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Special hugs for December ladies

mflowers929mflowers929 member
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Hey ya'll. I hope this is okay. I know that there's someone who usually does special hugs, but I'm a mother hen and since taking over the December check in I feel very protective of my ladies. It's been a rough few weeks, with a lot of graduations and, of course, the holidays. So I just wanted to offer special hugs to all those ladies who have had a loss in December, and especially to those who participate in the December check in. Make sure you're good to yourself this month and take the time you need to protect your heart.

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Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
F born June 2018
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
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  • MSU_Girl1202MSU_Girl1202 member
    Thank you for posting this lady!
    Big ((hugs)) to everyone.
    Just had a complete meltdown on the phone with my mom because she couldn't understand why I'm sad today and her reply was "you just have to look forward". ughhh I hate feeling like this and I hate being angry at my mom for not 'getting it'. :-/
    Married 07/2006, TTC since 2010
    08/2011: Clomid 50mg, IUI --> BFN  ,
    10/2011: Clomid 100mg, IUI --> BFN
    04/13: Clomid, IUI BFP --> MC at 6w1d
    05/13: Femara 2.5mg, IUI --> BFN  , 08/13: Femara 2.5mg --> BFN
    03/14: Femara 5mg, IUI --> 1 follicle @ 27d --> BFP! EDD 12/02/14--> blighted ovum, missed MC 6w6d --> D&C
    4/23: D&C...starting over again, with a little part of my heart broken off
    5/31: Femara 7.5mg --> cancelled cycle, no follies
    7/14: Femara 5mg + brevelle + menopur + IUI --> converted to IVF, ER 7/28 --> ET cancelled due to severe OHSS.
    9/20/14:  Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP--> EDD 6/6/15 --> MC at 5w3d      
    10/16/14: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFN
    2/6/15: Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP --> MC at 5w4d
    3/20/16: PGS-tested Frozen Embryo Transfer --> BFP, Living Child born 12/1/15
    6/6/17: Fresh IVF Cycle --> Severe OHSS, 5 PGS-tested embryos frozen
    2/23/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
    3/30/18: Cancelled cycle due to lining 4.2mm
    6/21/18: PGS-tested FET --> BFN
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  • mflowers929mflowers929 member
    You're welcome. I hope you're doing okay today. I wish I could just shake people who offer platitudes.
    Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
    F born June 2018
    W born September 2020
    #3 due November 2022
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  • BookishMommaBookishMomma member
    Thank s for this. I'm not a part of the December check-in, even though I had a December EDD, because I just have too many damn EDDs to be able to keep up with all the monthly check-ins. But that doesn't mean I'm not thinking of all my fellow December ladies. I agree that the holidays + EDD is a double whammy that calls for lots of drinks.
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    DX: I'm a Recurrent Loser
    Me (35) + DH (37) - Married Sept. 2007
    BFP #1 - DS born 7/11/11
    BFP#2 11/13/13 - EDD 7/29/14 - M/C at 5w3d
    BFP #3 12/28/13 - EDD 9/7/14 - M/C at 4w6d
    BFP#4 3/27/14 -  EDD 12/5/14 - Girl lost to 45X at 8w6d - D&C 
    BFP#5 10/15/14 - EDD 6/30/15 - M/C at 7w2d
    BFP #6 1/5/15 - EDD 9.16.14 [CLICKY for progress]
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  • mflowers929mflowers929 member
    You're welcome sweetie. You doing okay?
    Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
    F born June 2018
    W born September 2020
    #3 due November 2022
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  • BookishMommaBookishMomma member
    mflowers929 said:
    You're welcome sweetie. You doing okay?
    Relatively, yes. I go up and down within any given day. Work is a good distraction. I'm also trying to make lots of plans with friends to keep me busy between now and the holidays.
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    DX: I'm a Recurrent Loser
    Me (35) + DH (37) - Married Sept. 2007
    BFP #1 - DS born 7/11/11
    BFP#2 11/13/13 - EDD 7/29/14 - M/C at 5w3d
    BFP #3 12/28/13 - EDD 9/7/14 - M/C at 4w6d
    BFP#4 3/27/14 -  EDD 12/5/14 - Girl lost to 45X at 8w6d - D&C 
    BFP#5 10/15/14 - EDD 6/30/15 - M/C at 7w2d
    BFP #6 1/5/15 - EDD 9.16.14 [CLICKY for progress]
    In search of a image


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  • BookishMommaBookishMomma member
    MSU_Girl1202 said:
    Thank you for posting this lady!
    Big ((hugs)) to everyone.
    Just had a complete meltdown on the phone with my mom because she couldn't understand why I'm sad today and her reply was "you just have to look forward". ughhh I hate feeling like this and I hate being angry at my mom for not 'getting it'. :-/
    (((Hugs))) @msu_girl1202 My mom likes to say lots of unhelpful stuff like that, too. I know she's trying to be positive, but UGH.
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    DX: I'm a Recurrent Loser
    Me (35) + DH (37) - Married Sept. 2007
    BFP #1 - DS born 7/11/11
    BFP#2 11/13/13 - EDD 7/29/14 - M/C at 5w3d
    BFP #3 12/28/13 - EDD 9/7/14 - M/C at 4w6d
    BFP#4 3/27/14 -  EDD 12/5/14 - Girl lost to 45X at 8w6d - D&C 
    BFP#5 10/15/14 - EDD 6/30/15 - M/C at 7w2d
    BFP #6 1/5/15 - EDD 9.16.14 [CLICKY for progress]
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  • eliidaeliida member
    Big (((HUGS))) ladies! Thinking of you all.
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  • mflowers929mflowers929 member
    BookishMomma said:


    mflowers929 said:

    You're welcome sweetie. You doing okay?

