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February 2013 Moms
draeray
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WWYD *Update- I told her today!*
draeray
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I have a friend who announced to me that she was pregnant right after finding out (the pee stick still wasn't dry!). She hasn't been trying but not preventing either and this is her first child. Of course she is super excited as she should be and her due date is July 18th. I found out 3 days later that we were pregnant too; she also knew we WERE trying and even mentioned that she was surprised that she got pregnant before we did. I haven't told her yet that we are pregnant too. Part of me wants to so she doesn't think I am hiding it from her but the other part of me wants to wait until I am 12 weeks to announce just like last time and I also don't want to steal her thunder. My due date is July 22nd however, we will be having a repeat C-Section scheduled for July 15th. There is a high probability that we could be having our babies at the same time.
Would you tell her now, or wait until she found out with the rest of the world?
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Update: I decided to just spit it out today and tell her. It wasn't in person like I would have liked but with our busy lives, we rarely find a moment to meet up. She took it well and even mentioned that we possibly could have our babies the same day since I am scheduled for a repeat C-section for July 15 and her due date is the 14th. I did tell her that only 5% of moms deliver on their due date so we would have to wait and see but it would be fun if we could. Anyway, she was happy for me and also appreciated that I waited until after her ultrasound and announcement. She had one miscarry at 8 weeks before so it was a touchy subject. Her first ultrasound this time around they didn't find a baby in the sac but it was still early so it was concerning that maybe things weren't looking good.
Anyway, thank you for all the comments, advice and support. I feel so much better getting it off my chest!
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Re: WWYD *Update- I told her today!*
Right ovary removed 09.04.2012 via vertical laparotomy
Essure implant placed on remaining tube 06.13.2013; successful followup scan 09.30.2013
I would tell her a few days before making your big announcement. Just because she told you the second you found out doesn't mean you have to do the same, but I think giving her a slight advance notice would temper any awkwardness either of you might feel if she found out with everyone else.
ETA I wanted to wait to tell my sister I was pregnant because her first baby was being blessed at the same time we found out and I didn't want to steal her thunder. I ended up having to tell her because I started showing so early, and she said I wasn't stealing her thunder at all and was really happy for me.
Now thats thunder stealing!
I think it is so exciting to be pregnant at the same time as a really good friend, you have someone going through the same thing and they won't be annoyed with pregnancy talk! I think you're overthinking it, it will be great!