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bumpuser10331514 · December 2014

Holidays are times for love, warmth, and making memories - unless you have a SO. In which case, you have a lot to say in order to make it to Christmas (or whatever your holiday of choice is). Which makes me wonder why I don't hear more venting about in-laws coming for Hanukkah.

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2chatter · December 2014

We had plans to go to a historic dance hall out of town to see Jerry Jeff Walker with college friends of mine in a couple of weeks. Awesome hotel on the river, no kids. For the first time in more than three years DH and I were going to have a night to ourselves out of town.

Instead, DH will be in NY for work and he had already told his parents we were not going, so they made other plans so I cannot even get a break while they babysit or go alone.

He also worked the day before Thanksgiving, knowing I could not take off, and DS had no school. Oh, and I was hosting 21 people, only one of whom was my mom - the rest were DH's side of the family.

I am just over it. I get no breaks.

*sparky* · December 2014

Here is my SOS. DH is just like his parents in not taking care of himself and never going to the doctor. He has some weird thing going on with his skin and when it first popped up I told him to get to the dermatologist and not procrastinate (which he always does). So he gets all defensive and says "I'm not going to blow it off. If it's not gone in a couple of days I'll call the doctor."

So I am determined not to intervene or make an appt for him because he was so pissy about it and adamant he would take care of it. It has now been three weeks. He is not miraculously better (surprise, surprise) and this morning he asks me to take a look at it for him again. I am not a f*cking doctor, I have no idea what it is, and if you have me look at it you're just going to end up bitching at me again for telling you to go to the doctor. SMH.

2chatter · December 2014

Can I add to mine? Now DH won't be home tomorrow night. I have to move an early call on Friday and figure out how to pick DD up from camp at 1:30 myself now - I cannot communicate with her to tell her to stay in after care and did not make those arrangements (and she desperately wants to come home). I am presenting on a call at the pick up time. He also moved another trip and now I cannot attend our neighborhood ladies tour of homes. Seriously over it. He gets to do what he wants/needs and I get to do everything for everyone else and nothing for me. Including work.

Slb22 · December 2014

@2chatter what is a ladies tour of homes?

Mine is minor, but annoying. DH went in my purse to get advil the other day. Told me he was doing it, instead of walking upstairs to get advil. Great, no problem. I get off an annoying, way too long conference call this morning with a headache, head to the purse to get advil, the bottle is EMPTY. Who does that?!

2chatter · December 2014

@slb22 - our neighborhood women's group has a holiday tour of houses in the neighborhood. A little drinking and nibbling and socializing. I WFH full time and this has been on the calendar since July - I look forward to actually seeing other grown-ups and am super pissed I will miss out on this (sitters not available, of course, because EVERYONE is going to this and already booked them; I didn't because DH was FOR SURE here that week). I miss most events like this due to kids sports - and this one didn't conflict as it is between seasons.

Virgo17 · December 2014

@LibraryChica - she is two weeks old, all bets are off. If you are getting any sleep, even with a child attached to you, you are ahead of the game.

2chatter · December 2014

@librarychica I wish. DS goes to bed at 7:00 and messing with that on a school night has been a mess. I am about to post separately about that....

chloebeth930 · December 2014

H (<yes, that is right no Dear for him) bitches more than anyone I know about lack of sleep.

Last night DD 2.5 wet the bed. It was the first time doing it and she was hysterical. He was so annoyed that he was tired and we couldn't get her back to sleep. I finally didn't want to deal with 2 children throwing a fit so I took her into the guest room and we "slept" together the rest of the night. Between her wanting to talk to me, play with the dog, hide under the cover, I probably got around 3 hours total sleep. H threw a huge fit when I woke him up with morning after his blissfull 7 hours of uninterupted sleep and has been complaining all day about being tired.

I want to throat punch him.

bumpuser10331514 · December 2014

I get up with DD exclusively b/c the H is such a jerk about it. I got up with her at 1am to give her a bottle and that's normally all she needs (although she's got a reputation for getting up multiple times a night based on the first 7 1/2 months of her life). But she woke up again at 4am while I was getting ready for work. The H, who has been asleep since 9pm, starts complaining that she is the worst baby, blah blah blah, dropping F-bombs like a strung-out prostitute - which wakes up DS who also then immediately starts his parade of F-bombs. And, of course, my DH is still blaming the kids at DC for teaching DS how to swear. Are you kidding me?

Virgo17 · December 2014

DH calls me this morning while I'm in the whirlwind of getting ready and dealing with the kids to tell me the balance for the cell phone bill. I act short with him and he gets all pissy that he doesn't have my undivided attention. This is the same bill that I have been asking him the balance of for the past two days. I just want to know how much it is so I can update the budget for the month, send me an f-ing email!

I snapped at at him and said "You get up, get dressed, and walk out the door...I DON'T GET TO DO THAT!" This was after I cleaned up the house last night while he worked late and did the dishes early this morning. He also had the nerve to walk in the door just after bedtime and say "You didn't have a chance to make anything in the 3 hours since you've been home?". 1. I didn't get home on time because traffic was a b@tch and I had to stop for gas 2. I had to get the kids bathed and fed 3. The one with an ear infection requested three different meals before she ate, which I conceded to since she doesn't feel good. So when you walked in the door and I had sat down with the sick DD4 after getting the younger two to bed because she wanted mommy to snuggle with her and you comment on the lack of dinner, F U!!

Man that felt good! It's been such a crappy week...

Charlotte51 · December 2014

I'm a day late but I'm getting on the bandwagon...

Today my boss is in town from London (which only happens a few times a year) + tonight is our office holiday party (which I coordinate) so I'm literally running around like a mad woman from 7a till midnight.

So when LO was having a brutal night and was awake from 1:30 to 3:00 this morning it would have been AMAZING to get a little help from DH. But what did I actually get? Grief about why I wasn't feeding her FOUR hours early and how I was disturbing his sleep.

ps, DH gets 1.5hrs more sleep than me EVERY morning

pps, even though we both work he NEVER helps at night. Ugh.

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