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TTC After a Loss
j-aleo1
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Intro *one loss, one living*
j-aleo1
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hi ladies, I've been lurking around this board for about two months, until now I haven't had it in me to actually introduce myself. Partly I believed my loss wasn't really a loss compared to other people. It happened so fast, one day I had a bfp 2 weeks later I mc. I didn't want to whine on this board looking for hugs and advice that wouldn't change anything.
But nonetheless, I miscarried at 6w this past October. It was a planned pregnancy. I knew "people" had miscarriages, but was one of those egocentric assholes who thought that only happens to other women. Now I realize how idiotic that is and I apologize.
My husband doesn't talk about it, not that I'm complaining bc I don't know what to say anymore either. We just started TTC again like it never happened.
My son who is 2, never knew about the baby so he's just as happy as ever.
The only reason I've finally decided to introduce myself is bc I thought I was over this, but today I found behind my dryer the " I'm being promoted to big brother" tee I bought my son, and I realize how I'm so NOT over my loss. I can't throw it away, but I don't think even if I do conceive again I'll be able to have him wear it. So now it's just in my dresser where my husband won't see it and I can throw it away in a sense but still hold onto a shirt that he never wore...I guess. Weird, I know.
I just needed to get this out. Thank you for reading this.
But nonetheless, I miscarried at 6w this past October. It was a planned pregnancy. I knew "people" had miscarriages, but was one of those egocentric assholes who thought that only happens to other women. Now I realize how idiotic that is and I apologize.
My husband doesn't talk about it, not that I'm complaining bc I don't know what to say anymore either. We just started TTC again like it never happened.
My son who is 2, never knew about the baby so he's just as happy as ever.
The only reason I've finally decided to introduce myself is bc I thought I was over this, but today I found behind my dryer the " I'm being promoted to big brother" tee I bought my son, and I realize how I'm so NOT over my loss. I can't throw it away, but I don't think even if I do conceive again I'll be able to have him wear it. So now it's just in my dresser where my husband won't see it and I can throw it away in a sense but still hold onto a shirt that he never wore...I guess. Weird, I know.
I just needed to get this out. Thank you for reading this.
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Re: Intro *one loss, one living*
Married: 10/4/2013
TTC Since September 2014
BFP 11/30/2014 ~ EDD 8/13/2015 ~ CP 12/5/2014
BFP #2 12/30/2014 ~ EDD 9/13/2015 Stick bean stick!
• now somewhere where the love flows •
I don't care how early the loss is, once you know you're pregnant, it becomes real. I'm sorry you found that shirt and it was a trigger for you.
Be careful not talking to your husband about it, sometimes that can end up being a bad thing and it can sneak up on you. Good luck *hug*
I'm so sorry for your loss. I guess I was lucky (if you can call it that) that I miscarried before our big brother shirt was finished and I was able to cancel the order. I can't imagine how hard that must have been finding the shirt today. My loss was a little later than yours but I've also been caught off guard by how much I'm NOT over it. Take the time to acknowledge your loss and grief. Welcome and I hope you find comfort and support here.
Hugs. I am so sorry!
I too have a two year old and I had also bought a big brother shirt and I put it away the other day and it was really hard.
I haven't had the heart to remove them from my home
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TTC#1 January 2013
BFP February 27th 2014, MMC ended in D&C
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