    Relatively, yes. I go up and down within any given day. Work is a good distraction. I'm also trying to make lots of plans with friends to keep me busy between now and the holidays.

    I agree with all of this. Just today and within the span of half an hour I went from laughing hysterically to crying. I sometimes feel like I'm forcing myself to look happy so people will stop asking me what's wrong.
    Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
    F born June 2018
    W born September 2020
    #3 due November 2022
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  • rslh10rslh10 member
    So many hugs to all of you December Ladies.
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    Hubs & I -29 • Met 5/18/04 • Married 5/8/10
    BFP #1 DS 2/7/11 (Born @ 34 wks via ECS due to Pre-e) TTC #2 since Aug '13
    DX Low AMH (.58) March '14 • FSH-7.5 • E2-35.5 (Nov '14)
    SA- Great numbers • SIS- Clear (Nov '14)
     Cycle 1- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-BFP • EDD 1/12/15 
    Ectopic @ 5w6d • Methotrexate Shot 5/18/14
    Cycle 2,3,4- Clomid CD3-7 & Trigger-- BFN
    Cycle 5- Letrozole CD3-7 & Trigger BFFN
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  • O2girlO2girl member
    MSU_Girl1202 said:

    Thank you for posting this lady!
    Big ((hugs)) to everyone.
    Just had a complete meltdown on the phone with my mom because she couldn't understand why I'm sad today and her reply was "you just have to look forward". ughhh I hate feeling like this and I hate being angry at my mom for not 'getting it'. :-/

    ((((Hugs))))). I haven't spoken to my mom since my MC for this very reason. Sometimes even mothers don't know how much their daughters hurt.
    Me: 38
    DX:  Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant

    DH: 34
    MFI due to Testicular Cancer

    Married March 2012 <3
    IVF w/ICSI #1
    10 little polar bears
    FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN :(
    FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
    Beta 1= 276
    Beta 2= 662
    4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
    5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
    5/3/14 ~ D&C
    FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
    October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
    Fur Children:  Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y



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    Animals Interacting with Snow

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  • O2girlO2girl member
    @mflowers929‌ thanks lady! Xo
    Me: 38
    DX:  Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant

    DH: 34
    MFI due to Testicular Cancer

    Married March 2012 <3
    IVF w/ICSI #1
    10 little polar bears
    FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN :(
    FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
    Beta 1= 276
    Beta 2= 662
    4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
    5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
    5/3/14 ~ D&C
    FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
    October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
    Fur Children:  Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y



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    January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL
    Animals Interacting with Snow

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  • O2girlO2girl member
    BookishMomma said:

    Thank s for this. I'm not a part of the December check-in, even though I had a December EDD, because I just have too many damn EDDs to be able to keep up with all the monthly check-ins. But that doesn't mean I'm not thinking of all my fellow December ladies. I agree that the holidays + EDD is a double whammy that calls for lots of drinks.

    (((((Hugs)))))) friend! Xo
    Me: 38
    DX:  Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant

    DH: 34
    MFI due to Testicular Cancer

    Married March 2012 <3
    IVF w/ICSI #1
    10 little polar bears
    FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN :(
    FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
    Beta 1= 276
    Beta 2= 662
    4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
    5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
    5/3/14 ~ D&C
    FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
    October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
    Fur Children:  Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y



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    January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL
    Animals Interacting with Snow

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  • schuebjaschuebja member
    Lots of hugs to all of you ladies!
    Together since April 2004.  Married since June 19th, 2010.
     BFP #1: January 31st 2012: CP. 
     BFP #2: June 1st 2012, Due:2/8/13. Avery was born via unplanned c section on 2/13/13. 
     BFP #3: Sept. 25th, 2014. Due: 6/5/15.  MMC on 10/23/14. Confirmed complete molar pregnancy per D&C 10/29/14, 
    HCG officially negative 12/10/14.  Benched until June 2015.
                                                        
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  • Km380Km380 member
    Lots of (((hugs))) thinking of all you December ladies >:D<

    PgAL welcome


    Married 6/11/2011

    Me & Hubby: 34

    TTC journey started 12/2012

    BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks

    BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)

    Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.

