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Scary! vaginal tear- anyone else??

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  • mama2blu+newmama2blu+new member
    @RHoPA1109‌ actually I am not second guessing my course of action. I am fine with having called 911 for what seemed like a true emergency at the time, and then after time passed, realizing that I could just wait to see my midwives for what has become a non-emergency.
    PS- doulas are not medically trained to handle emergency situations like this, so me being a doula has nothing to with it.

    My question is: why does my story have to be something so negative for some people??
    This is exactly the kind of tone @SharkFarts‌ was talking about weeks ago where some of you are just so relentless in your badgering and criticisms and make people not want to share.
    This was a true and scary situation for me and I was looking for similar stories. That's it. It's unnecessary for anyone to pick apart, poke fun at, criticize or otherwise be so negative about it.
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  • mama2blu+newmama2blu+new member
    @MOtownMama‌ uh-oh! I'm shaking in ma boots over here
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  • mama2blu+newmama2blu+new member
    Getting my bloody torn up vagina checked is not something I am NOT doing. In fact, I'm going as soon as I can, which is tomorrow. I couldn't go today but my midwives know about what happened and they told me to come in tomorrow.
    As doula and a woman I would advise just that. Get it checked as soon as possible and that's what I'm doing.
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  • Ginja85Ginja85 member
    So too much alcohol + a bf who should have been in porn = 3 stitches & celibacy for a year. I wouldn't have called 911 & only went to the hospital because the BF passed out & cracked his head open.

    Basic pregnant lady rules; occasional bleeding with sex happens take a break & put on a pad if you soak that pad in an hour head to the hospital.
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  • Ginja85Ginja85 member
    @ally3242‌ I have also torn my vag during sex, wasn't trying to go into too much detail because nobody likes a broken vagina story.

    And there is no need to have the fire department inspect your vag or call 911 unless attempting to get on the show "Sex Sent Me to the ER"
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  • mama2blu+newmama2blu+new member
    @RHoPA1109‌ that makes no sense. I'm ok with my course of action and from the beginning I said was curious if something similar has happened to anyone else. Maybe it was more common than I thought it was! Being that it had never happened to me before I was really just curious about it. Then people started asking questions about what happened since I didn't fill in every single detail about it.
    Yes, I'm a pretty new poster and that's fine as well, you have to start somewhere right?
    People share personal stories all the time on this board. That's what it's for.
    If it grossed you out, move along. It's not for you and that's fine.
    It is well known that this board is known for it's sometimes snarky and overly critical women. And y'all are proud of it too. I'm not playing any cards, just calling it like it is.
    I appreciate all the stories shared, the well wishes and even the questions. But the negativity? Fucking keep it.
    I don't need it and I won't keep quiet about it either.
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  • ally3242ally3242 member
    Ginja85 said:
    @ally3242‌ I have also torn my vag during sex, wasn't trying to go into too much detail because nobody likes a broken vagina story. And there is no need to have the fire department inspect your vag or call 911 unless attempting to get on the show "Sex Sent Me to the ER"
    Gotcha. I was pretty confused because you were talking about the rule of thumb when it comes to bleeding during or after sex during pregnancy. I don't believe acquiring an open wound during sex falls under that umbrella. And the fact that you needed to get stitches because of your tear, is even more evidence that perhaps OP needed to go and seek medical attention immediately, rather than whenever her MW could fit her into the schedule this week. 
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  • hillbillywifehillbillywife member
    Did you put pressure on the tear? I'm like a walking accident on two left feet and hurt myself enough to bleed pretty regularly. I actually broke a window with my forehead one time and cut my scalp. Every time I've bled, significantly or insignificantly, first aid training (like babysitter class, nothing fancy) has told me to apply pressure to help the wound clot up. I've never called 911 for bleeding before.

