Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
ameliaba
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Going tomorrow to confirm if our 8 wk old is still w/out a heartbeat after check up last week.
ameliaba
member
This has been the most wrenching week of my and my DH's lives. The loss
is hard to pin point and it feels so foreign. I go from functioning, to
crying at least every 2-3 hours on this vicious, tiring and cleansing
cycle. It is hard to understand how loving something so small that we
never even met is so possible. I feel more ready then ever to get
pregnant again and for that I am grateful, but now there is a new
anxiety that I did not have about not just "can I get pregnant" but can
it stick?? I am now scared for my apt. tomorrow and the news. And trying
to decide whether it is best to wait, take the pill, or do the surgery.
I would love the closure of the surgery, but problem is that our
deductible is $10,000 so I don't think the surgery is going to be
possible. As of now, physically, there no major bleeding, no cramping
whatsoever, but some spotting which I have had the whole time I was
pregnant anyhow, even at 6 and 7 weeks when there were heartbeats. So
there is still this illogical hope I am carrying for tomorrow, though I
know it is futile. What I am looking for are not horror stories, there
are plenty of those online, but stories of m/c survival, tips and
advice, esp. those who did it naturally or with the medication. The
emotional pain has been present, but I am awaiting the physical. Thanks.
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Re: Going tomorrow to confirm if our 8 wk old is still w/out a heartbeat after check up last week.
All of your feelings are pretty normal for what you are going through and it's hard to know what route to take, be it pill, natural, or a D&C. Unfortunately sometimes you don't have that choice and your Dr will tell you what it's best you go with since every situation is different.
I would recommend reading the Advice and Experience thread at the top of this board. It gives insight to the different options. You may want to wait to see what your Dr says and if they point you in one direction you can read up on that option. It may be overwhelming right now to read everything since you are not sure which one you will be going with.
Again, I am so very sorry. Please come back and update us to let us know what happened and how you're doing.
Also if you go the natural route at home, an 8 week baby is far enough along that you may become alarmed by the amt of blood and tissue you pass and end up going to the ER anyways, as a number of women here have done. That bill will be much higher than if you had a d&c.
Again, so sorry, and please know it gets easier over time. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Please keep us posted tomorrow. Sending positive vibes your way. xo