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Pregnancy and stress

Alana78Alana78 member
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Hi ladies,

Kind of embarrassing subject here, but I feel like I've had my share of ups and downs during pregnancy, and had a rough time getting along with my H at times. I've done all the right stuff otherwise, eating healthy, no drinking, no drugs obviously. All the tests we took in pregnancy came back perfect and fine and fetal growth is normal. My due date is very near but I have worried about the effects of stress on the baby, including yelling arguments. I think there were some issues that were upsetting plus my hormones running high. Its not been all the time, but enough that I've felt concerned. Anyone else went thru anything similar and can say baby was fine and perfectly healthy even if you had your share of ups and downs throughout pregnancy? I'm hoping to some words of reassurance!! :)

Thanks!


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  • kassidylynn3kassidylynn3 member
    I can assure you that you are not the only one struggling with these issues! However, I have been wondering the same thing. Unfortunately I cannot answer your question, although I have talked with my doctor and she assured me that he (my son) is happy, healthy, and will be just fine. Let's hope & pray that our stress levels will not affect our children!
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  • Alana78Alana78 member
    Yeah Im sure you are right, and Im not the only one dealing w this issue! My doctor said baby is fine too when I talked to her about it but still I manage to worry at times!
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    ladycersei said:
    People have had babies during the Great Depression, while in concentration camps, during slavery, during war and famine, etc. Being upset about something isn't going to hurt your baby. It's all about perspective.
    Truth. Whenever I get overly emotional or upset or whatever, FI always says that getting stressed is going to make the baby come early. Totally untrue. Stress is not indicative of anything being wrong with the baby.
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  • Alana78Alana78 member
    ladycersei said:
    People have had babies during the Great Depression, while in concentration camps, during slavery, during war and famine, etc. Being upset about something isn't going to hurt your baby. It's all about perspective.
    Yes true, I'm sure perfectly fine babies are born during stressful times. I hope the baby will be perfect through some yelling and arguments too!!
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  • Alana78Alana78 member
     
    Truth. Whenever I get overly emotional or upset or whatever, FI always says that getting stressed is going to make the baby come early. Totally untrue. Stress is not indicative of anything being wrong with the baby.
    Yeah, the baby isn't really coming early for me as I see, I'm over 38 weeks! I know stress doesn't indicate something is wrong, I just would hope stress does not cause something to be wrong. I think I can feel ok at this point everything will be fine - but I tend to be a worrier a worrier so its good to hear reassurance! :)
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  • surpriseadditionsurpriseaddition member
    My father was dying of cancer, and passed away when I was 17 weeks pregnant with my first. I spent the vast majority of my pregnancy crying and depressed. My oldest is now 16 years old and is a well adjusted teen with great grades, very athletic, and has lots of friends. Try not to worry!


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  • Alana78Alana78 member
    somerandomchick said:
    The kind of stress that affects your baby's health is stuff like being a refugee of war. Your day to day stresses of work, life, husband, family, toddlers going through terrible twos, whatever is not the kind of stress that hurts your baby. It still 'counts' and I'm not saying that since other people have it worse you're not allowed to be upset about whatever is happening in your life. Just know that it's a myth that you have to stay totally zen and not stressed during pregnancy
    Im sure you are right! Don't worry you are not diminishing my problems by saying they're not as bad as what some go through! I certainly hope they are not!! :) I did wish I could be more zen though. I feel like if it was totally in my control I would have liked to listen to peaceful music more often take prenatal yoga classes just be more peaceful. But instead I have a stressful demanding job (am on mat. leave now though) and then rough time w H, so things didn't go exactly how I wanted but things seem to be evening out more now....
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  • Alana78Alana78 member
    surpriseaddition said:
    My father was dying of cancer, and passed away when I was 17 weeks pregnant with my first. I spent the vast majority of my pregnancy crying and depressed. My oldest is now 16 years old and is a well adjusted teen with great grades, very athletic, and has lots of friends. Try not to worry!
    Ugh that must have been so hard! :( Glad to hear that your child is still great and well adjusted. I had a few crying moments but what has worried me more is the anger/yelling moments where I feel that adrenaline and blood pressure rise. Still I've been told by my doctor things will be fine...
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