    Luckily whatever you did helped get it to stop. I'm really glad your weird fireman guy didn't think he had the know how to check your lady bits.
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  • ScarletOflahertyScarletOflaherty member
    You seriously called 911 because you had vaginal bleeding? Was your car broken? That's the only reason I could think to call an ambulance for this...
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  • mama2blu+newmama2blu+new member
    @MOtownMama‌ I liked your post and said I appreciate all the stories shared
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  • ally3242ally3242 member
    snowbigdeal said:

    mama2blu+new said:
    @RHoPA1109‌ that makes no sense. I'm ok with my course of action and from the beginning I said was curious if something similar has happened to anyone else. Maybe it was more common than I thought it was! Being that it had never happened to me before I was really just curious about it. Then people started asking questions about what happened since I didn't fill in every single detail about it. Yes, I'm a pretty new poster and that's fine as well, you have to start somewhere right? People share personal stories all the time on this board. That's what it's for. If it grossed you out, move along. It's not for you and that's fine. It is well known that this board is known for it's sometimes snarky and overly critical women. And y'all are proud of it too. I'm not playing any cards, just calling it like it is. I appreciate all the stories shared, the well wishes and even the questions. But the negativity? Fucking keep it. I don't need it and I won't keep quiet about it either.
    Honestly, there wasn't really any negativity, just a whole lot of questions because, frankly, this story sounds crazy. A lot of it had to do with your presentation, and the details you included and the details you left out. Your original phrasing makes it sound like you were gushing insane amounts of blood (which I imagine you were, thus the 911 call) and then is ambiguous enough to sound like you had a fire brigade inspecting your lady bits (which they apparently were not) and then dispensing medical advice (which they were - the Fire Chief's recommendation).

    So okay, the craziest bit about fire brigade staring at your bits didn't happen, but the other parts did -- and it's not unreasonable for anyone here to be shocked by the fact that gushing vagina blood while pregnant wouldn't lead you to get immediate medical attention from someone other than a fireman. The people who you are taking issue with on their responses are finding it difficult to accept that this actually happened, because it does truly seem hard to believe that if it did happen you wouldn't react in a more immediately proactive way.

    The negativity seems to be mostly coming from you, telling people to move along or pipe down because you don't like the fact that they either doubt your story or disagree with your response (and frankly, I feel like you've put us in a place where we have to do either one or the other).

    Anywho, sorry about your vag that sucks never happened to me (that what you're looking for)?
    This about sums it up...at least for this skeptic. 
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  • kurban627kurban627 member
    Oh holy cow. The only time I have torn was during the birth of my first child. I feel bad that you're dealing with it early and hopefully it heals well before April (I'm sure it will if you didn't need stitches).
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  • kurban627kurban627 member
    snowbigdeal said:


    kurban627 said:

    Oh holy cow. The only time I have torn was during the birth of my first child. I feel bad that you're dealing with it early and hopefully it heals well before April (I'm sure it will if you didn't need stitches).

    But she doesn't know if she needs stitches yet because SHE STILL HAS NOT HAD A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL CHECK IT OUT.



    I believe stitches have to be given within a specific time frame. So even if they might have given her some I don't think they will now. If she stopped bleeding on her own, she's probably ok without them. I bled for over a month after my daughter was born from the site of my tear because the stitches popped. Ugh. I had to literally be cauterized. She'd probably know if something like this was going on. Sorry about the tmi.
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  • dana1047dana1047 member
    This needs to be an episode of "sex sent me to the ER".

    In all seriousness, I'm glad you & baby are okay. I had a similar traumatizing experience many years before I got married. This post made me think of it.
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  • redneckmomma25redneckmomma25 member
    You can't dictate how people respond. It's the internet. You take the negative with the positive and move on. Really there wasn't much negativity. There were holes in the story and you were questioned on them.

    I wouldn't want to wake my kid in the middle of the night to be checked out so I kinda get waiting a bit. I'd try and be seen sooner but it's your call.

