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MickeyM04
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Very minor DC issue - how to handle or just let it go?
MickeyM04
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So DD has been off her paci for about 6-ish weeks. She never really showed a great deal of interest in it, so I basically just put them all away. Sort of like, hey, might as well take advantage, if she only really takes it once or twice a day for a couple minutes, let's get rid of it. So we had some pacis at DC, and I took them away from DC as well. They actually had confirmed she wasn't really interested in it, so then the next day I removed them all and told them we were done with pacis.
Fast forward to yesterday. I go to pick DD up and there's a paci in her crib. It's one of those teal soothies, but I know it's not hers, because I removed them all. So the issue was a) why does she have someone else's paci, and b) why does she have any paci? I mentioned to her teacher that I saw the paci in her crib, and asked what happened. Her teacher said they borrowed a clean one from another child's stash, since she was having a really hard time going down for her naps yesterday and they theorized that it might help. She said that in fact it did not help, and she just sort of played with it. She said it was a one time thing since they know she's off the pacis. I didn't know the best way to address this, since they acknowledged that they know she's off the pacis, so reminding them that she's not on the pacis seemed kind of unnecessary, like, "We know she's not on pacis but..." and then me saying, "Yeah, but she's not on pacis." So I just said something like, "OK I'm glad it was just the one time, since we worked really hard to get her off pacis (not true since she wasn't interested, but I was trying to emphasize how important it was to keep her off pacis and not get her back on) and I would hate to have all that undone."
Now I'm wondering if I should have been more firm about it, or whatever? I have no real issue that they used another child's paci since they all mouth the same toys all day anyway and I'm not naive to think that she doesn't get other kids' germs in her mouth during the day...if anything I feel bad for the other kid since she has a cold right now. So putting that aside, my issue was more that they gave her a paci when she's not on pacis anymore. Did I handle it OK? Would you say something else along the lines of, "Please don't do that again," or would you just let it go? This is the first "issue" we have had, if you can even call it that, since DD started there 5 months ago. They are really great and I don't question that their motives were likely good (helping soothe her); I just don't want it to happen again and I'm questioning whether I made that clear enough.
BFP #1 6/28/11 ~ EDD 3/7/12 ~ m/c 7/15/11 at 6w2d
BFP #2 8/29/11 ~ EDD 5/12/12. 4/25/12: Our take home baby is here!
BFP #3 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/11/14. 4/27/14: Our second take home baby is here!
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Re: Very minor DC issue - how to handle or just let it go?
I think you did fine b/c you explained in more detail that you don't want her on pacis. If it happens again, I would become more firm and put an annoyed tone in your voice, KWIM.
BFP #1 6/28/11 ~ EDD 3/7/12 ~ m/c 7/15/11 at 6w2d
BFP #2 8/29/11 ~ EDD 5/12/12. 4/25/12: Our take home baby is here!
BFP #3 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/11/14. 4/27/14: Our second take home baby is here!
For me, it would be a non-issue.
Look at it this way- at least they were trying to comfort her and help her nap. The opposite would be that they just let her cry and don't attempt to soothe. So this is a good thing, though against your implied wish of no pacis.
BFP #1 6/28/11 ~ EDD 3/7/12 ~ m/c 7/15/11 at 6w2d
BFP #2 8/29/11 ~ EDD 5/12/12. 4/25/12: Our take home baby is here!
BFP #3 8/27/13 ~ EDD 5/11/14. 4/27/14: Our second take home baby is here!