    Also have hypothyroidism

    Started TTC again 12/2013

     

    IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN

    IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN

    Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.

    http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/502498

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  • ellebelle2384ellebelle2384 member
    Lots of hugs for all the December ladies.  Thinking of you all.
    Me: 31     DH: 33
    Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
    BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
    BFP#2: 5/3/11 - EDD 1/9/12 - DD Born 1/6/12
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    TTC #2 since 12/13
    BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
    BFP#4: MC 5/6/14 at 4w4d - EDD 1/9/15
    BFP#5: MMC discovered 8/4/14 at 9w1d - D&C 8/5/14 - Baby Boy with Trisomy 16 (maternal origin) - EDD 3/8/15
    BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
    IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
    IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
    PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
    FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
    Natural FET 11/4/15 = BFP!
    Beta 9dp5dt = 92

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  • TowerClimbersWifeTowerClimbersWife member
    sending all the (((hugs))) to all you ladies.

    Remember, grieve, celebrate and heal in any way that feels right for you!
    Where there is love, there is life.
    -Mahatma Gandhi-

    !*All Welcome**!

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    Me 28  The Tower Climber 27
    NTNP Since January 2014
    BFP #1- Nov 10, 2014 EDD July 19, 2015 MC Nov 20, 2014 (5wk 4d)
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  • rmpar29rmpar29 member
    So many ((((HUGS)))) December ladies!
    TTC #3 since 8/2012 image
    DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS     6/2010
     BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
    BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
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  • Nikolie93Nikolie93 member
    I missed this yesterday but wanted to say thanks for posting and thanks for all the hugs for us December ladies! 

    *hugs* back to those that need them. 
    I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 



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  • flyoffeveflyoffeve member
    Big (Hugs)

    Me: 31 DH: 36
    Dated Since ‘02, Married in ‘06
    BFP#1 05/16/06, EDD01/16/07, MC 06/12/06 at 8 weeks
    BFP #2 08/14/14, EDD 04/22/15, MC 09/17/14 at 9 weeks

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  • skategirl128skategirl128 member
    Big hugs ladies! Be kind to yourselves this month!
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  • meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
    So many (((hugs))) ladies.  Be kind to yourselves.

    @mflowers929 - I don't think you ever have to feel like offering extra hugs and support is overstepping.  I think as a check in leader it shows you genuinely care.  Good job.
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    AMA 35 :  DH 33
    BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
    Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

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  • mflowers929mflowers929 member
    Thank you @meredithcarole =)
    Momma to 3 angels and two amazing children
    F born June 2018
    W born September 2020
    #3 due November 2022
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  • EIsieMaeEIsieMae member
    Huge ((hugs)) ladies.
    BFP #1: 5-14-2010, DD born 1-22-2011
    BFP #2: 4-20-2012, Natural MC 5-1-2012
    BFP #3: 7-19-2012, DS born 3-27-2013
    BFP #4: 9-13-2014, MMC discovered 10-27-14 at 10w, d&c on 11-6-14 

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  • daydreamer3451daydreamer3451 member

    I may not be a part of the December check in (Mine happened last week during Thanksgiving)...but I feel as if the holidays are going to be an extremely tough time this year...My husband and I were planning on telling our families at Christmas...does anyone have any advice on how to get through the holidays when you are feeling so sad????


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  • Nikolie93Nikolie93 member
    daydreamer3451 said:

    I may not be a part of the December check in (Mine happened last week during Thanksgiving)...but I feel as if the holidays are going to be an extremely tough time this year...My husband and I were planning on telling our families at Christmas...does anyone have any advice on how to get through the holidays when you are feeling so sad????


    @daydreamer3451 Alcohol. 

    Ok, that may not  be the healthiest way :) I really don't know what to say here though. You can't just stop sadness, it just happens. The way I handle it is to make sure I have time for myself when I need it but surround myself with happy friends and family members in hopes of not getting too sad. I make sure I try to surround myself with people that understand and I talk about it. Holding it in never really works well for me. 

    I know it sounds silly but another thing that works for me is focusing on the positive in my life. Each morning I wake up I may jot a few things down that I can be thankful for and maybe add some more before I go to bed. Sometimes focusing on the good things can sometimes put the bad in the back of your mind for a bit. 

    Good luck *hug*
    I am not sure how to say this without getting a "solicitation" warning so I guess I just say that I am not longer active on THIS site. 



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  • MrsBPhotographerMrsBPhotographer member
    Love and hugs, ladies! 
    Me: 27 My Love: 29
    Married Since: 4/2012

    TTC Since: 5/2014
    BFP: 11/5/15   MC: 11/26/2014


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  • raelynn71109raelynn71109 member
    ((Hugs)) ladies!

    Me: 34; DH: 38; SD: 9
    TTC #1 since November 2013

    BFP #1: 2/4/14--EDD 10/14/14--CP 2/8/14

    BFP #2: 3/1/14--EDD 11/15/14--MMC at 12w6d (baby stopped developing at 11w4d)
    D&C 5/13/14; Retained Tissue Found: Cytotec 5/30/14; 2nd D&C 6/20/14

    BFP #3: 12/13/14--EDD 8/27/15--MMC at 7 weeks (no fetal pole and measuring 1 1/2 weeks behind)--Cytotec 1/9/15

    January 2015: Off to RE for RPL testing

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