AW: ARGH I need a vent

Km380 · December 2014

I am having a rough morning. I'm on day 9 of stims for IVF, egg retrieval is tentatively this weekend. My RE sees his patients at every appointment and does all the ultrasounds. I went for my monitoring this morning and a tech did my ultrasound and I didn't see the RE at all. Ok, sure not a big deal I guess. I talked to a nurse about how many meds I have left and I don't have enough! I need more by Thursday. But lets come back to that. As I was scheduling my appointments for the rest of the week the receptionist informs me my RE isn't in the rest of the week! I will see one of the other doctors. Umm ok because yesterday when I saw him he didn't say anything about this. I asked who is doing my egg retrieval this weekend...not him! A dr I have never met! I feel abandoned. I guess this isn't a big deal, all the doctors at the practice are supposed to be excellent. But I've been seeing my RE for a year. I trust him. I know him. It'd be nice to have a familiar face for surgery!

Now back to the meds issue. So I come home and immediately call for a refill for one of my meds in the hopes that yes they can ship me something that quickly. They claim they can. Which I will not relax about until it is in my hands. During this phone call they also tell me I have a balance. Uh, no I have paid for every order before they've shipped. So I'm told that's just an estimate but the insurance company didn't pay as much as we thought they would. Huh!? Long story short (well too late for that I suppose) I am back to my initial insurance issue where they think my coverage is different from what it is. So I hung up with the pharmacy people to call the billing people. I've been on the phone for an hour! Every drug claim has been billed wrong and supposedly they will refund my credit card. Honestly I will believe that when I see it. But considering I have a lifetime max and they are billing things wrong, I'm more than a little concerned about things.

So you know, IVF isn't stressful enough. I'm tired, my belly hurts and I'm just a wee bit anxious, overwhelmed and emotional.

Thanks for listening. If you made it through all of that I give you this

Or perhaps this is more to your taste

Nikolie93 · December 2014

damn, I am sorry *hug*

I can understand you being anxious about seeing another Dr. In the end it will work out but when you get used to someone, it's hard to feel comfortable with someone else. That would bother me for sure

I am sorry to hear about your insurance woes. It seems to be a trend and I think insurance companies just try whatever they can to pay for as little as they can.

I hope you start feeling better soon!

Oh, and I opted for that yummy looking blue martini

thegiantfam · December 2014

so sorry. how stressful and inconvenient! no advice, just hugs.

BookishMomma · December 2014

Ugh, what a PITA about the insurance stuff. I'm so sorry you're dealing all of this stuff at once! ((Hugs))

raelynn71109 · December 2014

That's so frustrating! Sorry you have to deal with that. ((Hugs))

MellyMel15 · December 2014

Ugh, that sounds super frustrating and annoying. I'm sorry, lady. I hate dealing with health insurance stuff-- it's the worst. Hang in there and maybe go out and get yourself a real cupcake-- you deserve it!

LizBlue · December 2014

I'm so sorry, Sending huge hugs. I've been there- it sucks, but it's for finite amount of time and will be over soon. Just keep telling yourself that. I was completely OOP, which sucked too, but again - finite amount of money, finite amount of time, you can get through it.

My RE didn't do my ER, and I actually felt better about it when i got there. The surgeon who performed it seemed like he did this a million times, in his sleep.

You got this. Hang in there friend and know that we are all here for you!

((more hugs))

p.s. Start eating a high fiber diet now if you haven't already. And start hydrating now. I blew up like a balloon after ER (slight OHSS I'm sure) and was very constipated. Stupid hormones.

rubysi · December 2014

>:D< I am sorry you are going through all of this at once. I never get to see my RE, I have seen everyone in the clinic and it gets frustrating. I think @LizBlue has some great advice. Hugs.

yellowcat10 · December 2014

((HUGS)) insurance sucks! Did you ask the RE if they had any meds they could give you? When I was running low they gave me what they had to 'hold me over'. I also had a different RE do the egg retrieval and it was fine. That is basically his job in the practice so it was probably better, and he will be the one doing the transfer (again, that is basically his role). I know it is all stressful and a lot of it is unnecessary.

megrae12 · December 2014

So many ((Hugs)) love. I am so sorry you are getting the run around about meds and coverage. That is beyond frustrating. As far as IVF stuff, you know I have zero experience, but I know you got this. I am here if you need anything, and yes, I am working on a celebration dance for ER this weekend

>:D< :P

blackbird818 · December 2014

ugh I'm sorry hun. Reading this makes me ragey for you. Big (((hugs))) sweetie.

buggirl72 · December 2014

I'm so sorry ((((hugs)))). Your RE should have let you know he was going to be out.

rmpar29 · December 2014

I'm very sorry honey! Do you know if your RE is out for an emergency situation? If it wasn't an emergnecy then I would mention it to him that I would prefer that he alert me if he won't be there for my procedures.

For the insurance side...ugh! That really sucks and I have no advice. Just many, many (((((HUGS)))))

PinkCamino · December 2014

So many (((hugs))). FX all of this gets sorted ASAP.

Km380 · December 2014

Thank you ladies! I'm sure it will all work out - I just can't see that right now. I'm sure I would also feel better if my RE had just told me yesterday. Not like I'm not there often enough!

@blackbird818 that gif made me lol thank you!

@LizBlue‌ thanks for the encouragement. High fiber huh? Any suggestions?

@yellowcat10‌ I did leave with a sample of both meds to hold me over but I still need more of one.

