Hi all I am very late to jump on the band wagon but I wanted to ask a question of random internet strangers to check my sanity. I have been lurking a little bit in the past few weeks to see what some of you have had to say about your experiences and I will do my very best to not say or do the wrong thing!
I am 39 weeks pregnant, estimated due date is tomorrow actually so more like 40 weeks. This is our first (human) baby! We are having a girl and couldn't be more excited for the future! We are hoping she will decide to come on her own but have an induction date set for the 16th due to medical issues that popped up in the past few weeks. NO I am not here to ask how to get labor moving naturally ect if she is ready before we induce she will come if she is not I am happy to keep her in there till the Dr said she needs to come out for both of our health and safety!
So my question to all of you is regarding sick relatives. I found out last night that my FIL, who can in form another state to visit, is sick and has been for well over a week before flying in to see us and did not go see a Dr in that time. They plan on being here for her birth and seeing her soon after she arrives. I don't want him to be around her being sick however and neither does my husband. Under normal circumstances I would LOVE to have him around I am just fearful of the germs at this point. My husband spoke to his mom about it last night (they are staying with my BIL and SIL) and she kept telling him 'well he doesn't have a fever' and then my SIL told me 'he can wear a mask'. A few other things were said but those 2 bugged me the most. I am not trying to be mean and I really do want all the family to be able to see her but I don't want to risk her getting the germs and I know that just because you don't have a fever doesn't mean you can't spread illness. Am I being unreasonable/ hormonal/ crazy pregnant lady? or is it a reasonable expectation to not want him holding her ect. when she is only a few days old?
I apologize for the long first post! Thanks in advance for you honest opinions!
Update: My MIL just called me and wanted to make sure I knew that they understand our concerns and fears. She also wanted to make it clear that if he is not feeling better when she arrives they will respect our wishes and don't want to risk any of our health. I feel much better about the whole thing now and very fortunate that she made a point to reach out to me to prevent me from worrying!
Re: Introduction and a question. Update in OP
Personally I don't think that you're being unreasonable. You're going to have a newborn baby and the last thing that you need is that little girl getting sick. You don't have to have a fever to spread cooties.
I think that you're going to have a battle on your hands ... no matter what someone is going to lose and have their feelings hurt. MIL/FIL might be upset if they're not allowed to come see the baby and hold her. You and hubby will be upset if they come and contaminate your little one.
Good luck mama.
RE appointment & testing December 2013 - February 2014= Unexplained IF, possible endometriosis
IUI#1- March 22 (100mg clomid, 75 mg of Bravelle, Ovidrel trigger) = BFP!!!
BFP#1: 2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14
BFP#2: 2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed
Surprise BFP#3: 4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy (and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!
John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz. He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!
Sounds more like the family members are the ones being kinda selfish... I'm glad your H is on the same page as you though, that'll make a huge difference! Hope you guys get everything worked out. Congrats and enjoy your last days with an inside baby!!
Oh, and welcome
Your baby your rules. If they don't respect it, then that's their problem. It's a little harder to stand your ground against family, but it's better to be safe than sorry.
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I currently have an awful cold. I'm a germy, snotty, coughing mess. I and praying not to go into labor now. My induction is scheduled for 6 days from now. So... I don't know what the hell I'm gonna do...
RE appointment & testing December 2013 - February 2014= Unexplained IF, possible endometriosis
IUI#1- March 22 (100mg clomid, 75 mg of Bravelle, Ovidrel trigger) = BFP!!!