C section

kristinamichelle · December 2014

Anyone else gotta have a c section and as due nears starting to get scared this will be my second c section and I'm more freaked out this time and have more worries

kefttsc · December 2014

I don't have a clue what you are asking due to lack of proper grammar, capitalization and punctuation. Try again.

krysmill · December 2014

I'm so lost.

Sahara6971 · December 2014

kefttsc said:

I don't have a clue what you are asking due to lack of proper grammar, capitalization and punctuation. Try again.

Glad I'm not the only one. I read it 4 times....

Nvywife · December 2014

OP there is a board for c-section moms, maybe they could be more help to you.

foxslaw · December 2014

I'll bite: if this is your second c-section, why are you more worried? Did you have complications with your first?

CatLadyTX · December 2014

I actually feel more relaxed this time. I know that unless she decides to come early, everything will be planned out and scheduled. Even if she is early, I know that all I have to do is show up at the hospital and there will be a c-section soon after. I'm not stressed about the unknown of delivery, like I was last time.

MrsScally13 · December 2014

I'm having my second c-section and I am having massive anxiety this time. The first time I was so sure labor would go smoothly and that we would have a beautiful all natural birth and as things went downhill I was still so sure everything would be fine (which it was healthy baby health Mama). I never really thought about the surgery or the recovery and now that's all I can think of. I didn't have any real complications once the c-section was complete (it did reopen a bit but nothing major). I think it's normal to be more nervous the second time around (and just as normal to be less nervous). Surgery is stressful and scary and that's what we are having. Try not to focus on the surgery. Try to focus on the fact that you will be bringing home a beautiful little one. You could also talk to a professional if it's really causing you pain and anxiety.

adarad · December 2014

Lovely response! You never know someone else's story and her lack of punctuation could be due to anxiety. I bet she will appreciate some good, sound advice.

mali3 · December 2014

Well, this is my 3rd csection and the anxiety of it does not go away for me to say the least. With every csection you are higher risk for complications, so I think your feelings are normal. I thinking after 1st csection you obviously know what to expect, but it doesn't ease the nerves. Best of luck to you and take it easy.

Sahara6971 · December 2014

mali3 said:

Well, this is my 3rd csection and the anxiety of it does not go away for me to say the least. With every csection you are higher risk for complications, so I think your feelings are normal. I thinking after 1st csection you obviously know what to expect, but it doesn't ease the nerves. Best of luck to you and take it easy.

Ditto, all of this.

mamabisme · December 2014

This will be my third and my nerves are starting to kick in a bit at times. That said, I thoroughly trust my doctor and I know I am in good hands. Sure, there are risks involved but I am willing to bet that most, if not all, of us engage in behaviors that carry much higher risk than a routine, planned, c-section on a pretty regular basis.

Also, for what it's worth, my second (planned) c-section was a very positive experience. The birth was perfect. Recovery was a breeze. I wouldn't change a thing. Planned procedures are typically much, much, better.

kefttsc · December 2014

adarad said:
Lovely response! You never know someone else's story and her lack of punctuation could be due to anxiety. I bet she will appreciate some good, sound advice.

I have anxiety and can still form a proper sentence. Also, she is so anxious but hasn't returned for any responses? Stop with the rainbows and unicorns......

adarad · December 2014

No rainbows and unicorns...just being friendly. Who gives a shit if she doesn't respond. It's just a question-and if you can't understand it or don't have any advice, don't say anything. What good comes from pointing out her flaws. It has got to be draining always pointing out the negative.

lizjennings81 · December 2014

adarad said:

No rainbows and unicorns...just being friendly. Who gives a shit if she doesn't respond. It's just a question-and if you can't understand it or don't have any advice, don't say anything. What good comes from pointing out her flaws. It has got to be draining always pointing out the negative.

Part of being a part of a community is contributing to the back and forth. She asked two days ago and hasn't been back to see any of the responses (some with helpful perspectives), yours included. Bottom line, we're not a Q&A service.

srcr2011 · December 2014

I also had to read the OP a few times to realize what she was saying.

