pubic pain after sex?

lanoix · November 2014

i am 9w pregnant and we wanted to wait until the baby was safely implanted. yesterday we had sex with my husband and today i'm having terrible pubic pain. it is in the middle, feels like bone pain. the sex wasn't rough or anything, and i am not bleeding/spotting. just curious if there are others who felt similar?

uromys · November 2014

You with stranded from sex for the last 5 weeks? Is that what I'm reading?

ChristyM87 · November 2014

uromys said:
You with stranded from sex for the last 5 weeks? Is that what I'm reading?

That sounds miserable.

lanoix · November 2014

uromys said:

You with stranded from sex for the last 5 weeks? Is that what I'm reading?

yes, but more like 4 weeks. we didn't want to worry ourselves with spotting etc, that's why we waited.

the pain is not "inside".

lanoix · November 2014

ChristyM87 said:

You with stranded from sex for the last 5 weeks? Is that what I'm reading?
That sounds miserable.

wait till the baby is born, i'm afraid you'll have to wait more

ChristyM87 · November 2014

lanoix said:

ChristyM87 said:

uromys said:
You with stranded from sex for the last 5 weeks? Is that what I'm reading?
That sounds miserable.

wait till the baby is born, i'm afraid you'll have to wait more

I am well aware of that. But no point abstaining now if I don't need to. Plus, so far pregnant sex is fun. We can be spontaneous and not have to worry about my period

lanoix · November 2014

ok i respect your decisions but are there any answers to my actual question?

uromys · November 2014

I'm still not understanding why you would with stand from sex until 9 weeks. Did your doctor tell you to or is this something you just thought up?

And I know plenty of people that don't withstand from sex more then two weeks post baby. They also ended up pregnant a month post baby. All depends on your situation. I had tearing and stitches. I didn't have a choice.

ETA: I'm not saying it's hard I hold out, I'm just confused as to what implanting had to do with it.

uromys · November 2014

Okay, to answer your question. No I have never experienced non rough sex that resulted in pelvic pain. May have something to do with the lack of sex over the past five weeks though.

lanoix · November 2014

i didn't wait 9 weeks as i told before. i didn't have sex for 1 month. to be honest, i don't see the big deal here. my doctor advised me to wait as well, she didn't want me to be worried over spotting or bleeding. as you can see from hundreds of posts here, a lot of women are nervous about spotting. and as you should know, stress isn't good for the developing baby. why would i put myself through such a stress of miscarriage if i could hold myself from sex for just a month

again, nobody has an answer to my question?

MaritimeMama3 · November 2014

Sorry, I haven't experienced that! I'd call the doctor if you're concerned, though. Pelvic pain is always something you should keep an eye on (not that you should worry... I'm just saying your doctor won't be annoyed that you called)

surfingmama · November 2014

I haven't had that experience either but I would definitely call your doctor just to be sure. It sounds like you could have bruised your pelvic bone or something? Our lady parts are especially sensitive down there right now so be gentle haha.

And for the record I haven't been having much sex either, just not in the mood. It does help with morning sickness though.

ChristyM87 · November 2014

lanoix said:
i didn't wait 9 weeks as i told before. i didn't have sex for 1 month. to be honest, i don't see the big deal here. my doctor advised me to wait as well, she didn't want me to be worried over spotting or bleeding. as you can see from hundreds of posts here, a lot of women are nervous about spotting. and as you should know, stress isn't good for the developing baby. why would i put myself through such a stress of miscarriage if i could hold myself from sex for just a month

again, nobody has an answer to my question?

As you might know from reading on here, stress isn't going to cause a miscarriage. There is going to be various elements of stress in your life over the next 9 months and unless you are living in a war torn country with bombs going off all around you, it is not going to affect the baby.

