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How do you do it??

NB817NB817 member
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I just got another shocking baby #2 announcement via a Christmas card. This friend always said they were one and done which is why I was completely not expecting this news from her. I'm trying like hell to feel happy for her, but I'm just not. How do you do it? How do you be happy for a friend while going through the struggle of TTCAS???

ME: 35 DH: 39

Married July 2011

DD Born 8/12

TTC #2 since 11/13

ME: Submucosal Fibroid Surgery Date APRIL 14th 2015 -Left Tube is blocked by Fibroid~Surgeon removed 26 Fibroids from my Ute and Unblocked my Tube

DH:Azoospermia...Thank God we have 12 vials of frozen swimmers

July 15-Check to see if Ute is all healed

IUI #1 8/3/15...BFN

IUI #2 9/5/15...BFP on 9/17/15

Beta #1-344

Beta #2-809

Beta #3 8,390

1st u/s 8/8/15 1 bean HB 135 @ 6w5d



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Re: How do you do it??

  • SpartanChick88SpartanChick88 member
    Mine have been more "baby is 2 months old today!" on FB... and there have been A LOT lately. Honestly, I hug my girl and try to remember that I'm lucky to have her. Yes, I want another but I'm trying to see the positive in things right now. As much as the green eyed monster pops up, I'm doing my best to be happy for me and for them.

    I'm new to this board so I apologize if this was an inappropriate response... I'm getting to the point where I'm losing hope for #2 and just making myself ok with the way things are no matter what I see in other families



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  • emsmama15emsmama15 member
    I'm not going to lie, it makes me VERY sad/angry whenever I see a FB announcement or another announcement in the break room at work.  It's getting a little ridiculous how many people in my life are pregnant.  In my strong times, I think "my turn is coming soon" and I hug my daughter and focus on what I do have.  In my weak moments (which are probably more frequent), I allow myself a little ugly cry and then move on, because I just can't let myself dwell on it or I'll go absolutely crazy!
    *** Child & current pregnancy mentioned ***
    Me - 41 (PCOS), Hubby - 43 (healthy)
    7/2013 - Sweet baby girl born (Clomid + TI)
    3/2014 - TTC #2, return to RE 7/2014
    12/2015: IVF #1 transferred two great looking embryos - BFP!
    First ultrasound: TWO beautiful little heartbeats!!
    Harmony: negative; level 2: babies look great and are boy/girl! :) 
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  • chloebeth930chloebeth930 member
    I'm starting to get to the point where announcements make me feel staby.  The ones where their DC #1 is younger than my DD are the worst.  It is like just more of a realization that I have been trying for so long.
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  • NB817NB817 member

    @spartanchick88 your response is completely appropriate and I like your outlook.

    I do try to focus on how lucky I am to have DD and try to stay positive that "my turn" is coming, but it all still stings at the same time.

    ME: 35 DH: 39

    Married July 2011

    DD Born 8/12

    TTC #2 since 11/13

    ME: Submucosal Fibroid Surgery Date APRIL 14th 2015 -Left Tube is blocked by Fibroid~Surgeon removed 26 Fibroids from my Ute and Unblocked my Tube

    DH:Azoospermia...Thank God we have 12 vials of frozen swimmers

    July 15-Check to see if Ute is all healed

    IUI #1 8/3/15...BFN

    IUI #2 9/5/15...BFP on 9/17/15

    Beta #1-344

    Beta #2-809

    Beta #3 8,390

    1st u/s 8/8/15 1 bean HB 135 @ 6w5d



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  • SpartanChick88SpartanChick88 member
    Thanks @NB817‌ ... since I haven't learned the tone of this board yet I didn't want to upset anyone!



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