T&P please, as results

fourthtimesacharm · November 2014

I had another anatomy scan on Sat because halfway through the first one my little guy rolled over and the tech couldn't get the heart shots. When I saw my midwife on Monday she looked up the report and saw that he had echogenic intraventricular foci which is a marker for ds. Our NT scan was normal. I haven't told my husband yet. He is a worrier and if I said that there was a 99% chance that everything was fine he would be hyper-focused on the other 1%. We've also miscarried twice this year (Jan & Jun) so his anxiety isn't completely unfounded. The high risk dr is out next week but I have an appt for genetic counseling, a follow-up ultrasound, and the HR dr in 2 weeks. I might wait until a couple days before to tell DH. Thanks for reading my rant. Any personal stories appreciated.

BrittianyM · November 2014

Sending prayers that everything with LO is fine.

missab · November 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this and that you have to worry about dh's stress on top of it. That's a heavy burden to take on. I hope that whenever you do tell him, he surprises you, and t&ps that everything turns out to be fine. ((Hugs))

bowman958 · November 2014

Wishing you all the best - I'm sorry you are faced with this worry. Focus on the 99% for now. Hugs!

redheaded14 · November 2014

T&p's for you. Agree with everyone else, let your husband know, that is a lot to deal with alone.

Annoid619 · November 2014

T&P

mombod · November 2014

Sending good thoughts your way.

lovemaddux · November 2014

Stay positive. Best wishes

fourthtimesacharm · November 2014

Thanks ladies. I do feel a little selfish for not telling him right away, my reasons are that I know he will overreact and I won't be able to reason with him to calm him down. The appt isn't for 2 weeks and he'll just feel helpless during that time. I love him, but patience isn't one of his virtues.
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Also my older brother has cognitive issues, the highest he has tested at was a 7 yo level. While it's not the same as ds, he did participate in Special Olympics and I did meet a lot of people who have ds. I know it's not a fatal diagnoses but like most moms here I want my baby to have the best shot possible and I am intimidated by any diagnoses that would hinder his health.

hillbillywife · November 2014

T&P that your next scan clears up any worries that you have.

jamiesc58 · November 2014

Sending thoughts and prayers your way! keep your head up and think positive. :-)

Mel&John2013 · November 2014

I'm sorry you have to go through this worry, and I hope the doctor can calm your nerves.

rachshops · November 2014

T&ps your way, this is definitely anxiety provoking. Along with PP, I'd encourage you to tell your husband, this is a lot to deal with on your own.

c+est+la+vie · November 2014

T&P (hugs)

ally3242 · November 2014

I hope that everything ends up being alright. T&P headed your way.

SunnyBeachBum · November 2014

Sending T&P your way!

Sharon&Paul · November 2014

I had this with my first. It is only a soft marker for DS and I believe it is more common than you think. We repeated the US in several weeks and everything was fine.

tapiaj52 · November 2014

Thinking of you and hope everything works out for the better. Xox

redneckmomma25 · November 2014

Sorry you are going through this!

cwiceangel · November 2014

Hope everything turns out well. But I would seriously tell your husband. I'd be super pissed if mine kept something like that from me. You probably would be too. Share the burden. It's both of yours.

keifekm · November 2014

T&P to you and baby. So sorry you are going through this time of uncertainty but FX that you get good news at your next appointment.

knitfastdiewarm · November 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'll be thinking of you.

ewilson74 · November 2014

Sending positive energy your way.

Mushibamboo · November 2014

Hoping everything turns out okay!

Renate85 · November 2014

So sorry you have to deal with this after such a tough year. Holding thumbs for baby to be perfectly fine!

SeekingSmall · November 2014

Sending T&P that everything works out well no matter what.

angelfish628 · November 2014

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I agree that you should tell your husband - you shouldn't be going through this alone and I hope that his support and reassurance will help out you at ease. Try not to stress in the meantime. xo

balcerekc · November 2014

Thoughts and prayers! And try to remember (as difficult as it is) that ds is totally doable and there are so many special needs programs out there for kids with special needs. This provided me with some comfort when I was told our baby has spina bifida. We know so much more than we ever did and no matter what it's not going to change how much you love your baby. I hope everything goes well at your appt!

OliveMom3 · November 2014

DS had an echogenic cardiac focus and it resolved on its own. I would tell your husband after you've had a chance to do some research on it.

kurban627 · November 2014

Praying!!!

Munchkin42015 · November 2014

T&P's for you. If you don't tell your husband until after those appointments, make sure you tell someone. You can't carry all of this on you alone. My aunt has a 13 month old with downs and he's the light of our families world. (: