switched obs nervous!

jennkg3 · December 2014

So I'm 37 weeks tomorrow, and had my first two with a midwife/ob practice. With my son they sent me home at 8pm and I had my son at 1am at home. My husband was pretty upset and it obviously wasn't ideal. I'll never know if it was the midwives fault (as she didn't come see me before sending me home-which I'm still not thrilled about) but in retrospect I also wish I would have stood up for myself. So with #3, we opted to go with a strictly ob practice. This little guy has been breech since 33 weeks, but they kept telling me they weren't concerned. What they were concerned about was his size, he's in the 11th percentile (my other two were 6lb8 and 6lb10oz) I don't have big babies. THey were also concerned with fluid in the office they checked it twice and it was 7 and 8 and at the hospital they checked it and it was 15! I call no body calls back for hours and I never see doctors just PAs even though they consider me "high risk". So yesterday they say they can set up a version but they don't think it will work and that they should just set up a csection (now I have been concerned about the breech factor the whole time and asking if I can do anything). So today I call to set up the version they think will be unsuccessful and I start asking questions. Anyway they say well with your fluid levels the doctors might not even do it, wait what? So I ask where do my levels have to be and they say they aren't sure they will call me back. 8 hours later no call (even though it should be scheduled asap), at this point, I'm just done with them I can't do this anymore, so I call my old ob/midwives and after looking over my chart they are taking me back. I'm nervous, relieved, exhausted, I don't even know. Maybe a little insane.....thanks for listening.

jennkg3 · December 2014

Thanks!!! I really just felt like I couldn't continue with them when they were concerned about everything but couldn't call me back about my concerns. Actually, it's one ob and 4 midwives and I talked to the ob, since the baby is breech, and he asked me why I left and I was honest with him about it. He said he would schedule the version for Monday (and I was honestly to just hear this is what you should do instead of well you can there are risks and sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't, you are the freaking profession advice me....) I'm living on spinning babies lol my two toddlers are sitting around on their hands and knees from watching me lol and I talked to a local gym with a pool about a two week membership. Thanks for your encouraging words this has been a tough decision.

TXUltraRunner · December 2014

Nothing wrong with standing up for yourself when it comes to your health and the baby's health

JoaPata · December 2014

Glad you are feeling more comfortable with your new practice/doctor. If version does not work will your new doctor schedule a C-Section at a 40 weeks? I hope it works Monday. Keep us posted!!

jennkg3 · December 2014

Honestly, I'm not sure if or when he would schedule a csection. He has done breech vaginal births before, don't know if I'm up for that. I really just want to hear what he has to say about everything so I'm going to talk to him tomorrow. He may schedule it for 39 weeks since my son came at home, I have no idea. I haven't cancelled any of my appts at the first practice either so I'm not fully committed anywhere.

tripletoe · December 2014

Good for you. The best thing you can do is be a strong advocate for yourself. That's what I learned after my first pregnancy.

Bigboneded · December 2014

I'm glad you were able to switch to a practice you know and are comfortable with. I am in health care and I tell my family not to use doctors that make them uncomfortable or dont respect them enough to address their concerns. You should never pay someone to treat you badly! It is a very difficult time to jump ship. I hope the practice you went backto has assured you they wont send you home again without an exam if that was your only concern with them ;-)

MichaelSC28 · December 2014

Sorry late to the game. But I changed my practice at 33 weeks and felt like it was a smart move on my part. I met with the Dr. once and will meet with the midwives next week. You do what you have to do and I hope that everything works out great. Its scary moving on to another pasture, if you will, so late in the game. Many best wishes to a good go around for your and your LO this time.

jennkg3 · December 2014

Bigboneded said:

I'm glad you were able to switch to a practice you know and are comfortable with. I am in health care and I tell my family not to use doctors that make them uncomfortable or dont respect them enough to address their concerns. You should never pay someone to treat you badly! It is a very difficult time to jump ship. I hope the practice you went backto has assured you they wont send you home again without an exam if that was your only concern with them ;-)

It was and part of me now knows to say something. Part of the reason I decide yes I need to switch was remembering that I should have stood up for myself in my last pregnancy. Thanks everyone for your reassurance!! I hope it's the right move I always loved my old practice and was sad to leave it but my reasons for leaving seem small compared to my issues I have with the new practice.

MichaelSC28 good luck to you too!! It's very scary. After having my son at home I figured it didn't matter who I went with, but now I see it really does.

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