First time mom...omg I feel like I'm not adult enough.

mehlaknee · November 2014

Ok - first pregnancy for me. I know I'm not being totally logical but I am FREAKED out. Im 28, hubby is 34. We are both responsible "adults". Im a pediatric ICU nurse, we just bought a house, I keep my two dogs alive...but I'm freaking out!!!

We just had our first US yesterday. I'm 6wks5days. Heard the heart beat. FREAKED OUT! its really real...

This may seem weird to you guys but I know what to do with really sick babies and kids in a hospital. What the hell do you do with them at home?!? When they don't stop crying at work I drug them...ahhhh. At least I have 8 more months to adjust to this.

Ok - irrational rant over.

Mei&Mei · November 2014

Don't worry! No one feels prepared to have a baby until they actually have one. We all don't really know what to do at first, we just learn as we go. Right now I'm worried that a) I forgot how to do everything and b) I won't be able to balance the needs of both kids.

I'm sure you will be just fine.

charlie+7 · November 2014

I'm not adult enough either!

munchkinsmama · November 2014

DS is 15 months old, DH and I still look at each other sometimes in shock that we have a kid and are responsible for all his needs, and have kept him alive and relatively happy. Every baby is different but you will work out a system with your own, don't stress.

aloha_mama · November 2014

I know exactly what you mean. On the NICU we feed every 3-4 hours, most are so sick they don't make any noise, and at the end of my 12 hours I give report and go back to my empty, quiet house. I have no idea what I'm going to do! And everyone says that because of my NICU experience being a mom will be a breeze.... Yeah, right. I don't know how to deal with normal, average-sized babies!

mehlaknee · November 2014

Thanks ladies. I appreciate all the responses! Hard to wrap my mind around all the changes.

And @loveandlignin‌, omg I totally feel the same. Everyone always says that ill be a great mom since I'm so used to sick kids. Uhm...when my kids at work code I have oxygen,drugs and everything else I need. What the hell do you do at home?!?!

ChristyM87 · November 2014

I am a ER nurse now but I used to work pediatrics, and trust me, compared to your husband you are way more prepared. My husband has never held a baby under 6 months old, never changed a diaper,never fed a baby. I am most nervous about breastfeeding

charlie+7 · November 2014

I have never held a baby under 6 months, changed a diaper, fed a baby or been responsible for much more than myself and a cat. Ha ha. I've dealt with teenagers, but new borns have always scared me.

mrsgeiser · November 2014

Oh yes - this will be a new adventure! I have ONE friend with a baby and I am pretty much stalking her to 'practice' because I have no baby experience! I haven't been around young children since my cousins were babies...and they're all out of college now! Omg!

yelah250 · November 2014

It really is amazing how your instincts kick in. The rest you will google, ask us, or take a newborn basics class before your baby is born. We did that with our first and it was actually really helpful. The best advice they gave was following "the happiest baby on the block" book. If you don't have that book / dvd, get it asap!

bumpuser8571475 · November 2014

I was scared too, before I had DD, but you really do figure it out. Trust your gut instinct and just take it one day at a time. Also, I learned a lot from my other BMB. So I recommend staying here, learning, reading, asking questions.. Most of the ladies here really know their stuff. Good luck!

catladymeow · November 2014

I totally feel you on this. I know how to handle cats. Babies...I have no idea! I've never even held a baby!

hullabalou · November 2014

I'm lucky to have tons of little babies in my life between family and friends, so I have lots of preparation from them.

I'm still scared out of my mind that I will mess something up.

jlbaker08 · November 2014

No one is ever really ready until there's a baby in their arms and honestly I still look at my almost 4 year old daughter and wonder what the hell I'm doing responsible for another person (now it will be 2, good gracious).

And the crying, when you can't stop an infant from crying at home, try everything from food to diaper to rocking, then cry with them. They'll grow up and not cry anymore soon enough, a few good tears while they're small and you're new at it are normal.

Also, being worried is a good thing! If you thought you knew it all, I'd say you wouldn't be a good parent.

lifeisgood27 · November 2014

This is my second...I sometimes don't feel adult enough. And it's normal to panic. You will do fine as long as you remember you aren't perfect. There will be crying, you, I mean. (i But try to remember they grow up so fast, this too shall pass.

JuneBug0611 · November 2014

I remember the feeling of taking DD home from the hospital where we'd had so much help, putting her in her crib for a nap, and then looking at DH like, "what do we do now?" The next 18+ years stretched out before us as a great unknown. But we've somehow figured out the last 3.5 years and now the rest don't seem so daunting!

ashiscute · November 2014

I agree that it's a good sign that you're worried. Being a parent and having a newborn are incredibly difficult. There is no crazier feeling than when the hospital just lets you take the baby home and you're thinking "there is no way I'm qualified for this".

Being aware that this upheaval is happening will make it easier for you to accept it. Good luck!

stintzijd · November 2014

Yes! Yes! And Yes!! Definitely feel the same. I'm 30 and my DH will be 30 in March and I still feel like a baby. I was just thinking last night how little prepared I am. I was also a pediatric nurse and have been an ER nurse for the past 5 years... still don't feel prepared! I mean, the moms changed their baby's diaper. Not me! Last night I was thinking of all the "freedom" will go away in 8 months... the closest family we have is across the country and just thinking how expensive daycare is just makes my head spin!

mehlaknee · November 2014

You guys are awesome

mehlaknee · November 2014

Damn mobile site... The rest of my post was :

Thank you all for your positivity! So glad I found this group

mehlaknee · November 2014

haha, thanks @jefa621

evemadalyn · November 2014

I felt exactly the same with my first! But trust me you figure it out...like its the most natural thing. You and your baby will figure out how to work together and find a rythm! My biggest obstacle was breastfeeding while healing from a csection...the first 3 weeks were rough...but i stuck it through and ended up loving breastfeeding...still breastfeeding my 15 month dd! Good luck ladies! I am confident you will all do great!

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