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Any other single moms?

jennaleigh23jennaleigh23 member
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I'm 6w5d unofficially (go for my first scan tomorrow) and was wondering if anyone else is going it alone? My pregnancy wasn't really planned or unplanned, neither my bf or I thought we could have kids after each going through rounds of fertility treatments. We always just said that if it happened, it happened, if not then we wouldn't pursue any more extreme measures.

Well I'm one week one day past my BFP and my bf has decided this isn't what he wants and now all my joy and happiness is replaced with terror and deep deep sadness. I'm obviously still overjoyed to be pregnant, I never thought I would be but I am also terrified at the thought of doing this on my own. Wondering if anyone else had a similar experience, would love to connect with other individuals in similar situations.
Me: 24 years old
2011 dx: adeno carcinoma of the cervix, cone biopsy to remove tumor
2011-2014: follow ups with gyn/onc every four months
Feb 2014: told to consider pregnancy "sooner than later"
April 2014: start process for IUI with Ottawa Fertility Clinic, HSG all clear
May 2014: blood work, all good
June 2014: IUI #1, BFP, c/p 
July 2014: IUI #2, reaction to hormone in donor sperm, essentially body rejects IUI, bfn
Nov 2014: Surprise BFP with new b/f
Dec 2014: ultrasound at 6w5d, got to see my little one's heartbeat at 120bpm
Jan 2015: 12w ultrasound, measuring well, perfect heartbeat
Feb 2015: emergency lap coly
Feb 2015: It's a boy!
EDD: July 30, 2015



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Re: Any other single moms?

  • Kbow91Kbow91 member
    I don't have experience on this but T&Ps for you that hopefully he will come around. If it helps, when I first found out, my DH was extremely terrified and didn't want it. It took a couple days, but he is back to normal and is involving himself a lot with the pregnancy. Hopefully your boyfriend will come around.

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  • MackalackMackalack member
    I don't have any experience either, but the Single Parenting board can provide a lot of support for you!  

    I'm sorry that he decided that he wasn't ready for a baby.  There is the chance that as time goes by he'll realize that he does, in fact, want to be there for both of you.  Having a child is one of the most terrifying, but rewarding, things in the world.
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  • CANTW82BMOMCANTW82BMOM member
    I'm so sorry you're going through this. My sister was with her daughter's father for three years before she got pregnant. When she got pregnant he broke up with her. She was distraught. That pregnancy brought her and I closer than ever because I wanted to support her. I went to doctors appointments and helped a lot (and still do) with my niece. That little girl is so extremely loved. She's 11 now.

    I know it's hard and you may even feel alone, but now is the time to rely on friends and family. You are blessed and you deserve to be happy during this time and if he doesn't want to participate then it truly is a loss for him.
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  • jlbaker08jlbaker08 member
    I'm a single mom on #2 now, it's tough to be a single mom but it's so much more rewarding.
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    This pretty much sums it up
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