    My fil is a volunteer firefighter. He's had pretty extensive medical training and has had EMI training. I would trust his opinion. Most emergency responders have some medical knowledge so I get trusting their opinion.

    I don't think this is mud. I would just move on and continue posting. Reply to threads maybe for a bit. But really this thread was tame.
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  • MitoRachelMitoRachel member
    I'm not sure where this thread is going, and don't have time to read all 4 pages. A lot of us have experienced something similar while vaginally delivering babies. I think my main concern would be whether or not you need stitches. Anyway, this should be a problem that your midwife is well versed in... just maybe not the way it happened.
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  • specialsn0wflakespecialsn0wflake member
    mama2blu+new said:
    @JessNally‌ were you pregnant when you were hemorrhaging? I felt like I had seconds to decide what to do and calling 911 seemed like the best option. I would never get into a car drive myself anywhere bleeding like that.

    ***TRIGGER*** 

    Yes, I was pregnant.  I was hemorrhaging because I was having a MC.  Blood was everywhere, I was soaking through pads before I could even get my pants back on, the carpet was ruined.  I called my OB's after hours support, they told me to come in ASAP so I called my mom and dropped my son off and drove to the hospital.

    Since I knew the fastest way to the hospital and my SO is directionally challenged, to say the least, I drove.  I wanted anyways because it helped me to stay calm and not wig out on the way.  I ended up needing an emergency D&C.  

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  • specialsn0wflakespecialsn0wflake member
    RHoPA1109 said:
    JessNally said:
    mama2blu+new said:
    @JessNally‌ were you pregnant when you were hemorrhaging? I felt like I had seconds to decide what to do and calling 911 seemed like the best option. I would never get into a car drive myself anywhere bleeding like that.

    ***TRIGGER*** 

    Yes, I was pregnant.  I was hemorrhaging because I was having a MC.  Blood was everywhere, I was soaking through pads before I could even get my pants back on, the carpet was ruined.  I called my OB's after hours support, they told me to come in ASAP so I called my mom and dropped my son off and drove to the hospital.

    Since I knew the fastest way to the hospital and my SO is directionally challenged, to say the least, I drove.  I wanted anyways because it helped me to stay calm and not wig out on the way.  I ended up needing an emergency D&C.  


    I'm really sorry you went through that, @JessNally‌.
    I appreciate that.  Thank you!
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  • lirpaloof77lirpaloof77 member
    mama2blu+new said:

    It was very bizarre and I'm not exaggerating any of it.
    I can SEE the tear and it's location.
    I simply was wondering if anyone else had experienced something like this since the chief said it happens a lot. And no, he did not examine me.
    It is a pretty gruesome account because, it was, well gruesome.
    If I offend anyone, my bad. Move along. I'm still waiting to hear whether someone has had a similar experience.
    Thanks to everyone with kind words!

    I cared for an ER pt with an injury like this. It needed stitches. She was not pregnant though. Ouch
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  • jc_twomamasjc_twomamas member
    Hoooowwww.

    Ooowwwwww.

