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problems with his ex

gucci89yogucci89yo member
edited December 2014 in 2nd Trimester

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  • 22roses22roses member
    Looks like you are Jealous of his Previous Relationship and Children. Maybe next time his Children come around you take your Son and leave for a little while. Give him some alone time with his "Other" Kids...
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  • TheTamedShrewTheTamedShrew member
    Gross.
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  • taahirataahira member
    You lost me after the first 6 sentences.
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  • janda426janda426 member
    What the fuck? Sounds like a relationship meant to last.
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  • mooreamanda6213mooreamanda6213 member
    gucci89yo said:

    It seems we can be soo good throughout the week. Until every other weekend his OTHER KIDS come around and we just fight like no tomorrow. The ex is always causing issues by threats and her kids going back telling lies like I hit them. When I do no such thing. And then on top of that he defends her. Sometimes not all. Just depends on which one of us he is getting along with at the time. He should be the better one he's 43 and can't even act like it. He has 4 total he claims as his. Bc not all are his. It gets so stressful t times. And its beyond frustrating. Seems every time they come he says ugly things and stuff for them to go back and tell their mom ig, bc that's what they do best. Then she wants to threaten to have us investigated. For child abuse. Bc my son and her kids fight. Like kids don't fight. Its not like we tell them to fight or something. Yet she's the one who is out at the bars every night and does drugs. Smh. We have bettered ourselves by not drinking or smoking cigarettes for a year this mogetS now. And she still at the same thing. How many of u think it's wrong for him to be defending her and not being on my side.? The kids have no fault but the lies they go back and tell her. They are innocent. But for them to be getting out of hand like this bc I'm having a baby they could careless for is just like typical kids. It was BOUGHT to my attention on eof the boys said they didn't like me And that they didn't want another sister bc she's just gonna get what she wants and this and that. Basically it's just a jealous thing w these kids. He doesn't help by not being on my side.!!! This ex of his has did a number of problems in our relationship and I've learned to let it go for the sake of our relationship. But every time I turn around , especially when his kids come around, we get into arguments. And I'm fed up with it. I love him more than u guys know but I also hate him at times. He's told me I can get out and this and that. It getS just horrible when these kids come around. Suggestions anyone.???

    Um, you should be asking a therapist this. Not internet strangers.
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    How old are you?!


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  • prettypiggyprettypiggy member
    Ok....Well, there is a lot that needs to be addressed before this baby arrives.  

    I am a firm believer in therapy.  You need to be too as well.  Unfortunately, his Ex may or not be bat shit crazy.  This would be something I would screen for before having a baby, but you unfortunately no longer have that opportunity.  In short, it is your responsibility to do everything you can to make this work for the well being of the child.  It will not be easy, and you will have to put up with the ex for the next however many years until the children come of age.  

    That said, your SO other needs to attend therapy too.  I suggest you and SO put in place structure, direct rules, consequence, and rewards for when the children are there.  This should be shared with the ex, so she knows the expectations.  Most importantly, your SO must realize you are a united front as a couple.  He should NEVER ever express disagreement with you in front of the ex or kids, but address issues in private.  Good Luck!     
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  • PrpljadePrpljade member
    waitwaitwait...I wasn't gonna say anything but I just realized, HE'S 43!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    If OP is in fact 25, and he's 43, and "can't even act like it"......

    Let me just be brutally honest and blunt. Regardless of age, you chose this person, YOU chose to have a child with this person, it's up to YOU to either suck it up and deal with it, suck it up and leave or grow up and make the necessary changes and set some boundaries. If he's defending his children, then you need to honestly just shut your face, cause kids will and should always come first, as previous posters have already said. If he's defending his ex, you've got a problem and personally I would walk, shit, I would RUN! that's a huge sign that he doesn't have any respect for YOU as his SO and isn't willing to stand by you. 

    Think about it this way, how do you want him to treat you and your child when(and yes I say when cause honestly it doesn't sound like this is a forever relationship) your kid is with him and his new girlfriend every other weekend? How would you like his "other kids" to treat YOUR kid? Maybe you should think about that? Cause honestly you just made yourself sound like another one in his line of baby mama's, and that right there, THAT is on you, no one else. 
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  • gucci89yogucci89yo member
    It's most definitely not that I don't like them. It just all started since I've become pregnant. I could careless of everyones negative feedback.!!!
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  • janda426janda426 member
    gucci89yo said:

    It's most definitely not that I don't like them. It just all started since I've become pregnant. I could careless of everyones negative feedback.!!!

    So don't ask us if you don't care about our feedback
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  • gucci89yogucci89yo member
    First of all. Not jealous and this has become more of an issue since I've been pregnant. Also, both fb pages are our old pages, So sure you aren't looking at the right FB'S and I'm grown to know better but also I'm allowed to vent like everyone else does. I don't see anyone bashing and talking ugly. But of course if any of you commenting on my stuff were so grown u sure as heck wouldn't be talking the way y'all are. Smh.! So I could careless, God knows my heart and struggle. This too shall pass. New to this and was just wanting some nice RESPECTFUL ADVICE. GUESS NONE OF U THAT COMMENTED ON HERE HAVE EITHER OR.! Talk about grow up.? Btw this is my end child I'm not New to this, nor is he.! It is what it is.!!! Thanks for NOTHING.
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  • gucci89yogucci89yo member
    I said anyone's NEGATIVE feedback. Tyvm
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  • gucci89yogucci89yo member
    Like I said. I'm new to this.
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  • gucci89yogucci89yo member
    I'd explain but not going to and I'm MORE THAN SURE this is NOT linked to my new profile. TYVM
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  • janda426janda426 member
    She keeps responding but I still can't figure out what she's trying to say. New to what?
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  • gucci89yogucci89yo member
    Since y'all tend to KNOW SO MUCH how do I delete this post to shut all u up.? And keep u from commenting.!!
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  • gucci89yogucci89yo member
    It i is what it i is.!!!
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  • gucci89yogucci89yo member
    *it is
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  • gucci89yogucci89yo member
    Ok. Well I don't have to reply then and be better.!!!
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  • janda426janda426 member
    gucci89yo said:

    It i is what it i is.!!!

    WUT
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  • mooreamanda6213mooreamanda6213 member
    gucci89yo said:

    Ok. Well I don't have to reply then and be better.!!!

    Come again? :-/
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  • AmstreagleAmstreagle member
    Her SN just makes me think...
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  • ordinary1ordinary1 member
    Her friends profile pics are just as klassy. I'm ASSuming it's not old since it's now on lockdown (unless my google needs work).
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  • WhitfryWhitfry member
    Holy illiteracy, Batman!
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