My twins are potty training together and at my house doing great we reward them with money (a max of $5 a week) in a little plastic bank and at the end of the week they can go buy a toy with what they save up... Anyway, I am pregnant and have been told by my doctor "you need to rest as much as possible" so for a few hours a day they go to my mom's house which shouldn't be a big deal for them because she has watched them frequently before. But my SIL has been at her place a lot lately and she puts her daughter in Huggies which have Mickey Mouse on them, and they will have "on purpose" after "on purpose" until they run out of underwear (and diapers) making the only option a Mickey Mouse diaper. Then refuse to wear their Mickey Mouse underwear because they want the diaper... And I really have no idea how to handle the situation... I don't want them to think it is okay to go in their pants to get something they want, but I don't want to punish them for their "on purposes"
We make sure they get plenty of time with me in the mornings... we all play together and have 1 on 1 story time everyday before my mom picks them up...
I am thinking about for every "on purpose" taking one piece of their money... But I really think that will cause more tantrums than good.
Sorry for my bad grammar.
Re: Any Suggestions?
Yes, they continue to go in the diaper and then when they come home they throw huge fits about being changed, even if they have pooped in the diaper they still want it over underwear.
I would not take money away for two reasons. I don't think you should punish for accidents. But also I agree with curling that he punishment is too abstract. If they earned $5 this week but had $3 taken due to accidents they still have $2. I doubt they are old enough to understand that and would still have money leftover.
I personally would just not make the Mickey Mouse diapers an option. If your SIL is the only one buying them than there's no way for your kids to need them. Id buy them an extra pack of underwear to keep at grandmas for accidents. And if she needs to use diapers (which if they are trained I wouldn't) then I would get generic ones. It sounds like they are being "rewarded" with the huggies for accidents so just take that particular "reward" out of the equation. Good luck!
If she isn't interested I think you might want to look for other child care options unfortunately. Good luck!