A shining example: for all the newbs and those who think we're bullies

squeezebean · December 2014

For all the ladies who are tired of the trolls and the WKs, let's just take a moment to revisit a great example of how to respond when your thread was not received well. Thank you @bczappas!

For all the newbs and the folks who think we're SO MEAN, there is a good way to respond that doesn't make us crazy. Here it is:

(Now if I can only figure out how to link to a thread...)

finding out gender on friday and...

Read and learn!

DawnLilly · December 2014

@bczappas‌ I missed this the first go around. Kudos to you.

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Lezzie82 · December 2014

She handled it nicely..... But I have seen some turn unnecessarily ugly. And I get that no one wants to be bothered with stupid posts.... And posting funny gifs and whatever is all good, harmless teasing. But of course on certain days you may have someone who takes it a little too far and does come off as rather insulting, but that's just life I guess. Not everyone will like you. But I do try not to judge someone new just because they post something silly or that we've seen a million times. I really only judge the ones where someone should be calling an ER instead of asking us why they are gushing blood or somethjng horrible. Those are awful. Maybe that makes a damn "white knight" or whatever but I feel for them! They're just trying to fit in here- and didn't know to lurk first...!

I got into it with some members in the very beginning, I can't even honestly remember who now, over use of the term "gender reveal party".... And it got a little crazy, and I even received a curse out message lmao.... But in the end everything was cool because most everyone kept their cool and was able to debate like adults do lol. Other than that qua baffle it's been smooth sailing I think.... Unless I missed somethjng lol.

beezybaby · December 2014

has there been a lot of anti "bullying" talk lately? I must have missed it...

ajjorgenson · December 2014

There's an entire post on this? Holy crap. Well that sums that up.

rositalynda2014 · December 2014

Ok no one "bully" me lol, but what is this "theory" you speak of anyway...?
Also, been on this app for a couple months now and I JUST noticed the refresh button, no more going back and re-clicking a link to see if there's new threads I guess lol

DawnLilly · December 2014

rositalynda2014 said:
Ok no one "bully" me lol, but what is this "theory" you speak of anyway...?
Also, been on this app for a couple months now and I JUST noticed the refresh button, no more going back and re-clicking a link to see if there's new threads I guess lol

Most of the long time posters have been here since before there were apps. That's why sometimes it's fustrating for them. If you get online and come to TheBump.com and then community you will see. On the app you can't see that someone has been participating since 2008 or their signature. The signatures are important. It can show when someone was married, how many kids they have ect but they also show tributes to angel babies or how long and hard some of these women have worked for their take home baby.

It's harder to connect to the actual women here when it's an "app". I know it also seems like one the baby is here, or maybe a few months later, that most will forget the app because they've moved on. I haven't even been here long and the app makes everthing seem very impersonable.

ajjorgenson · December 2014

@DawnLilly‌ -- that's really good insight as an app user. There def seems to be tension between those of us just looking for answers/comments/etc from other pregnant women and those who view it a as their friends for a few years already.

I will admit this is the first board that I have seen so much "been" calling and it's taken me aback. Maybe us app users need our own board so we don't intrude on the long time posters convos.

rositalynda2014 · December 2014

SunshyneShay said:

ajjorgenson said:
@DawnLilly‌ -- that's really good insight as an app user. There def seems to be tension between those of us just looking for answers/comments/etc from other pregnant women and those who view it a as their friends for a few years already.

I will admit this is the first board that I have seen so much "been" calling and it's taken me aback. Maybe us app users need our own board so we don't intrude on the long time posters convos.
No, you just need to make an effort to really learn how we work here and join us. I know it sounds "cliquy" but these women are amazingly supportive and are helping me more than they know, being an hour plus from my friends and family. I have only been here since October and I very much feel like one of the group. Every BMB is like this here, so it's not just us.

It's hard to "work as you do" when we didn't know there was a difference between the website and the app, no where was that explained until you let us know. I had no idea there was a difference.
I thought I was using it how it was meant to be used. Didn't know about the signatures and such.

samiamagirl · December 2014

To get to the forums on the app (at least on my app) you have to click a tab that says "Community." I think if we do an intro post for "App Users" we should stress why the word community is used- because you're walking into a community of women, not just a bunch of women waiting around to answer questions.

Also, as for the signatures showing up on the app, probably won't happen because they have certain things in place to keep mobile data limited and signatures would use up some mobile data each and every time they loaded up on a page.

McBaby19 · December 2014

IFinTN said:
@ramy3 and @irishtheatrechic

I think this is a valid point. Perhaps an announcement letting app users know that there's more to signatures, etc. than what can be seen on the app or on mobile? I do think this creates unnecessary tension. People like myself see it as a community and others see it as ask.com.

Or better yet--why don't the mobile app developers make it so that our siggies show up on the app? Maybe you can take this up to bumpjackie or the mod boards for discussion.

OMG. Tease me or whatever, but this just taught me what a siggy is. I've seen it mentioned tons of times in the few months I've been on here and always been confused what people referred to (I'm an app user, so I can't see siggies!) I have myself a major face palm when I just made the connection between "signature" and "siggy". Lmao. #-o
Also, I didn't know there was a difference between app and online, but now I think I'll join the online side and explore it!
I hope I quoted you right, this was my first time quoting too.

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