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catycate · December 2014

Omg y'all, so I have this friend who has been struggling with cancer for 4 years. I'm not super close, but our kids are the same age, so we do the same story times, birthday parties, etc. close enough so that I've been on both meal and babysitting trains for her as well as gone to and denoting to fundraiser a where she raised 18,000. She-in the 4 years I have knownher- has had breast cancer, ovarian cancer and recently brain cancer. She lied about it all. For 4 years. She shaved her head, she did something to resemble a port. So this morning, all that hit the fan and this afternoon she went to her ex husbands house and killed herself. I just can't even wrap my mind around it. First the lying for so long about something so devastating and then to feel so panicked about getting caught that suicide is a viable option. Her poor son. What a legacy. Gah. Going to be a rough night.

sleepy33 · December 2014

Wow. I feel sorry for her, she obviously had some serious issues.

deedee1017 · December 2014

Omg. How terrible for her and her family.

Also, you may want to put a warning in the thread title. This is a difficult topic.

PinkDahLia44 · December 2014

I'm sorry. It sucks to have dealt with that, and I'm so sorry for her family. Unfortunately, I wasn't surprised by the end of your story, bc I recently took care of a patient who did the same exact thing. (Minus the killing herself, as far as I know)

mancila60 · December 2014

Holy crap! Not where I thought this story was going. Her poor son to have to deal with all this. Prayers for him. And prayers for the family.

Slap8out · December 2014

So sad to hear this. Thoughts for her kids and family.

Weljadraak · December 2014

Devastating all around. How did it get out she lied?

ballygirl · December 2014

Wow. All around, wow. So sad for everyone.

catycate · December 2014

They got a weird location stamp on a text and her husband call the clinic she was supposed to be at. The clinic had never heard of her.

deedee1017 · December 2014

catycate said:
They got a weird location stamp on a text and her husband call the clinic she was supposed to be at. The clinic had never heard of her.

So her dh didnt know either??

Jalee85 · December 2014

Wow, that's so sad. She clearly had problems. Even if it wasn't cancer she was clearly troubled.

catycate · December 2014

deedee1017 said:

They got a weird location stamp on a text and her husband call the clinic she was supposed to be at. The clinic had never heard of her.
So her dh didnt know either??

No. They got divorced very abruptly about 3 months ago and I would imagine it would have come out at least in the financial part of the divorce??? But I don't know for sure.

sooner1981 · December 2014

I don't think the ex-husband is telling the truth. No one lets their wife go for breast, ovarian and cancer treatments for 3.5 years before your divorce and not go to a single doctor visit, not notice that there has not been a single doctor bill or insurance statement, not notice that there is not a single prescription bottle lying around the house, etc. especially if it was "so bad" there were full-on babysitting trains set up.

In my opinion, if he is claiming "innocence," it is only because he was tired of the grift and probably said during the divorce that he was going to blame her for everything and claim he didn't know. So she panicked. I hope I am wrong ... But honestly, if they went through a divorce, they had to disclose all their assets like months and months before the divorce was finalized. There would have been a suspicious lack of medical bills, also, her "health" would have been an issue as far as custody is concerned--unless they were both in on and it and didn't raise those issues to the judge in court.

I call total bullshit. But very sorry for the children and members of the community. Still a little weirded out that in a town where everyone was volunteering tons of support over four solid years, that no one worked in any capacity at any hospitals where she supposedly received tons of treatment and would have dropped by to say ho during her treatment, no one went to pick her up from treatment or sit with her at the hospital, worked at the pharmacy where she received her medicines, no one did so much as call her "room number" at the hospital where she was receiving treatments for three different cancers, no one delivered flowers or baskets to the hospital during a treatment, etc.

Just bizarre with a supportive community that the hoax was able to go for so long.

Ycu2013 · December 2014

sooner1981 said:
I don't think the ex-husband is telling the truth. No one lets their wife go for breast, ovarian and cancer treatments for 3.5 years before your divorce and not go to a single doctor visit, not notice that there has not been a single doctor bill or insurance statement, not notice that there is not a single prescription bottle lying around the house, etc. especially if it was "so bad" there were full-on babysitting trains set up.

In my opinion, if he is claiming "innocence," it is only because he was tired of the grift and probably said during the divorce that he was going to blame her for everything and claim he didn't know. So she panicked. I hope I am wrong ... But honestly, if they went through a divorce, they had to disclose all their assets like months and months before the divorce was finalized. There would have been a suspicious lack of medical bills, also, her "health" would have been an issue as far as custody is concerned--unless they were both in on and it and didn't raise those issues to the judge in court.

I call total bullshit. But very sorry for the children and members of the community. Still a little weirded out that in a town where everyone was volunteering tons of support over four solid years, that no one worked in any capacity at any hospitals where she supposedly received tons of treatment and would have dropped by to say ho during her treatment, no one went to pick her up from treatment or sit with her at the hospital, worked at the pharmacy where she received her medicines, no one did so much as call her "room number" at the hospital where she was receiving treatments for three different cancers, no one delivered flowers or baskets to the hospital during a treatment, etc.

Just bizarre with a supportive community that the hoax was able to go for so long.

So glad I wasn't the only one who thought this was weird and bs. I feel really bad for her Son and Family.

finnybooboo · December 2014

Wow, she obviously had many issues. So sorry for her family and son.

catycate · December 2014

I think it's weird it hasn't hit the news too. I'm as sure as I could be about it, but it is definitely third hand information. I can't imagine the person who told me would lie but as this weird case proves anything is possible. And @sooner1981‌ I think it's pretty crazy too. Apparently she insisted things be sent to her home never the hospital. And Her husband told me himself at a group gathering that he never went to treatment with her. I can't cannot wrap my mind around the magnitude of her lies.

sooner1981 · December 2014

catycate said:
I think it's weird it hasn't hit the news too. I'm as sure as I could be about it, but it is definitely third hand information. I can't imagine the person who told me would lie but as this weird case proves anything is possible. And @sooner1981‌ I think it's pretty crazy too. Apparently she insisted things be sent to her home never the hospital. And Her husband told me himself at a group gathering that he never went to treatment with her. I can't cannot wrap my mind around the magnitude of her lies.

Husband was in on it. I don't believe his "story" that he was kept in the dark for over four years, including a divorce. To me, it is sickening that he is playing the victim and raising their son to believe his mom was evil and he had nothing to do with it...gross!!

dovetail223 · December 2014

I agree with pp that the husband was in on it. My BF passed away from Breast cancer that metastasized and having taken her to numerous radiation and chemo treatments, there is no way he didn't know. Those treatments make you really sick. Too sick to drive yourself home from the treatment center. Plus there are other physical symptoms..like your nail beds get these lines in them from chemo. Your hairs falls out all over your body, not just your head. I'm sorry that woman killed herself, but I don't feel sorry for her or the husband. Their poor child though. He's the real victim. Everyone else can replace their money. But he lost his mom and probably his dad after it comes out that the dad knew. :-(

CateOfChicago · December 2014

Thank god she didn't do anything to her kid like some other crazies.

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