TTC After a Loss

UPDATE: AW: MC Rant **Graphic**

edited November 2014 in TTC After a Loss
***UPDATE***
I dropped the tissue off this morning and was surprised by an US and blood draw. The US tech said there is still "debris" in my ute so I'll continue to bleed for at least a few days, but they're pretty sure I've passed all the tissue. I actually looked at what I passed to see if I collected everything and I for sure did. The sac was completely in tact and I could see the full yolk sac, baby's bubble and the tiny cord connected to the sac. 
The nurse said everything from here out would be period flow but said to call if I have excessive bleeding, get dizzy or spike a fever. They're planning to track my betas to 0, repeat the US next week and I should get the pathology report on the tissue sometime next week. 

Thank you for all of your support! I don't know what I would do without this place. 
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Well, let me start by saying this thanksgiving was SHIT! Second, I now have a much deeper respect for any and every woman who had ever had a natural MC. After my MMC in March I had a D&C before any camping or spotting started so I had no idea what to expect this time around. ***warning: slightly graphic*** Let me just say that my RE greatly under explained this process and I was shockingly unprepared for what happened. She told me a natural miscarriage at this point would be like a heavy period with some clotting and a quarter to half dollar sized clot that needed to be collected for testing. BULL FUCKING SHIT!!! I had consistent 5-15 min apart cramps starting at 8am which, at 2 pm, progressed into time-able contractions for 3 straight hours before passing a palm sized mass. The 2- 500mg Tylenol to 'ease the pain' did nothing but make me nauseas (I eventually threw them up). When I thought everything was finished I got dressed, put on a super duty pad and laid on the couch for an hour. When I stood up the flood gates opened and I ended up showering with my clothes on, before scrubbing the 10ft dripped blood trail out of my white carpet. I understand everyone is different, but I feel like Dr's and RE's should provide some sort of paper work of verbal explanation with what to expect. Sorry for the graphic rant but I was seriously unprepared for the extreme physical and emotional pain I experienced today. Thanksgiving will never be the same. I hope everyone else's thanksgivings were enjoyable. ((Hugs)) to each of you! Thank you for all the support! I'd offer goodies but I'm mobile!
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  • I'm so so so sorry. I hope the physical healing starts soon. (((Hugs)))
  • Oh honey, I am so, so sorry you had to go through that ((((hugs)))).

    The amount of bleeding you had sounds like a lot. That, combined with the size of the mass, makes me think you should call your RE.  It's a holiday but someone should be on call. Watch the bleeding and if it continues to be very heavy (fill a pad in an hour), go to the ER.

    I do want to add that with my natural m/c in Feb 2013, I passed a sac that was around the same size as what you described. My bleeding was not like what you described. My OB's NP also made sure I had a heavy painkiller on hand just in case. Maybe you could get your doctor to call something in to a 24 hour pharm if one is open? I know I had a lot of pain (mostly my back) afterwards because that was where my contractions were centered.

    Keep us updated on how you are doing.

    ((((hugs)))))

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  • I'm so sorry. 

    I didn't feel prepared either. My doctor said there would be "some cramping" - they never even suggested that I take pain meds.

    ((hugs))
  • I'm so very sorry. *hug*

    I agree with @buggirl72 that you should watch the bleeding. My MC in April sounds very similar to yours but I was in the ER. My mass was a bit larger than palm size and I bled... A lot. I soaked my dress and the gown they had me put on two times. I soaked the oversized nighttime pads for a couple of days before the bleeding got to be less. They also gave me a script for percocet and although I hate taking medicine, I took it at night.

    Watch your fatigue in the next could of days also. I was so exhausted and my OB told me to take extra doses of iron due to the amount of blood I lost.
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  • I'm so sorry sweetie.  With my first natural m/c I had a very similar experience, lots of cramping and a large sack (bigger than half dollar sized).  I hope the physical pain is over soon. ((hugs))
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  • I am so so sorry you had to endure that. bug huge hugs.
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  • I'm so sorry, sweetie. I agree with Bug that your should watch your bleeding. Lots of love and ((hugs))
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  • Oh sweetie I'm so sorry you're going through this. I went through my first mc at home and was thoroughly unprepared for it. My dr also said it would be like a heavy period. Bull. Shit. What happened was very similar to what you described.
    Keep an eye on the bleeding and don't hesitate to call the dr that's on call.
    (((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))

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  • I'm so sorry you had to go through this =( I know with mine I ended up just not leaving the toilet for almost an hour because it was useless to get up and by the end I told my husband either he took me to the hospital or he was calling an ambulance for me. No way was tylenol even touching the pain I had.
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  • Thank you ladies for the love and advice! 

    After the big gush earlier the bleeding slowed down. It's a manageable medium flow now. It was a HUGE relief that the major cramping stopped as soon as I passed the sac. The cramping now just feels like a bad period. The on call nurse at the ER said as long as I don't keep filling a pad in an hour everything is "normal". As soon as my RE opens tomorrow morning I'm calling to see if I need an appointment when I bring the tissue in. 