Many expectant mothers on here have what might be considered stressful jobs. I am pretty sure that they keep working through the pregnancy

lanoix · November 2014

christy, thanks for calling my sex life miserable and also for your comments about where i live/what i do (which you have absolutely no idea about)

for your info, my work is about maternal morbidity and mortality. i read the files of dead mothers daily. i am also taking part in the evaluation committee.

thanks for all the support that you are showing

ChristyM87 · November 2014

lanoix said:
christy, thanks for calling my sex life miserable and also for your comments about where i live/what i do (which you have absolutely no idea about)

for your info, my work is about maternal morbidity and mortality. i read the files of dead mothers daily. i am also taking part in the evaluation committee.

thanks for all the support that you are showing

I am guessing whatever sort of work you do that you are not a healthcare professional, as if you are you would know what I am saying is accurate. I actually am a healthcare professional and unless your doctor tells you to abstain from sex there is absolutely no reason to abstain while pregnant. The same way stress is not going to cause a miscarriag, that isn't how it works

The point of the Bump is not to provide emotional support during pregnancy but to be a message board you can come to for networking and advice. Sometimes the truth hurts.

lanoix · November 2014

i don't see what you're trying to do. if you want, you can keep flooding my question. but please, if you're going to write more things here, first read what i wrote earlier (as i explained myself about the doctor and about the stress OF miscarriage, not the other way around)

my advice to you, don't be such a nymphomaniac and comment on other people's sex lives. it is not my problem if you can't hold yourself for 1 month

ChristyM87 · November 2014

JustinsLovo said:
Wow. Well I will say if you didn't want to have sex that is your choice. Not sure why pp is so bothered by it.

As for the pain in your pubic bone I also experienced it. My doctor mentioned that my pelvis is shifting to accommodate child birth and the muscles used during sex weren't used to the shift in the bones, hence the discomfort. Typically it only lasts for a few hours.

Good luck. Hope your pain goes away soon!

I am not bothered by it. I am just explaining to her there is no medical reason to abstain. Hell, you could have no sex your entire pregnancy and still have spotting

New1stMommy · November 2014

I understand completely what you are saying. My last pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. I would notice that my spotting usually came after sex. With the spotting came a little pain in my abdomen. This go around I knew I had to take a little more precaution. My doctor never told me having sex caused miscarriages, but I knew for my self what affects it had on my body. My sex life has slowed down tremendously since I found out I'm pregnant. I haven't had any spotting or pains though so I'm happy.

EmMilAlly · November 2014

Many of the REs at my clinic are strict about no sex until after you see the heartbeat. My dr is not one of them, but I waited anyway due to a prior loss and my own peace of mind. I had ivf so it's a little different, but I understand your reasons for being patient. I guess my point is it is not totally irrational to avoid sex in early pregnancy- there ARE legitimate reasons.
As for the pain, there is a lot of extra blood flowing down there and things are shifting- can't hurt to ask your dr though if it doesn't ease up. Good luck!!!

lynlopez · November 2014

I personally dont think is anything to worry about. Your body is just sensitive and not having sex might have irritated you a bit, but if it continues maybe you should give your doc a call.

lynlopez · November 2014

I know we are not doc well some of us arent. But when we ask a question is not for medical advice but to see if anyone has similar symptoms is a form of comfort to easy ourselves. Some of us are first time moms and have no idea of what is like to be pregnant. In the end we have to be smart and realized hey I should call my doctor but sometimes the experiences help and calm our nervous. We need to show better support thats why we are here because we are all pregnant and some of us been through it more than once.

lanoix · November 2014

lynlopez said:

I know we are not doc well some of us arent. But when we ask a question is not for medical advice but to see if anyone has similar symptoms is a form of comfort to easy ourselves. Some of us are first time moms and have no idea of what is like to be pregnant. In the end we have to be smart and realized hey I should call my doctor but sometimes the experiences help and calm our nervous. We need to show better support thats why we are here because we are all pregnant and some of us been through it more than once.

thank you, this is the kind of support i needed.

i know about danger signs. i'm pregnant for the first time and i don't know if some things are normal or not. i don't know if this is an emergency or not. i don't know if i should rush to my doctor or wait a few more hours.

however, coming here and being judged for not having sex wasn't what i was expecting. unfortunately there are inconsiderate people here as well as anywhere.

