New Mom- no babyshower?

lczta · August 2014

My husband and I are stationed over 3000 miles away from both our families and are expecting our first child. It isn't plausible to "fly" home to have showers since we would have no way to bringing gifts home with us. Driving would take almost a week each way. We were thinking of just not having a babyshower since neither families and our close friends would be unable to attend, and just having a small "meet the baby" party after the baby was born for our few friends that we have here to come over.

Has anyone else gone through this? I should also mention the husband will more than likely be deployed for the birth of our first child as well...so this also throws a wrench in our plans. (No i will not be "moving home" to have the baby, we will stay at our duty station where our life is).

salopez007 · August 2014

I had the same situation. We were able to fly home (mostly to visit, but our family gave us a baby shower anyway). Our family told everyone that gift cards would be best, since we would have to fly back across the country, and most everyone did that. We got a few gifts, but nothing that wouldn't fit in our luggage. We would have been happy to see everyone even without the gifts, but since this is also our first, it was nice to have some funds for all the baby supplies we needed. Hope this helps!

jasminelorraine20 · August 2014

I am on board with what the PP said. Your family may be keeping in mind that you're so far away and may tell everyone to send you gift cards. I would wait and see what happens! As far as the shower, if none of your new friends offer to throw something for you (which they might), then I wouldn't have a shower. Like I said, I think your family will keep all of this in mind and you may end up getting a ton of stuff.

salopez007 · August 2014

Also, we had our baby registry on amazon, and they offer free shipping (and are generally cheaper than Babies R us). They could always print out a picture of what they got you, and you'll get everything when you get home. I had a friend that had hers this way.

Cherryblossoms07 · August 2014

I didn't plan on having a baby shower. We had just moved across country from both our families before our first child. Plus, we had lived away from home for quite some time before we got married so returning home for a shower just didn't feel right. In the end, our new neighbors ended up throwing a small baby shower when they heard we would not be having a shower. They invited others from our new neighborhood. It was fun and a great way to meet everyone in the neighborhood! Our family and closest friends ended up mailing gifts after DD was born.

iluvmytxrgr · August 2014

I've known a lot of people who have had "virtual" or Skype showers. Family shipped everything and mom waited to open everything until a certain date. On that date, a family member had a party and invited people over who had sent gifts. Mom skyped in and open presents so everyone could see.

CRich15 · October 2014

I didn't have a shower with either one of my boys... I'm still kind of bummed because I feel I shorted my family and myself on that special experience but its one of the many sacrifices I've made since enlisting. There are many unique ways of still having a shower as previous posters have mentioned. I hope it works out for you and you have a great time!

cheshyrecatt · November 2014

When my first was born, we were living in San Diego,CA. We flew to GA for a "shower", but had people ship gifts to our home in CA.
It was mostly family at the "shower", so it was nice that they got to meet her and ask us what we found we needed most.

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