The more I read here, the more I wonder if I am more liberal than I think or more people are more conservative than I think. DS' favorite toy as a baby was a stuffed Ganesh a friend made for him. The kids know about the basic tenets of other religions (other Christian religions as well as Judaism, Muslim, Buddhist faiths etc.) and we intentionally chose a church that isn't "my way or the highway" about what other faiths practice/believe. It is fun to watch them make connections; DD commented about "free choice under the Constitution" when one of her first grade friends joined our church. I didn't get it, but she explained that her friends is Vietnamese and Korean, and now attends a Methodist church instead of the Korean church she formerly attended. Understanding religion is just part of understanding culture to me.
So....do you/have you/will you expose your kids to other religions, or if you don't go to a church/practice a faith, religion?
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I struggle with this as an Atheist. We don't attend services, but if DD expresses interest in religion (any religion) I will take her to those services.
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Honestly, I would be very confused if DD ended up very religious. I think it would be hard not to think "what did we do wrong? we didn't raise her like this." Actually, I'd probably feel exactly how my ultra-religious parents feel (we're all atheist/agnostic).
My priority will be focusing first on teaching DS the tenets of our faith, and then later on different religions.
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Where do you stand on christening and baptism?
Did any of you participate in the ritual of christening to appease your religious families/ keep tradition?
Will you participate as a sponsor or stand with your child if/when s/he requests to be confirmed and/or baptized?
(btw *hi!* I've mostly been a lurker on this board for six or seven months. I'm shy to post, so why not jump right in on the topic of religion, right?)
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My brother is now a Mormon.
He had a life changing accident while he was in college in Salt Lake City and that's what he picked up when he needed something in his life. My parents were great about it, but I do remember my mom saying "we always wanted you two to be free to choose your own religion, so I guess we have to be ok with whatever it is."
Needless to say, we need to figure this out soon.
BTW- I was raised in a devout Southern Baptist home. I would never step foot in a SBC church with my child. I would be open to more inclusive Protestant denomination, however.
Fast forward to us being together. I have never been a practicing Jew in my entire life, and I continue along that path today. DH is slowly meandering toward being completely non-practicing. He no longer fasts, etc. Last year he lit the Chanukah candles on like two of the eight nights.
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This wasn't directed to me, but this is my take on this, since I would also be shocked if my kids turned out very religious. For me the difference is between "very faithful" and "very religious." A basic tenet of my belief structure is that religion isn't necessary to have the things you describe. I just haven't met very many people who are very religious who can honestly accept that tenet. I think God (or the universe or the Flying Spaghetti Monster or the Earth Mother Goddess) and I are on pretty good terms most of the time. I try to be the best person I can be and I trust that's good enough. But then, having been raised in a very conservative Christian tradition and in an area where that was and is the norm, my views are likely skewed. Conservative Christians in Texas and Oklahoma as a group (recognizing some individuals don't fit the stereotype) aren't tolerant. And if you ask them to be, they start screaming about the war on Christianity and how persecuted they are for their beliefs. (Which is hilarious, by the way.) If either of my kids turns into that kind of person, I will consider myself a failure as a parent. If either of them finds a tolerant religion and it gives them comfort, I would be fine with that. In fact, going a step further, I would be happy for them.