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Need advice -hurt my moms feelings?

winterkatewinterkate member
in August 2014 Moms
My little one hates my moms house. We've gone there half a dozen times at this point and each time she has been absolutely inconsolable. I can get her to smile for a minute or two but otherwise unless I am nursing her or she's magically bounced to sleep she is crying while we are there. every time I leave swinging her carrier because that's the only thing that will keep her calm until we get out to the car.should I keep making excuses not to go or should I tell my mom what I think the problem is? I can't keep going there and have my baby so upset every time.
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Re: Need advice -hurt my moms feelings?

  • winterkatewinterkate member
    She's generally a very happy baby At my in-laws, my BFFs house, my aunt and uncles or out shopping she is usually fine. I think she may be picking up on my mood because my mom now lives with her boyfriend which is weird because my parents didn't get divorced until I was 25 and I don't really get along with my mom's boyfriend. I tried to have a more positive attitude today but it still didn't do anything for her. And yes I bring toys and she has a rock and play there. Yesterday at Thanksgiving she laughed as she sat in the rock and play while we were at my in laws' house.
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  • rstarrlemaitrerstarrlemaitre member
    What if your mom comes to see LO at your house? Then you'd be better in control of the environment and mood, and your mom could get a chance to see her smiling and happy.
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  • smfdjosmfdjo member
    I am guessing your LO can sense you are tense there.
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  • IceHide61313IceHide61313 member
    Does your mom wear perfume? Our LO doesn't like my MIL very much and we are 99.5% sure it is because of her perfume.
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  • MrsLeahBentleyMrsLeahBentley member
    DS hates my grandmother's house, my guess is because it is a way different smell (pretty overpowering potpourri) and literally zero real sunlight (whereas we typically have all the curtains open, with the sun shining). Lots of different things can be a factor. I would just tell her you've figured out it's something to that effect, that it is mostly out of her control so it isn't her fault. Hopefully she won't take it badly, and she'll come visit LO at your house (without boyfriend, fingers crossed).
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  • winterkatewinterkate member
    Thanks, ladies! We spent the day shopping yesterday and did much better. I think I'll just continue to invite her over to my house for awhile before we try to go there again.
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