    MUD or not the fact that this can happen makes me curl into the fetal position in a nice safe blanket fort. X_X
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  • lirpaloof77lirpaloof77 member
    One other thought. Our EMS guys where I live are ALWAYS trying to find reasons not to take people to the ER...even when they really need to go. It makes me insane! I bet they were thrilled to talk the OP out of going to the ER. One less transport and report.
    I too may have freaked and called 911 thinking at first something was wrong with the baby. Once the bleeding stopped and I saw it was a tear, I too probably would not have gone to the ER, only because of my ER nurse background. I get this whole story from a medical point of view. I'm sorry it happened to you @mama2blu+new‌ Good news is that you should heal fairly quickly from the increased blood supply to that area. Use a peri bottle to keep things clean until you are seen by your provider. (Not to be construed as medical advice)
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  • CliffhavenCliffhaven member
    It sounds plausible to me too (except for the having sex part!!) and I can understand freaking out and calling 911 before the bleeding stopped. It was probably hard to see where it was coming from until it slowed down.
    All I can think is holy crap what a crazy story and happy to hear it turned out way less scary than it initially appeared. Haven't read whether you called your midwives today to ask if they wanted to see you sooner than your scheduled appointment - If you are at all unsure get their opinion and um...ouch!! Sorry to hear!!
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  • marigold32marigold32 member
    edited December 2014
    Thoughts on this: that story could have been pared down quite a bit (i.e. lose the play-by-play) and still gotten the point across. OP, I think a lot of the problem here, initially anyway, stems from the TMI factor. That said, I don't agree with the MUD call. We all know (or should anyway) that there is increased blood flow to that area during pregnancy. So yeah, there probably was a lot of blood. And I can only speak for myself, but I live a good distance from the closest hospital and if I started gushing blood in the middle of the night, I would probably call 911 too. I am not to the point of viability yet, so, in the event of a miscarriage, no matter who gets to me first it's not going to save my baby. But excessive bleeding needs to be stopped, and emergency personnel are going to be better equipped to do that than many people. And if I WAS past the point of viability, an ambulance can get me to the hospital a lot more quickly than my husband, who would probably be passed out on the floor anyway. It's a snap decision. In a situation like that, sometimes you make the right call, sometimes you don't. In her case, she was able to get the bleeding under control and realize that it was not in fact an emergency. But it's not like she called because she stubbed her toe. The fire chief's remarks are weird to me, but more in a "meh" kind of way. And it would appear he wasn't totally wrong since her midwives don't seem overly concerned. 

    edit: clarity
    ETA: I think it's a lot easier to tsk tsk the 911 call when you already know how the story ended.
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  • BlergbotBlergbot member
    I can understand the 911 call. I once was just lying in bed when I started gushing blood down there (was not pregnant). I have low blood pressure and the loss of that amount of blood (probably not as much as you'd think, but it was way too much and too red to be my period--also not that time of the month) made me very dizzy and I threw up. I then called 911. Soon after I felt much better and the bleeding stopped. They did wind up taking me to the hospital--big mistake. $700 taxi ride. They did an ultrasound and a pelvic exam and couldn't tell me anything. I'm not sure why, since at my next pelvic exam I had three large uteran polyps, and the theory is that one of them must have been connected to a blood vessel and burst. Granted, I was in my early 20s, living alone, and had no idea what was happening. I also could not have driven myself to the hospital given the dizziness. I realized later that I could have taken a cab, but in the moment I didn't know what to do (neither did my parents, who I called right before calling 911). Anyway, gushing blood from the vag when you don't know what happened exactly...I can see calling 911.
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  • kamomo1kamomo1 member
    Oh wow. This made me nauseous, I think I need to lay down.

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  • JJBodenJJBoden member
    Mind blown.
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  • mnharkcommnharkcom member
    I wish I could unread that. Sorry for your pain, a little less info or a huge tmi warning would have been nice.
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  • bramagebramage member
    Just joined and this is the first thread I've read and all I have to say is WOW.
    Are you ladies serious? I can't believe the level of hateful bitchiness I just read on this post. First jumping all overthe OP because she called 911 for what you don't deem an emergency then attacking another woman for commenting on here when she's due March? Seriously? This is supposed to be a support group for expectant mothers and this how you treat posters? I'm absolutely disgusted and needless to say I will not be back.
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  • jk3610jk3610 member
    bramage said:
    Just joined and this is the first thread I've read and all I have to say is WOW. Are you ladies serious? I can't believe the level of hateful bitchiness I just read on this post. First jumping all overthe OP because she called 911 for what you don't deem an emergency then attacking another woman for commenting on here when she's due March? Seriously? This is supposed to be a support group for expectant mothers and this how you treat posters? I'm absolutely disgusted and needless to say I will not be back.
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