Don't you just love how "faceless" generic avatars are the first say "be nice!"?

acpruchnik · December 2014

adarad said:
No rainbows and unicorns...just being friendly. Who gives a shit if she doesn't respond. It's just a question-and if you can't understand it or don't have any advice, don't say anything. What good comes from pointing out her flaws. It has got to be draining always pointing out the negative.

Or you could NOT tell a public forum to NOt respond and to NOT react when she comes to US with a question. We didn't pose the question to her so us responding is a reasonable course of action, unless the concept of a public forum has changed..?

We get enough unknown women here using us as their own personal Google and it gets very old very fast. This is a community. We've spent the last 7(ish) months bonding and getting to know each other. We've established a relationship and an understanding of each other. We've laughed AND cried together, even as people who've never met face to face (and some actually have met!).

Do us all a favor and don't be THAT guy and White Knight for a post-and-run. Let her defend herself since she's opened herself up to this board by stepping in and involving us.

P.S. Way to criticize her flaws being pointed out and then accusing us of constantly pointing out others' in the same sentence. That should get you really far with this group!

srcr2011 · December 2014

acpruchnik said:

No rainbows and unicorns...just being friendly. Who gives a shit if she doesn't respond. It's just a question-and if you can't understand it or don't have any advice, don't say anything. What good comes from pointing out her flaws. It has got to be draining always pointing out the negative.
Or you could NOT tell a public forum to NOt respond and to NOT react when she comes to US with a question. We didn't pose the question to her so us responding is a reasonable course of action, unless the concept of a public forum has changed..? We get enough unknown women here using us as their own personal Google and it gets very old very fast. This is a community. We've spent the last 7(ish) months bonding and getting to know each other. We've established a relationship and an understanding of each other. We've laughed AND cried together, even as people who've never met face to face (and some actually have met!). Do us all a favor and don't be THAT guy and White Knight for a post-and-run. Let her defend herself since she's opened herself up to this board by stepping in and involving us. P.S. Way to criticize her flaws being pointed out and then accusing us of constantly pointing out others' in the same sentence. That should get you really far with this group!

adarad · December 2014

Oh I read every day. Have since June. But like others have said before, I always get so intrigued at how quickly people judge and get mean. So I found very early on that I did not feel comfortable posting. Mainly I just check the home page and check in on people who do provide helpful insight. And as far as the laugh, cry, bond. I for sure received support when I put my cat down, when I was dealing with anxiety, what have you. But luckily I wasn't attacked in those vulnerable moments. But it would have certainly sucked to reach out for help and then be shamed right away.

Nvywife · December 2014

My response was in no way mean, I kindly suggested she may have better luck on another board. I could have shared my first c-section story and frightened her more.

kefttsc · December 2014

PSA: We don't know if you have read every day since June. The only posts that show on your profile are from this post. So no matter how long you have been reading our posts, you are not a part of this community. If you had participated in supporting others, we may see you differently.

If you haven't been comfortable posting since June since we are big meanies, what made you decide to White Knight this post???? Just don't.

srcr2011 · December 2014

adarad said:

Oh I read every day. Have since June. But like others have said before, I always get so intrigued at how quickly people judge and get mean. So I found very early on that I did not feel comfortable posting. Mainly I just check the home page and check in on people who do provide helpful insight. And as far as the laugh, cry, bond. I for sure received support when I put my cat down, when I was dealing with anxiety, what have you. But luckily I wasn't attacked in those vulnerable moments. But it would have certainly sucked to reach out for help and then be shamed right away.

I think it's mean when you expect people to understand a post that does not have punctuation. It's hard to read and often times will get ignored. OP is lucky she got the nice, helpful comments she did. It's also mean and judgmental for you to say that we we are quick to judge and be mean. OP hasn't even come back. That's like walking into a store, asking the clerk to find something for you, she does, and when she comes back with it, you're gone. That's rude. Ain't no body got time for that!

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