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casey saccomano · December 2014

Hi ladies I haven't posted before life has been kinda crazy since I've been pregnant but I have seen some post.

I am due January 29th with with our first. It's a girl and daddy is so excited to have his little girl it's all he has ever wanted since we've been talking about kids.

But here is my issue I went to the doctor the other day and she told me I've had a pretty easy pregnancy. There has been a lot going on in my pregnancy that the 2 doctors I see can't figure out why.

Like;
-bleeding a lot throughout my entire pregnancy (a few times so bad I was hospitalized and or put on bed rest).
-told to stay physical activists (only work out i can do is swimming)
-been in hospital 3 times now to keep this little girl in (once was taken from an ultrasound to L&D word because I was contracting while they where viewing her because I was bleeding agin)
-told the only way to try and make it to 37 weeks is to stop working and take it easy

This little one is strong moves a lot and I was able to feel her very early in my pregnancy. But as far as it being easy I really feel if this has been an easy pregnancy this will have to be my first and last one. Is this normal for any of you? This is so not what I expected when we decided to get pregnant (which took us well over a year to do in the first place). I feel like I could deal with this if I had the normal pregnancy stuff like swollen feet/hands, morning sickness, feeling tired etc (which I do have). But this in and out of the hospital stuff I feel is a bit crazy. Idk maybe I'm just being a big baby but I do feel like easy is not the word for this pregnancy.

kellyfo14 · December 2014

I don't understand who in the world would call what you have gone through an easy pregnancy. Perhaps the doctor made that statement due to the fact that he/she has seen really really awful pregnancies but that certainly does not help you in your situation. I can understand your desire to not go through it again. Living with fear for 9 months+ is a powerful stressor. I myself am on my third pregnancy and am thankful that I have not had any bleeding of any kind. While I wouldn't necessarily call any pregnancy easy mine have been relatively uneventful. Good luck to you making it as far as you can in the pregnancy and trust your own feelings. There are always options in the future to consider if you want to have another child but no more pregnancies such as adoption.

BookitBoo · December 2014

It sounds like your doctor picked the wrong word, and you may be a little sensitive about it (I would be, too).

Relatively, any pregnancy that results in a healthy baby and mom is 'easy' in my opinion. It's easier than the alternative. But there is a huge sliding scale of 'easy breezy' and like 'shitty terrible horrible but we made it so ok.'

But no, your experience of hospitalization is not 'normal' for me, but it might be for you. Being told to stay physically active is very normal. The rest is dependent on you.

The only way to know what's normal for you would be to have another pregnancy and compare them.

I'm sorry pregnancy has been so difficult on you!

BookitBoo · December 2014

casey saccomano said:
Hi ladies I haven't posted before life has been kinda crazy since I've been pregnant but I have seen some post.

I am due January 29th with with our first. It's a girl and daddy is so excited to have his little girl it's all he has ever wanted since we've been talking about kids.

But here is my issue I went to the doctor the other day and she told me I've had a pretty easy pregnancy. There has been a lot going on in my pregnancy that the 2 doctors I see can't figure out why.

Like;
-bleeding a lot throughout my entire pregnancy (a few times so bad I was hospitalized and or put on bed rest).
-told to stay physical activists (only work out i can do is swimming)
-been in hospital 3 times now to keep this little girl in (once was taken from an ultrasound to L&D word because I was contracting while they where viewing her because I was bleeding agin)
-told the only way to try and make it to 37 weeks is to stop working and take it easy

This little one is strong moves a lot and I was able to feel her very early in my pregnancy. But as far as it being easy I really feel if this has been an easy pregnancy this will have to be my first and last one. Is this normal for any of you? This is so not what I expected when we decided to get pregnant (which took us well over a year to do in the first place). I feel like I could deal with this if I had the normal pregnancy stuff like swollen feet/hands, morning sickness, feeling tired etc (which I do have). But this in and out of the hospital stuff I feel is a bit crazy. Idk maybe I'm just being a big baby but I do feel like easy is not the word for this pregnancy.

Jellybean707 · December 2014

I think this is more an issue of perspective. Your doctor sees the worst of the worst when it comes to pregnancy. It's likely that compared to some of the crap she's seen your pregnancy is "easy" by comparison.

Now, compared to my pregnancy, I would say that you are not having an easy pregnancy. Try not to get too caught up in other's opinions of your pregnancy or labor. They are unique to you and definitely not handed out fairly. Someone will always have it worse and someone will always have it better.

BookitBoo · December 2014

I mentioned this craziness to DH and he said maybe the doctor was being attempting to be funny and failing miserably? I really hope that's the case

TXUltraRunner · December 2014

I don't understand the question, your grammar made my head hurt

babyzap20 · December 2014

@TXUltraRunner, that first sentence was a doozy. I stopped reading after that.

JoaPata · December 2014

I also don't understand the question. Are you just worried about the word "easy". She probably just misspoke. If you don't agree just tell your doctor you don't feel it is "easy". I don't know what else to say.

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