Grief/stress and pregnancy

skupski83 · December 2014

Just found out that my dad has stage 4 lung cancer and he's not well enough for chemotherapy. He basically has days left. After finding out and rushing to the hospital, I got sharp pains in my stomach. I am currently 18 weeks pregnant. Is there a direct correlation between stressful situations and harming the baby?
I didn't search for other posts on this so sorry if this is a duo.

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skupski83 · December 2014

Thank you for your kindness and quick response

wingardium3 · December 2014

I also agree with PP. Try and relax as much as possible, drink some fluids and put your feet up. I'm so sorry you are going through this. T&Ps for you and your family.

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AidanMarlene · December 2014

I'm sorry you're going through this. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

SassyPants150 · December 2014

I'm so sorry

I don't have any advice, but please take care of yourself.

amiligrace · December 2014

I'm sorry that you are going through a hard time. I experienced a traumatic incident in my family about eight weeks ago and I received good advice from my doctor. Allow yourself to feel your emotions and grieve, and remember your health at the same time. He told me to take deep breaths in those moments to send good oxygen to my baby, and to eat as many small snacks as possible if my appetite was affected. Seeing a therapist is a good idea too. Take time to rest and ask for help when you need it.

jmewoof · December 2014

Awe! That's really sad

and I'm very sorry for you and your fathers pain! I'd spend every moment you can with him and be sure to give him all your love and soak all his love up too. Take lots of pictures so you can tell your baby all about him (if you don't already have a bunch) and tryyyy to look at the positive things you have. I know that is not easy! Good luck to you with everything. I mean that!!

scubakate · December 2014

I am so sorry! Cancer sucks. Ditto what PP have said. Make sure you take care of yourself, drink plenty of water to replenish those tears, and rest as much as you can.

rivers714 · December 2014

I'm so sorry about your dad. Somwtes you can cramp if you're dehydrated

suszbaker · December 2014

I'm so very sorry and will keep your family in my prayers. Please try to take care of yourself.

Ballet80 · December 2014

I am so sorry, I will be praying for you and your family during this difficult time.

emilyanimals15 · December 2014

I agree with pp that LO is probably ok, though you can call OB to be sure- don't need any more stress right now! I am so very sorry about your dad. I am thinking of you and your family at this time.

skupski83 · December 2014

Thanks everyone. The advice and support is very much appreciated

mpiemont · December 2014

I am so so sorry

please try your best to take of yourself and that baby!

Pintobean39 · December 2014

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I was pregnant with my second when my mom had terminal cancer, I also decided to take my CPA exam at 8months preg. I was under a tremendous amount of stress and I ended up getting a sinus infection that lasted months and multiple rounds of antibiotics did nothing. I don't think the stress does so much to the baby but you have to remember to take care of yourself.

Hconner3 · December 2014

So sorry you a going through this!

nightdreamer98 · December 2014

I'm so sorry about your father

. Thoughts and prayers for you. I had a stressful incident at ten weeks which caused pretty bad cramps but the babies were fine.

RenovationFun · December 2014

I imagine that this is very difficult for you. everything will be okay, just remember that your little baby is a joy in all of the pain. My brother just passed away suddenly three weeks ago, I was 13 weeks at the time. I was concerned about the grief at first but then realized that the grieving process is natural. address your feelings and allow yourself to cry. Always remember that your little one is a shining light and your father is part of you and your baby. The next few weeks will will be tough not knowing what will happen to your dad but just give him your love and prayers. Your baby will be just fine.

MrsTwiddy · December 2014

I am so sorry--I second the idea of seeing a therapist. Talking to someone who can help you with coping strategies could be really helpful and help reduce your stress and the stress to the baby.

Hugs to you!

samiamagirl · December 2014

I am so sorry about your father. I know exactly what your facing and there's nothing anyone can say or do to make it better right now. You, your father, and your family are in my prayers right now.

As for the stress and grief effecting the baby just make sure you're drinking enough water and you're remembering to rest your body (it's probably going to be impossible to settle your mind over the next weeks) as that will hopefully help alleviate the cramps you're feeling. Be sure to tell your OB that you are facing a loss in the family as they would want to know major stresses happening in your life and may want to line up a therapy recommendation to help you out during this time.

amylee545 · December 2014

I have no additional advice to offer, but I just wanted to say how sorry I am about your dad. Please take care of yourself during this difficult time

Hawk&Eye · December 2014

Thoughts and prayers going out to you and your family.

dj99 · December 2014

I am so sorry about your father. I know this must be such a difficult time for you and your family but please try to take care of yourself.

Linsfoley · December 2014

I am so sorry that this is happening to your father and your family. I recently lost my uncle who raised me (my dad passed away when I was younger) and I had just told him I was pregnant too. I am still grieving and my baby has been ok per the doctor so far. I will be praying for you and your family through this difficult time.

skupski83 · December 2014

Thanks everyone for the prayers, advice, and good thoughts. He passed today. I appreciate the support everyone has shown me.

ck4567 · December 2014

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Poppy715 · December 2014

skupski83 said:
Thanks everyone for the prayers, advice, and good thoughts. He passed today. I appreciate the support everyone has shown me.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. It's such a hard time to go through such a devestating loss. ((Hugs)) I know it's not the same but my grandfather passed last week. Try and take care of yourself.

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