Intro after a LONG time away...

MrsEzStar · December 2014

My husband and I started actively TTC in 2008, after an oops pregnancy followed by a miscarriage. After several more miscarriages, we were referred to a RE who assisted us with meds and IUI, and in 2010, we got pregnant with triplets boys. At my 20 week appointment, I was dilated. (I don't remember how dilated.) When they tried to give me an emergency cerclage, somehow the membranes got ruptured. I was in the hospital for 2 & 1/2 weeks, when an infection set in and caused me to go into full labor. The hospital I was at would not assist babies born before 24 weeks and my babies didn't make it. Three months later, we were ready to try again and when back to RE, and with meds and IUI, got pregnant again, this time with a single baby boy. I gave birth to him exactly one year and a day after the triplets. When he turned two and I was no longer nursing, we started trying again on our own for another. More miscarriages. So we went back again to the RE and said this was it. One last try. We were happy with our one living son and babies in heaven. We didn't want to spend our whole lives TTC. So we did med and IUI again. We knew the risks, but you know how it is! You never think it is going to happen to you. Especially twice! Well, it did. I am now 8 weeks pregnant with Quadruplets. All fraternal. The doctor said I only had two good eggs, she isn't sure how the others were fertilized because they were too small. I won't reduce, even though our RE really wants us, too. And boy the lecture she gave me yesterday was hard to sit through. She pretty much said they would die or be physically and mentally disabled their whole life, given my history. And I am more scared than I was with the triplets because I have ACTUAL experience now as a mother with a healthy single baby. I know it's going to be the hardest thing I ever do. And the risk is there, that I might lose them. But I am trusting in God and hoping that with preventive measures and bedrest that I didn't have the last time, I can cook these babies till a healthy viable age. If you have any support to offer, I'll take it.

MrsEzStar · December 2014

AnotherDreamer said:
No advice or experience, but sending your positive thoughts and wishing you the best. Hoping that the babies can stay in as long as possible, and that all goes well.

Thanks. I appreciate it!

zazu13 · December 2014

Best to all of you! I cannot even imagine what you have already endured and to face this difficult road again. I would not choose to reduce either. I'm sorry your doctor isn't supportive of your choice. I pray these babies are healthy and stay in as long as possible!

daisy19782011 · December 2014

I can just a tad relate to your situation as I lost a baby at 20 weeks and went on to have a healthy although very high risk (momo twin) pregnancy. I think you are amazing and strong and I can completely understand not reducing. Although some may not agree, I would do the same thing. I wish you all the luck and many prayers and hope your happy ever after is not far away. My pregnancy could have gone either way as well and I was told several times not to get my hopes up and it usually doesn't work out, so I can imagine your fears. Please keep us updated, as I know we will all be thinking of you!

PGwithNo3 · December 2014

Do you have Dr Luke's Twin/Trips/Quad book? Do you have a hospital that you can use that is better for early babies? I wish you the best of luck. Tons of T&P for you and your babies.

Rynleigh · December 2014

Tagging @Courtneyw04

teedaalee · December 2014

You have gone through so much in the past few years. I can’t imagine going through that. I will be in prayer with you as you carry these precious ones! Hang in there momma!

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MrsP419 · December 2014

Congratulations! You have my prayers.

MKateG · December 2014

No advice, I understand your decision...I would not be able to reduce either. But just wanted to say, I pray that God will watch over and take care of you and your precious LO's. ((Hugs))

ksgsmu · December 2014

I am so sorry for your loss but congratulations on your pregnancy... You are a very strong woman! I admire your strength. I will be keeping you in my prayers! I follow this story that has been popular online lately of the Gardner Quad pregnancy which is highly interesting if you are interested just google it as they have been in the news a lot lately.

MrsEzStar · December 2014

Thank you all for the outpouring of support and prayers! I will have to get Dr. Luke's book again. I am pretty sure I had it before, but I think I gave it to a friend that was having twins. I have followed the Gardner story a little bit and will continue to do so.

Courtneyw04 · December 2014

Congrats! I conceived my quads with two good eggs and two eggs that were not supposed to take, and they did! The anxiety you are feeling is completely normal, i'm sure you are still in shock at this point. I delivered my four at 25 weeks but a lot of moms in the quad support group i'm in make it to 30+ weeks. Shoot me an email and we will talk more :-)

morrkim · December 2014

Congrats! I wouldn't be able to reduce either. I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly.

mrs.peeps · December 2014

Congrats! I became pregnant with my second set of twins when my first set was only 15 months old. I freaked out! I was so worried about everything--how would I manage 4 kids under 2? how would we afford them? etc. I was crazy worried and drove my dh crazy with my "how will we....?" questions. Long story short, life IS crazy but it is just fine and now I can't imagine life without the second set!

Everything has a way of working out and you will find a way to make it work. Congratulations and what a blessing you have!! I wish you a healthy and happy pregnancy.

Bigboneded · December 2014

Congrats on your pregnancy! I'm sorry for your losses. I'm sorry your RE seems determined to push selective reduction...
you and your family are in my prayers.

My only other experience was a loss at 17 weeks of a T21 little girl. We had determined not to terminate for any reason, and when I saw the MFMand explained this, he was super supportive and had hopeful stats for us. So hopefully when you graduate the pressure to comply with SR will cease also.

I feel very strongly that if I have made an informed decision that my doctor does not agree with, it is not their place to promote their agenda... I might consider a formal complaint with the state medical board...

also I hope you have a hospital choice for more assertive ante partum treatment this time! Hopefully a closer eye on your cervix, or a cerclage planned earlier will help prevent similar complications. God bless and keep you and your family safe and healthy!

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