brachysira · December 2014

Pretty good here! M is an early January baby, and A.J. just turned 3 months. I have the baby-sitter take M to storytime at the library by our house, which gets her out, and gives me a bit of extra one on one time each week with A.J. They both go to bed by 8, and then we clean (or leave it messy). They both went to music class this week, and we are committed for January. She runs around and he sits on my lap, but I have to toss him into his carseat when it comes time to do the parts of class that involve carrying your LO around to the beat or M is mad. We can only go to places where M can't escape, but I have a good list of those. On the weekend, she goes to the store with DH.

M loves A.J. and has gotten quite into dolls so I bought her some used doll accessories so she can do all I do with A.J. with her doll. I cannot leave them alone tho, because she tends to try to touch his eyes, pick him up, etc. He has a swing on one side of the gate and a pack n play inside the play area, but it's not exactly ideal. Both have a lot of appointments (A.J. only looks right, so he gets therapy for that), and DH has had to miss some work, or I schedule them at dawn, which leaves me exhausted all day. But it is good one-on-one time.

M watches a lot of TV, we read a ton of books, and I have a lot of art things she can do when he naps. We have started to let M sit on the potty, but pting is going to be impossible b/c AJ always needs something. I have put him down on the bathmat while I help M, but I really can't run her into the bathroom when I am feeding him, etc. Plus, the gate now prevents her from going into the bathroom and protects AJ from her, and I do not see us taking it down... We are going to try the 3 day method over the NY holiday and if it works, I guess we'll revisit the gate plan.

brachysira · December 2014

Oh, and to newer moms--it is so much better now than right after the c-section. M was very bratty but I think it was less an issue of her brother, and more an issue of having different people caring for her and very little access to mom. Now she does still try to step on him to get a reaction, but she isn't just screaming all day. And her love for him may be short-lived...he has just started holding toys, and it only took a glimpse of A.J. with Sophie Giraffe for M to whisk Sophie away.

Jessie333 · December 2014

DD is 22 months and DS is 2 weeks. Things here are good, and very very busy. DD has been adjusting well to DS and loves her little brother. She is always running up to him and talking or singing to him and kissing him. The first thing she does in the morning is look for him. She has been acting out more than she used to, but I'm not sure it that is more because of DS or because we are quickly approaching the terrible twos. Keeping dd busy right now isn't as hard as it was last week since dh is on holidays until the end of the year. Last week I had to rely on mil early in the week and bubble guppies later in the week. I feel bad about the screen time, but it really helped keep me sane and let me relax for moment. I also let her color and did stickers while I was nursing ds.

OhBaby+2013 · December 2014

Bubble guppies and Mickey mouse are helping me here a tonne! Once we get a better schedule I will worry about the amount of screen time. I'm just trying to keep us all alive at this point. Lol!

JJsMum · December 2014

Ugh, kind of jealous of you ladies who's toddlers will watch TV.

Si is 22 months and a week or two (end of Jan. baby), and Gray is 2 months. Plus I have a 4 year old. Luckily JJ is in school 3 days a week, so I only have all 3 of them 2 days a week. Si is a ball of energy who likes to throw and hit. I can. not. get this kid to stop throwing or hitting. There is no way that he will sit, or even play quietly, if I put a show on for him. So I wear Gray, and we go to indoor playgrounds a lot. I've also started making obstacle courses for him at night so that everyday the playroom is a little bit different. I think this coming week we are going to get out and start walking on days when it isn't raining cats and dogs. I will say, though, that both older boys are absolutely sweet and gentle with Gray.

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