Children in delivery room

sueellencabral · December 2014

I was wondering if any of you ladies are going to have your child/children in the delivery room when the time comes. I'm not going to do so but I am curious about this, and would love to hear about your experience if you have done so.

MaineMama · December 2014

You need to find out your hospitals policy first. Many do not allow for persons under a certain age in the delivery room.

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CandEChicago · December 2014

sueellencabral said:

I was wondering if any of you ladies are going to have your child/children in the delivery room when the time comes. I'm not going to do so but I am curious about this, and would love to hear about your experience if you have done so.

@sueellencabral - If you aren't going to do have your kids in the delivery room and aren't going to change your plans based open members responses... then what is the point of soliciting members for their plans and experiences?

I see that you have posted here in the past but are still relatively new here... so I am trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, but I hope can also see why I am slightly confused by your intent.

drpayne · December 2014

My answer is absolutely not, even if allowed. I don't get wanting the distraction, or possibly upsetting a little one because I'm in pain. PP mentioned an 18 year old and to me that is totally different.

allfalldown14 · December 2014

My 6 and 4 year old came in to see me after my c-section(I had it at 1pm and they came at 7pm) and I regret them even seeing me so close AFTER having birth much less during. I couldn't stop crying because I was in so much pain along with all the emotions of giving birth. Both of my girls were very upset to see me hurting and crying. I couldn't even talk to them because I just couldn't stop crying. The next night was SO much better and I hope they're not scarred for life.

I realize since I had a c-section it is different, but either way my answer would be no unless your child is much older.

NerdyNurse · December 2014

I've seen so many young children who look horrified at deliveries, they are probably scared for life!! I think 12 and above is probably ok but really it depends on the child.

At my work we allow as many people as you want at your delivery as long as there is a clear path to the patient.

sueellencabral · December 2014

@CandEChicago‌ I am just curious, don't mean to offend anybody. I've been in the hospital a couple of days now and I've seen children coming in to the delivery room. I was just wondering what the experience is like, I wouldn't do it because my children are young and I think they would be very frightened at the sight of all the bodily fluids and seeing me in pain.

@slaps that is just wonderful! I can imagine it creates stronger bonds when you involve older children.

sueellencabral · December 2014

@CandEChicago‌ I am just curious, don't mean to offend anybody. I've been in the hospital a couple of days now and I've seen children coming in to the delivery room. I was just wondering what the experience is like, I wouldn't do it because my children are young and I think they would be very frightened at the sight of all the bodily fluids and seeing me in pain.

@slaps that is just wonderful! I can imagine it creates stronger bonds when you involve older children.

amedbery · December 2014

I wish I could not be in the room - much less innocent children.

Disneygeek77 · December 2014

When I was 9 I watched my sister being born. My brother 7 and sister 6 were there as as well.

I remember wishing I wasn't there. I didn't like seeing my mom in pain as well as all spread eagle like that. I think my brother just hid in a corner somewhere. It probably would have been better if they let us sleep and woke us up when my sister was born.

brownmouse · December 2014

My daughter is very sensitive, so I cannot imagine having her in the room, simply because she would be concerned for me being in pain, and that would be a major distraction for me. But I can see an older and/or less sensitive child... I think it really depends. It also depends how you birth. Some are very loud, and it's a traumatic experience, and for some, it's rather peaceful and quiet.

That said, I know many people who HAVE had children at their subsequent births and had it work out very well, so to each their own. DD knows all about how birth happens, and we have actually watched birth videos with her, so I wouldn't have a problem with her seeing me give birth aside from her sensitivity to me hurting. It's healthy for kids to know about babies and birth.

brownmouse · December 2014

Though, at the same time, with the possibility of something going wrong, I would be concerned about a child being afraid if there was an emergency, so there is that too.

marriedinaugust · December 2014

If I go into labor before Saturday night my 4.5 year old son will be joining is at the birth center. He can be in the room with us if he chooses or in the waiting room instead. He has been with us at every appt and we have spoken about what is going to happen. We explained that if he is with us that I will be helping the baby come out and Daddy will be helping me. DS said, "then I will help daddy." If it is too much for him to handle and for some reason he is not ok in the waiting room alone (it is literally across the hall from my room) then my husband will have to tend to him while I labor. It isn't ideal but it is the only option we have until family gets here to help out on Saturday.

byrne15 · December 2014

I had a scheduled C-section with ds#2 and will this time around as well. The hospital I deliver at has a viewing room into the OR to watch C-sections. ds#1 watched with my mom and ds#1 and ds#2 will be there for this one as well.

PDXLaurenS · December 2014

A friend had her second baby this year and her 3.5 yr old was in the room. She was pretty freaked out by her mom hurting and that was with an easy labor. They showed her videos online ahead of time but it was different live with her own mom doing it. I think they kind of regret including her.

LaxMOM44 · December 2014

My daughter has boundary issues when it comes to my physical space. So no.

Shortstack06 · December 2014

I don't even want to be in there, let a lone allowing a smaller child.

etruelove · December 2014

I was at the birth of my brothers when I was 3 and 6. Personally I think I was very scared and it has made me quite anxious for life re childbirth. I would not do it but many do so whatever floats your boat!

Cristin343 · December 2014

I'm with you... If I could avoid being in the room I would. But that's not an option! So, husband and I are going to put on our best faces and pretend that we are brave and not squeamish. Hopefully acting brave is the same as being brave?!

nopegoat · December 2014

My oldest (2yrs old then) was in the room when my second was born. MIL bailed on us and everything happened so fast we didn't have much of a choice. It definitely wasn't ideal and I am pretty thankful he wasn't old enough to really remember anything.

desertsun · December 2014

I think it is fine to have your kid(s) come visit in the early stages. It's not like you're pushing and bleeding the whole time. Labor can be quite a long process.

Having a child there the entire time, including pushing? No.

But I don't think a short visit at an appropriate point in the process is weird at all.

kirstey728 · December 2014

I was 13 when I saw my second niece born and it traumatized me.

I would not want a child in the delivery room with me... especially considering I had a basic understanding of the whole birthing process from sex ed...

but to this day it makes me shutter....

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