ChristyM87 · November 2014

lanoix said:

lynlopez said:

I know we are not doc well some of us arent. But when we ask a question is not for medical advice but to see if anyone has similar symptoms is a form of comfort to easy ourselves. Some of us are first time moms and have no idea of what is like to be pregnant. In the end we have to be smart and realized hey I should call my doctor but sometimes the experiences help and calm our nervous. We need to show better support thats why we are here because we are all pregnant and some of us been through it more than once.

thank you, this is the kind of support i needed.

i know about danger signs. i'm pregnant for the first time and i don't know if some things are normal or not. i don't know if this is an emergency or not. i don't know if i should rush to my doctor or wait a few more hours.

however, coming here and being judged for not having sex wasn't what i was expecting. unfortunately there are inconsiderate people here as well as anywhere.

No one was judging you. But don't act like you are abstaining to help the pregnancy when there is no medical need

lanoix · November 2014

ChristyM87 said:

lynlopez said:

I know we are not doc well some of us arent. But when we ask a question is not for medical advice but to see if anyone has similar symptoms is a form of comfort to easy ourselves. Some of us are first time moms and have no idea of what is like to be pregnant. In the end we have to be smart and realized hey I should call my doctor but sometimes the experiences help and calm our nervous. We need to show better support thats why we are here because we are all pregnant and some of us been through it more than once.

thank you, this is the kind of support i needed.
i know about danger signs. i'm pregnant for the first time and i don't know if some things are normal or not. i don't know if this is an emergency or not. i don't know if i should rush to my doctor or wait a few more hours.

however, coming here and being judged for not having sex wasn't what i was expecting. unfortunately there are inconsiderate people here as well as anywhere.
No one was judging you. But don't act like you are abstaining to help the pregnancy when there is no medical need

i don't know what you are hallucinating but nowhere i said sex is bad for the baby. i said i CHOSE not to have sex to keep myself away from the stress. seriously, go and find another victim for your insulting comments

MisSmartyPants · November 2014

DarcyHermione said:

Woah. Guys, calm down. I'm no white knight, but I'm incredibly offended by the "your sex life must be miserable" comment as I haven't had sex during pregnancy yet. When I got my sex drive back my morning sickness started and it's been hard to get in the mood. So stfu with that. OP, I'm sorry you are worried. From what I've read it's normal to have some discomfort, especially if you orgasm. You can call your doctor if you are concerned though.

I haven't had sex for the last 6 weeks. My doctor and my acupuncturist advised me not to for at least the first 8 weeks. So please stop bashing that lady!! In regards to the pain mentioned- call your doc if it doesn't subside. Also, take it easy. Another good advise I was given from my doctor was to cool down and lie down if I feel any discomfort to eliminate the mother factor.

jlbaker08 · November 2014

sex relieves my stress... and I thoroughly enjoyed it last night, no spotting or issues to report

squeakyfrog15 · November 2014

I don't have sex when pregnant, I have a very sensitive cervix! This time there is also a clot, so we definitely are not messing around with that! I'm sorry you are going through this! I hope it eases! Good luck!

KellyinHB · November 2014

Nothing actual to add that answers the question at hand. I haven't had actual sex in a few weeks, only because progesterone suppositories are not exactly an aphrodisiac for me. However, I have had a couple of orgasms, both resulting in intense cramping. Just an interesting thing I discovered and thought I'd share.

edit: spelling

mrsnatehoy · November 2014

I think when you have sex is up to you. So just let them talk shit. If you are concerned about the pain maybe give one of the nurses a call. Wouldn't hurt and it would put you at ease hearing from an actual health care professional and trust me when you talk about that they will not bash on you about your sex life.

thiscoffeechick · November 2014

mrsnatehoy said:
I think when you have sex is up to you. So just let them talk shit. If you are concerned about the pain maybe give one of the nurses a call. Wouldn't hurt and it would put you at ease hearing from an actual health care professional and trust me when you talk about that they will not bash on you about your sex life.

I think ONE person was rude about the OP's sex life and got told so by multiple posters... So calm your tits on the WK'ing.

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