MrsG80inTN · December 2014

Oh friend! I'm so sorry you're going through this added stress. Can you take a little time tonight to read a book or do something for you? I know drinking is out right now, but hopefully something?!?! Thinking of you.

kittymeowbark · December 2014

Lots and lots of warm squishy hugs lady. I am sorry you have the added stress on top of IVF. HUGS!!!

ellebelle2384 · December 2014

I'm so sorry lady. I would be flipping out and an anxious mess too. Big huge hugs. I'm sorry your doctor didn't let you know he was going to be out but I will be sending lots of good vibes your way for a great retrieval and hope the meds issue gets worked out ASAP.

MrsOscarFelix · December 2014

I'm sorry your going through this! Sending ((hugs)) your way!

Menrandes · December 2014

I have no real advise, but I wanted to send **hugs** your way!

bunnybun4 · December 2014

so sorry this is adding to all of your stress!!! I am tping your insurance company right now.

big ((hugs))

Km380 · December 2014

MrsG80inTN said:
Oh friend! I'm so sorry you're going through this added stress. Can you take a little time tonight to read a book or do something for you? I know drinking is out right now, but hopefully something?!?! Thinking of you.

Does eating chocolate count? Bc that's my current activity

EIsieMae · December 2014

Huge ((hugs))!

O2girl · December 2014

Ugh! How annoying on both points! Your RE definitely should have let you know that another doc would be doing the retrieval; communication is a necessity to trust. Also, I want to TP your insurance and everyone else's because they do that shit all the time and leave customers to pay a balance they weren't expecting which in the IVF world is unacceptably in my opinion! ((((Hugs)))) lovey! Hopefully this is all just a distant memory soon!

alm288 · December 2014

Oh geez - I'm so sorry that you are dealing with so much added stress and hassles! Hope you get it all worked out quickly. FX for you this weekend!! ((((Hugs))))

ctk181 · December 2014

Ugh! So frustrating! I'm sorry! I hate hate hate dealing with all things health insurance/doctor related!

LittleMrsW · December 2014

Sending you all the ((hugs)) today!

flyoffeve · December 2014

How frustrating! (Hugs)

Km380 · December 2014

PetraStonegirl said:
I am so sorry. I had a random doc show up to do one of my IUIs before, but I was told up front it was going to happen, and she did come talk with me before getting everything ready, so I wouldn't feel pressured.

That prescription situation sucks balls. Definitely check with your REs office about the meds, but also get straight to a supervisor with the pharmacy, and straight to a patient care advocate with your insurance company.

I've got to tell you, I'm pretty sketched out by the fact your pharmacy didn't run your drugs through for coverage before getting them to you. It's industry practice not to release drugs to the patient until both the insurance and the patient have paid their share (or, on the insurance side their promise to pay a certain amount). It won't help right now, but if you have to do this again, I would try to find a specialty pharmacy that works directly with your insurance company, with no estimates. I know of a few, so PM me if you find yourself looking.

Above all, I wish you the very best result from this nightmare. (((HUGS)))

Thanks Petra, they did run it through my insurance for approval but the medial side and the pharmacy side had different %'s as to how much I was responsible for. So when I sorted my coverage with medical, apparently it doesn't show on the pharmacy side. Why they can't have their shit together I don't know especially considering it's all the same company. But I don't have much choice in where I fill my drugs with my coverage so I'm kind of stuck. I have a tracking number so I will be obsessively checking it tomorrow. The nurse said worst case scenario she will get the insurance to make an exception to allow me to get enough to get me by from a local specialty pharmacy.

In other news my nurse calmed my freak out and told me my REs wife surprised him with a trip for his bday (which explains why he didn't tell me yesterday) but he checks in everyday and will still be the one reviewing everything and calling the shots on my protocol. She gave me some background on the RE that will do the ER so I feel better about that. Not much more I can do, maybe acupuncture tomorrow will help calm me too.

Thank you everyone for all the hugs and support! :x

TashaCN · December 2014

All of that just sucks. So sorry. I hate when you try have to fight and fight and fight to get something, like insurance companies, to process your information correctly.

Many warm thoughts your way. What relaxes you??? DO that.

Km380 · December 2014

@scubadiva30‌ alcohol and exercise. Can't do either :-( But mh wfh Wednesday and Fridays and Thursday my mom is coming over for lunch. So at least I won't be alone with my own thoughts anymore, that helps.

renegadewhit · December 2014

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of that (especially at once). I hope it all gets worked out and that your substitute RE is amazing. ((BIG HUGS))

skategirl128 · December 2014

Sending you big hugs!

Nikolie93 · December 2014

I'm glad you found out the reason and there is no reason to be pissed at your regular RE! Also glad you got some background on the RE that will be taking over for this. I will be thinking of ya!

schuebja · December 2014

I'm sorry you're going through all of this. Sending big hugs your way!

TashaCN · December 2014

Km380 said:

@scubadiva30‌ alcohol and exercise. Can't do either :-( But mh wfh Wednesday and Fridays and Thursday my mom is coming over for lunch. So at least I won't be alone with my own thoughts anymore, that helps.

I'm glad you won't be alone. Get lots of hugs IRL.

stephy1221 · December 2014

How frustrating, fx for you.

nikiswimr · December 2014

((Hugs)) I don't know anything about IVF, but I would hate to switch doctors at the last minute, particularly if your RE didn't mention it. And insurance stuff truly sucks. I got a truly shocking bill this week (ER, bloodwork, trigger, etc) and not sure I even have the energy to fight with the insurance powers that be. Hope there is a simple solution for you!

rslh10 · December 2014

Ugh, KM I am so so sorry! I wish that your insurance company would get it's shit together and stop screwing you around. I also think it's weird that you don't get to see your RE for the ER. Did he have to leave for an emergency?? Wtf. I would be just as upset as you are. If the other Dr's are great, then obviously you will be ok, but still....like you said, you've been seeing yours for a year and the familiarity would be nice.

So many ((hugs)) Big squishy ones!!! I will be thinking of you all week :x :-*