    @buggirl72 I called the RE the after-hours message transferred me to the RE. Did your Dr say anything about the size of the mass? I'm worried that  it was so much bigger than what the RE described! 

    @Nikolie93 I'm so jealous you got actual meds!!! My RE said the only thing I can take is the stupid Tylenol. 
  • I'm so very soon you are going through so much pain. I am thinking of you.

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  • I'm sorry you had to deal with that, Tylenol wouldn't have even touched the pain. :(
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  • I am so sorry you had such a terrible time.  I don't have experience with this as I had D&Cs both times, but it sounds so horrible.  I hope things are slowing down for you now and the worst is over.  Big (((hugs)))

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  • Ugh. What a rough day you've had. I'm so sorry you had to go through this and that it was worse than expected. ((Hugs))
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  • I am so sorry. ::hugs::
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  • I'm so sorry. That's truly awful. I had pain meds when I miscarried and felt pain even through them. It sounds like you've had such a traumatic day. I know internet hugs can only do so much, but for what it's worth ((big creepy internet hugs))
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  • ((Hugs)) I am so sorry.
  • (((HUGS)))!!!!!!!!
  • I'm so sorry. And I feel you on the holiday, my last mc was New Years eve and day so I'm afraid it's forever tainted. Also I was unprepared for the extreme cramping that had me wailing naked in the fetal position on the bathroom floor. The worst was prior to passing so hopefully it's behind you now. And I'm so sorry they didn't give you pain killers and anti nausea meds! Rest up and continue to monitor the bleeding. Big hugs.

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  • Sorry for your loss!! I had a similar experience and my doctor did not prepare me either. I hope you are feeling better soon.
  • I'm so sorry that you went through that without knowing. My first mc was natural and the dr greatly under explained what would happen.
    With my fourth loss, I tried to pass everything with with cytotec and even the RE at the time didn't explain appropriately, but I knew better then.
    Amazing that medical professionals don't know or don't inform us well enough
    ((Hugs))

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  • So sorry you have to go through this right now. I'm glad to hear that the bleeding is lightening up. Big hugs!
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  • I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I have a very similar story, it was awful.
  • I am so very sorry. What an absolutely horrible experience. I am glad the bleeding has slowed down. So many ((((hugs))))
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  • I am so sorry. So many ((hugs))
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  • I'm so sorry yorky. Sending big hugs your way. How do you feel today?
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  • So so sorry you are going through this. Thinking of you.
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  • @YorkieLove83

    Oh Love... I'm so sorry you had to deal with this today. I agree... natural miscarriage is a difficult thing to go through, and I don't think anyone can be fully prepared for the toll it takes on our bodies and emotions.

    Remember that you are strong and that you will get through this. Remember that you are loved by all of us here and don't be afraid to lean on us however you need to.

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  • I am so sorry you had a rough day. Both of my mc's were natural and similar to what you described. You have gone through the worst part now that the sac has passed. (Hugs)

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  • I am sorry that you went through all that. I had a similar experience with my MMC, and my doctor dramatically under-described what was going to happen.

    Luckily there was a thread on the loss board that prepared me for it. I was wearing depends. If a natural MC thread doesn't exist yet, I bet it would be really useful for other people down the road.

    Hopefully you'll be feeling better soon. Myself, I spotted for weeks after, and 40 days later am just getting my first period since.
  • @LizBlue‌ I'm crampy and tired cause I could not get comfortable last night. Hopefully the on call doctor is calling in some Tylenol with codine so I can sleep!!!
  • I'm so sorry you're going through this, especially over the holidays. I agree, I was vastly underprepared for my MC. I took Cytotec and ended up in the ER after passing out during what can only be described as labor, due to the excessive bleeding, vomiting and diarrhea. They told me it would be like a period.
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  • I'm sure it's already been said but I would have been much worse off without my heating pad.

    Hope that Dr calls something in for you!
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  • @Nikolie93‌ my heating pad was the only thing that got me through last night! I tried using the sticky ones you put in your underwear - nope! I got the heating pad, an extension cord, my biggest pair of sweats and felt like a kangaroo all night.
  • Glad it helped a bit! I used mine so much that it would shut off automatically as a safety measure. I got so pissed lol
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  • I'm so sorry!
    ((hugs)) 
    I too had contraction like cramps with my MC but nothing as large as you passed.
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  • I am so, so sorry! Sending ((hugs)) and keeping you in my T&Ps. 

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. I miscarried naturally in July, and was also pretty surprised by how much tissue I passed (I had a D&C my first loss). I ended up throwing out all clothing associated with that day, as it was both soaked and I didn't want the reminder. I'm glad it looks like it has all passed for you.

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  • (((((Hugs))))) love. I'm so sorry.
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  • I am just seeing this now!  I am so so sorry you had to go through this.  Will be sending you positive thoughts and prayers.  ((HUGS))



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