D14 Loss - Heartbreaking

megbmeg · December 2014

Hi all - one of D14's sweet new babies has gone to heaven. I'm so heartbroken for this mama and her family.

I'm finding it hard to talk to any one IRL about it because they don't understand how much I care about the TB ladies and babies. I just wanted to reach out here to all the other D14 mamas who may be reeling like I am today. Big hugs to all of you, and prayers for all the angel babies in our lives.

megbmeg · December 2014

Birch113 said:
Thanks so much for starting this thread. I've really been struggling since finding out last night. My heart is broken for her, and I feel like I can't even talk with DH about it. I think one of the hardest parts is there's no way to support her, except by Bump posts. Big (((hugs))) back at you, @megbmeg.

Yes, not being able to do anything does make it extra hard. Big hugs!!

Someone mentioned (on the hodor thread I think) that we should have a Monday love fest thread tomorrow instead of a Monday b*tchfest, and perhaps instead of HDBD, we could do candle posts for this sweet angel baby.

megbmeg · December 2014

Linden25 said:
I was up a number of times last night thinking of her. I still can't believe it happened. I told DH about it but like you guys he can't fully understand. It has also activated some extreme PgAL brain in me which I'm struggling with. How will I ever sleep once LO is here?

I feel the same way - Pgal brain is in overdrive. That's DH's biggest preoccupation now - I'm so frightened. And at the same time I feel guilty for thinking about myself while our sweet d14 friend s facing this tragedy.

Big hugs to you @linden25

KMW08 · December 2014

I wanted to add, hang in there other Dec/Jan mommas. It's difficult being AL even if you've never experienced late loss and seeing loss posts on your bmb adds to the hyper-awareness we already deal with.

I had to step away a bit from my bmb in my last few weeks. All healthy births happening & all I could think was we (bmb) were due for a loss

carlsonbaby2014 · December 2014

Oh my goodness... I will admit I don't lurk much on the D14 board but my heart aches for this family. I cannot fathom. Many (((((hugs))))) mamas.

Samuelismomma · December 2014

I'm so sorry to hear this:( big hugs to her. I know words on here aren't much .:( it does make you aware and scared...

uneek1323 · December 2014

Many (((hugs))) to you ladies. Maybe consider starting a Sunshine Mission for that poor mama, if you think the culture of D14 would be open to it. Sunshine Missions aren't exclusive to the loss boards.

uneek1323 · December 2014

Birch113 said:

Many (((hugs))) to you ladies. Maybe consider starting a Sunshine Mission for that poor mama, if you think the culture of D14 would be open to it. Sunshine Missions aren't exclusive to the loss boards.
D14 is big on not crossing boundaries into IRL, but I think that would be great. Where do I find more into about this?

Check for a PM from me in a minute.

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megbmeg · December 2014

snowbigdeal said:
This is so sad, @megbmeg. We had a reg on our BMB who lost her baby at 20 weeks yesterday, and it hit me really hard, and my H could not fathom why.

Thinking of your friend and her family and all of Dec14 ladies, who I'm sure are all feeling the loss.

I'm so sorry @snowbigdeal. Hugs to you!

taberbtb · December 2014

I don't even want to begin to imagine how devastating this is. Big (((hugs))) to this mama and all of you.

Cheekers2010 · December 2014

Birch113 said:

@megbmeg‌ that's exactly how I feel selfish and scared and heartbroken for her.
I'm with you. I keep finding myself worried for my LO and then I feel so incredibly selfish. I know it's a normal reaction, but I still feel awful.

me too. I am sad and heartbroken and terrified for my LO. It's a really hard emotional mess.

Eliz77 · December 2014

My heart dropped and broke in a zillion pieces when I read this the other night. I just cannot wrap my brain around it and wish there was something to do. I'm with those on feelings of guilt for thinking of myself and my own baby, but that in no way lessens the pain we all feel for this Mama. ((HUGS)) to all.

shandorfml2 · December 2014

I was just reading her intro on the loss board. So so sad. ((hugs everyone)). This is why I tend to shy away from my BMB. However so glad that so many people are supporting her

ToriGirl2014 · December 2014

Reading that was just terrifying, especially so close to my EDD. I don't even know what to say...

longcat07 · December 2014

oh no. many T&P and hugs for the mama and her family, and for all of you too. i haven't lurked on D14 in a while, but i did start out on the TB there (EDD for my loss was 12/7). so heartbreaking. we've had a lot of premies already on jan'15 and so far they've all been healthy considering their circumstances and doing well, so lately i've sort of been holding my breath, waiting for the other shoe to drop.

more creepy internet hugs. so sad, and scary.

tigerlynx31413 · December 2014

My heart is breaking for that family and to all of your D14 ladies. Sending so many hugs to all of you and keeping that angel and her family in my prayers!

BookishMomma · December 2014

*lurking*

I am so sorry to hear this. I was, at one point, a D14 mama, too. But my loss was months ago. I cannot imagine the pain this family is feeling. I will keep them in my thoughts & prayers.

Bigboneded · December 2014

Loss is always hard, but I agree its heartbreaking to see in the BMBs at this point.... prayers and hugs for all.

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