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N3TR: Had Party, Didn't Invite Boss Now Feel Horrible

Tiko99Tiko99 member
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So I had a housewarming party on Saturday and invited some people from work, but didn't invite my boss. I wanted to go crazy and drink my brains out and didn't want my boss to see me all drunk, but now I feel EXTREMELY guilty. I feel I should have invited him since he would have most likely not shown up. I don't know if I should email him or tell him that I wanted to invite him, but also wanted to get a little crazy and unprofessional. My boss is really cool and we have a pretty casual relationship so I feel even worse for not inviting him......Am I just overreacting? Should I feel bad? Should I email him and tell him I had a party, invited some mutual coworkers, but didn't invite him because I'm a drunk?  I'm starting to get teary eyed thinking I excluded someone.... :(

Me: 33, DH: 32

TTC: 2 years
Fertility blood tests all normal
Tilted uterus
3 day ultrasound 17 follicles
HSG: 11/13/13- tubes open
DH SA: SUPER sperm (145 million, 84% motility, 22% morphology)
All infection disease and immunity blood tests NORMAL
FIRST IUI May 2014: 100 mg Clomid days 5-9, third ultrasound CD 13 revealed four follicles 27, 24 and 20 and 13mm. Trigger shot May 28 with IUI May 29 and 30 (fingers crossed) - BFN started spotting 11DPO :(

IUI #2 B2B 6/23 and 6/24, three mature eggs and 130 million sperm! FX this is the month!  BFN 7/8

3rd cycle benched due to cysts - TI with OPK tests -  BFN

3rd mediated cycle: Clomid+Trigger+TI  (three follies left side, one on right as usual....what the hell right ovary get it together and produce some damn follicles!) 7DPO progesterone level 43 with NO suppositories YAY for a natural strong ovulation. Beta canceled started spotting 13DPO - Third time is not a CHARM! 14 day cycle WTF! Everything looks normal - RE wants to start injectables next cycle so this cycle I'm benched

Officially benched until March....but still plan on trying the baking soda douche due to my excessive and thick CM

JANUARY SIGGY CHALLENGE...This is so me!

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Re: N3TR: Had Party, Didn't Invite Boss Now Feel Horrible

  • Tiko99Tiko99 member
    hrushka thanks for your reply.....He overheard two of my co-workers talking about the party so I feel guilty that I left him out and that he possibly had a moment of feeling left out. I've been left out of a lot of things in my life and later found out and it hurt me, so I just don't want him to feel hurt. 

    I ovulated early this cycle so I wonder if I"m having a crazy post ovulation emotional episode :) 

    Me: 33, DH: 32

    TTC: 2 years
    Fertility blood tests all normal
    Tilted uterus
    3 day ultrasound 17 follicles
    HSG: 11/13/13- tubes open
    DH SA: SUPER sperm (145 million, 84% motility, 22% morphology)
    All infection disease and immunity blood tests NORMAL
    FIRST IUI May 2014: 100 mg Clomid days 5-9, third ultrasound CD 13 revealed four follicles 27, 24 and 20 and 13mm. Trigger shot May 28 with IUI May 29 and 30 (fingers crossed) - BFN started spotting 11DPO :(

    IUI #2 B2B 6/23 and 6/24, three mature eggs and 130 million sperm! FX this is the month!  BFN 7/8

    3rd cycle benched due to cysts - TI with OPK tests -  BFN

    3rd mediated cycle: Clomid+Trigger+TI  (three follies left side, one on right as usual....what the hell right ovary get it together and produce some damn follicles!) 7DPO progesterone level 43 with NO suppositories YAY for a natural strong ovulation. Beta canceled started spotting 13DPO - Third time is not a CHARM! 14 day cycle WTF! Everything looks normal - RE wants to start injectables next cycle so this cycle I'm benched

    Officially benched until March....but still plan on trying the baking soda douche due to my excessive and thick CM

    JANUARY SIGGY CHALLENGE...This is so me!

    image


    Love this man....he was so before his time in his thoughts and ideas about the world....been obsessed about him lately bringing it back to the early 90s.

    image

    Never thought I would like long hair....

    image

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  • junerosesjuneroses member
    I agree with the ladies above. Explaining about the party is unnecessary b/c the peer/ boss relationship is very different - and good bosses know this. Also, I think making a big deal about explaining why he wasn't invited might make him feel more excluded than if you let it drop. You might feel less "guilty", but I don't think this would make your boss feel better. I definitely wouldn't explain that you wanted to drink - it's not a professional image. I'm HR in my day job, so I know I'm more uptight about this than most, but I think it helps to have your boss associate you with things being under control & professional :smile:
    Me (33), PCOS. Bloodwork normal, AMH slightly high, HSG clear 
    DH (40) SA good 
    Trying since 1/2012, RE 6/2014 
    Letrozole & TI June 2014-September 2014 -BFN
    October 2014 - IUI #1, lertozole - BFN
    November 2014 - IUI cancelled due to holiday, TI & Lertozole - BFN
    December 2014 - TI 
    January 2015 - IUI #2 - ?

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  • BunnyBerryBunnyBerry member
    I can understand why you're feeling bad about it, but absolutely don't say anything to him about it! I think it would seem unprofessional to say those things; he'd probably be wishing you hadn't mentioned anything. :)

    I hope you had a super fun party!!
    January 3T Siggy Challenge - New Year's Resolutions
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    Me (29), DH (30) TTC actively 54 55+ cycles | All BFNs
    MFI (low everything) | Endo Stage 1 & Stenotic Cervix (treated) | PCO
    Married - July 2008 | Started TTC - Jan 2009 | RE Visit #1 - Mar 2014 
    IUI #1 ICI #1 - June | IUI #1.1 Laparoscopy - Aug
    IUIs #1.2, 2, 3 - Sept, Oct, Nov (Letrozole) - BFNs 
    IUI #4 - Dec (Bravelle) | IUI #5 - Dec/Jan (Bravelle) - 5 follies + TI - BFNs
    IUI #5.1 - Jan (Bravelle) Cancelled 
    Planning to start IVF in March!
    ***All Welcome***
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  • dancersposedancerspose member

    I agree with everyone else.  It's very considerate of you to be feeling badly, but completely unnecessary.  I wouldn't say anything to him.

    Don't let this stress counteract any awesome fun you might have had!

    Me: 31 (PCOS) possible right tube issues DH: 36 (SA normal) 
    Started dating in 2006, Married 2012 
    TTC since November 2013 
    First RE visit due to irregular periods: June 2014
    Lap/Hysto to remove polyps, cyst and tube blockage 11/6
    Cycle 1 (Dec. 2014) TI with Clomid, Trigger, & Progesterone CX due to no response
    Impatiently Waiting CD1 to try again with Fermara Back on the bench due to giant cyst,
    who know I'd ovulate on my own after a cancelled cycle and end up with a mega cyst :(
    All Welcome
     
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