First time mom jitters! Advice please!

MrsK213 · November 2014

Hi ladies! I am 37 weeks pregnant with my first baby, a boy. I just in the last few days have been feeling very overwhelmed with different emotions. I feel anxiety, a little sad for the changes to come, excitement, nervousness for delivery, etc etc etc! Can you ladies share your stories on how you felt before your baby arrived? I feel so weird, I don't know what's "normal" and what's possibly not. I'm nervous I won't feel connected to the baby for some reason, or I won't be able to handle all the changes in my life. I haven't really felt like this at all the whole pregnancy, just this week now that the end is near. Help! Advice! Thank you in advance.

MNgirl326 · November 2014

It's normal to feel what you are feeling. iTs also normal to not feel 100% bonded when the baby does come.

I don't remember what emotions i felt exactly that last time, as it was almost 4 1/2 years ago. But i do remember having a mix of postive and negative emotions.

Stephij1 · November 2014

All totally normal emotions.
DH and I had a fabulous marriage and I was concerned that a baby would mess it up. I was concerned that I wouldn't feel that head over heels, can't live without you love for the baby. I was worried about not being ok with my post-baby body, etc, etc. My marriage actually improved (although it was hard at first), I didn't get the "instant love" that people talk about, but after a couple of days, I had a hard time remembering life before she came. It was like a mommy switch in my brain flipped. It was confusing and overwhelming, but holding her felt like... I don't know... Home, I guess? Super cheesy, but that's the only way I can think to describe it.
As for the post-baby body, I'm still working on that one. ;-)

katiescarlett1 · December 2014

I'm a first time mom too, and definitely feeling a lot like you do. Our baby is likely coming this week and I went from being super mellow about it to super anxious. All of the sudden I am so nervous about labor, her safety, and the fact that I feel I know nothing about how to care for a newborn! It's all very overwhelming but it only makes sense that these are normal feelings when such a life-changing event is coming up for us. I bet we will both be okay--just hang in there, and talk about those feelings! I felt so much better when I told my husband about all these emotions and got to hear what things are on his mind.

Good luck, fellow momma-to-be!

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jennypolkadots · December 2014

I think feeling nervous is a sign that you take parenting seriously. You get that it's a really big deal and a big change coming. It's a good thing!

We had a baby shower yesterday and afterwards I felt a wave of anxiety. Pregnancy is like this roller coaster that you can't get off of - there is only one way out! And it is scary, and exciting, and so many things all at once that it can be overwhelming. Take some time to do things for yourself (non baby/pregnancy related) and know that everything you're feeling is totally normal. Also talk to your husband and see what he can do to help you through this time. This time next year you won't be able to imagine your life without that baby!

MrsK213 · December 2014

Thank you ladies for responding! I feel better reading your posts, glad to read that I'm not feeling anything out of the ordinary. I guess it's hard to figure out if it's "normal" or hormone related, or pregnancy coming to an end...or just a combo of all of it. It's so hard to put my feelings into a few sentences though! I have been talking to my husband about it all, he really helps reassure me. I guess I just worry hearing about all these stories about PPD and anxiety. Thanks for responding mommas-to-be! I hope some more women respond on here, I would love to hear your experiences/feelings! ;;)

nilvero · December 2014

Totally normal. It's a big change makes sense that you will freak a little. Don't beat yourself up if you don't feel that instant in love feeling. I didn't and felt like I was a bad mom. But now I look at him and can't imagine life without him.

And don't stress about PPD. If you do ended up having it, speak with your OB and they will help you handle it.

Basically try not to stress. Life is about to become completely unpredictable and the more you stress the harder it can be!

dbussolini · December 2014

I am 38 weeks and feel the exact same way, and have been for the last few weeks. All I can share is that the few people I've mentioned it to say it's perfectly normal to feel 150000000 emotions at once, especially if this is your first baby. I've just been trying to concentrate on seeing her little face when she's born.

jinnymb · December 2014

Total normal!!

This is my fourth and I feel the same way. Just remember you are loving intelligent person and whatever decisions you make or do with the baby will be fine. They don't remember this part and you won't really remember the first 6 weeks after a while. Try to have some humor about it all and take it in, you will be just fine : ) All the changes are like everything else bittersweet. Talk it out with your friends and family and if you do not "connect' that very instant that is totally normal, everything will come in stride!

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