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ppd dads?

jarhousejarhouse member
in October 2014 Moms
Hi, I'm new here. Have any of you had experience with your partner suffering from postpartum depression? If so, how long did it last? Did he and/or you get counseling? I know that men suffering from this is not discussed that often, and probably goes unnoticed a lot. It's just that my husband was so excited about having a baby and had been a huge part of the entire pregnancy and birth, but a few days after the birth was when things changed. It seems to have stemmed from the hospital experience which was a little traumatic because of breastfeeding issues, but those issues were resolved within a week. He felt helpless and that he wasn't doing enough to help, although I assured him he was great. Now, things are better but still not what I'd imagined. He's not head-over-heels with the baby like I thought he'd be, and still feels anxious when she cries. I ask him to help where he can, such as with changings and doing things around the house, and he does. I just know he's not himself, and he was quick to identify his feelings as ppd as well.

Thanks for reading. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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  • lrobi13lrobi13 member

    No advice but he may just be overwhelmed and just needs some time to adjust.  It is a big change and I know that I was unprepared for the emotional toll that parenthood was going to take on me.

    How old is your lo?

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  • jarhousejarhouse member
    Thank you guys. I appreciate the support! I'm sorry some of you have dealt with/are dealing with this too.
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  • Jennyc00Jennyc00 member
    Sorry he's having a hard time. My DH said he really didn't feel like we were having a baby until lo was here. I think they have to process things at a very different pace than we do. It's a big change for us all for sure!
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  • rawr1131rawr1131 member
    edited December 2014
    My DH and I are dealing with this very thing... First time parents, LO is 8wo. DH is not himself, gets frustrated really easily, and just in general bummed out... He loves DS and is great with him but is just struggling to adjust to our new life. He's doing much better than before, but still not back to normal. We're looking into counseling for him... I think getting more sleep will certainly help too! All this to say, you guys aren't alone, hang in there, and seek help if you think that would be the best way to handle your situation!
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