Because it hit home with me, and it might hit home with some of you as well
The side of motherhood we don't discuss....
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/traci-bild/the-side-of-motherhood-we_b_6249092.html?ncid=txtlnkusaolp00000592
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
Re: Im just going to leave this here....
I thought it was a nice reminder that the dishes can wait sometimes.
I especially feel like this on the 2 nights a week I have 1 hour conference calls from 6-7...
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
Wow. I feel like that woman has been watching my life.
Looks like the book isn't out yet. Bummer.
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Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
Farida, at 8 weeks
As an adult this does not hold true for me. I will freely admit that I am using a very small anecdotal sample, and I'm sure I biased, but I was in no way harmed by my mom working my entire life, a lot of it 60+ hours a week. I admired what my mom accomplished and even when I was young I thought it was cool that she worked in a neat industry. I was a latchkey kid, but never felt ignored, and I loved when my mom would take me to her office on the weekends.
I have friends whose moms were SAHM. Looking back they all felt way more 'ignored' then I did. They felt that they were always second to cleaning or soap opera's etc. One of my friends has said more than once that she is slightly envious of that my mom worked for various reasons.
I just really don't believe that working or SAH makes you a good or bad mom.
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
I think the only reason she talks about mothers is because she *is* one - its from her perspective as a mother. I don't think she was letting working dad's off the hook....
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
The whole thing sounded sort of creepy to me. My son with the "light brown hair and flawless skin" does not need to "understand me as a woman" with "hopes, dreams, and desires."
Yeah, for me it is less about what is better/worse for the kids than what is better/worse for me. I am fairly certain my kids will be 100% fine either way. I am just struggling a lot with what feels like incongruity between my personal priorities and where I spend my time and energy. It's not in alignment.
Maybe I'm just having a mid-life crisis, IDK. That's entirely possible as well.
Thats what I got from it as well @kkaew816
Also, I think she was looking at the kids in a motherly way - she sees these "babies" and they remind her of her own babies. Nostalgic was the tone I personally got, not creepy.
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
I'm flabbergasted that this woman scored a publishing deal. Freshman Comp churns out better writing.
I could not agree more.
Maybe because my LO is still L?
Also, I mean, I have to work. I like to work. I would be a terrible SAHM and probably lose my patience even quicker with my DD, so this article gave me zero feels.
Maybe my heart is a piece of black coal? LMK.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
I guess I'm with Marla and Privacy...I just skimmed it because it was pretty bad but right off the bat the attack on working moms turned me off. I'm just so over the debate. If she really wanted to make a point about parents ignoring/missing out on their kid's lives she could've made the same point just using smartphones in general - this is not only a working mom problem.
But it appears that wouldn't fit as well into her book pitch.
I think my 2015 resolution is to stop reading anything from HuffPo mommies.
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