Just a tiny bit of panic

JulyMommy24 · November 2014

Found out today that DH is not going to be able to make it to our first scan next week, and I have admit I'm a little panicked about it. PGAL is a scary scary thing, and the thought of going there and not seeing anything without my husband to lean on.....it is terrifying. He has this way of making me feel like no matter what situation we happen to be in. He keeps me strong. Which I will need especially since I have to take the babies. I hate taking the babies with me to the RE (I feel like it's really bad form) but we haven't told anyone about the pregnancy so I don't have a babysitter..... I know that I can't sit and just worry about it. I know it will maybe, hopefully, possibly, be ok BUT that's all rational thought, and at this moment I am not a very rational being.

snickers83 · November 2014

I am right there with you. Our last pregnancy ended in loss and I found out by myself. My DH hardly missed any of my first two children's appointments and he had to miss the appointment where we lost our 3rd. Now I have an appointment in 1 1/2 weeks and he can't make it. It will be 8 weeks, which is the week we lost our last baby. I'm terrified to go alone.

JulyMommy24 · November 2014

@snickers83 I am sorry you're hubby is going to miss it too

Stupid grown ups with responsibilities and crap!!

I am only going to be 6 weeks. I called this morning to try and change the appointment but they wouldn't let me because of the holidays they are really really busy. Even my appointment is double booked. I'm irritated because DH has so much vacation time but everytime he tries to take it there is always some deadline or meeting that he just can't miss. I literally hate his boss right now. DH asked for this day off last week and they agreed but now they just can't spare him for a single moment. I want to PUNCH him! (boss not DH)

sschwege · November 2014

He can't make up the time another way? Stay late or something?

There isn't a trusted person you could tell just for the extra help/support?

bim38106 · November 2014

I'm sorry. I have my first scan tomorrow morning and H can't make it either. He has to be home to take DD1 to school and watch DD2 who is only in school in the afternoon... And he works too far away for him to come home for an afternoon appt. he wasn't with me at the u/s where I found out I lost the baby last time, so I'm nervous... But what can you do...I also have to go straight from the appt. to dd2's parent/teacher conference. Praying for good news for all of us!

JulyMommy24 · November 2014

They have clients coming in so no he can't take a half day or break away or make up the time. It is so annoying that they knew he had scheduled this vacation before scheduling the meeting but whatever.

I could maybe take a friend or family member except I don't want to. What I want is my husband and right now I want to be whiney and mad that he's not going to be there..... Tomorrow I will think about a solution today I just wanna be a baby

bosco213 · November 2014

Sorry you're going through this

I moved my first u/s to the middle of the day because I had some spotting and DH wasn't able to come. I was really bummed, but I know there will be more appointments.

FX for you! Chances are everything is just fine

JulyMommy24 · November 2014

@bosco213‌ did it turn out OK or have you not had it yet? Spotting is always scary, I don't care how normal it is.

mkrupar · November 2014

I'm sorry your H can't make it. I can't imagine how stressful it will be without him there. I like PP's suggestion of telling a friend you have to get Christmas shopping done or something to see if they can watch the other ones.

hullabalou · November 2014

Fx it all works out somehow and he is able to make it!

bosco213 · November 2014

JulyMommy24 said:

@bosco213‌ did it turn out OK or have you not had it yet? Spotting is always scary, I don't care how normal it is.

Yes, thanks for asking, everything was fine!

I spotted for about a week between 6.5w and 7.5w. It was scary since it was pink blood, but my doctor just said I had an irritated cervix. I bawled my eyes out when I heard the heartbeat. I really, really wish my husband could have been there, but I'm glad I went in early (our first appt was Monday night, I ended up going in Thurs afternoon). I would have been a wreck all weekend.

And I agree, spotting is terrifying now matter how normal it may be.

JulyMommy24 · November 2014

bosco213 said:

JulyMommy24 said:

@bosco213‌ did it turn out OK or have you not had it yet? Spotting is always scary, I don't care how normal it is.

Yes, thanks for asking, everything was fine!

I spotted for about a week between 6.5w and 7.5w. It was scary since it was pink blood, but my doctor just said I had an irritated cervix. I bawled my eyes out when I heard the heartbeat. I really, really wish my husband could have been there, but I'm glad I went in early (our first appt was Monday night, I ended up going in Thurs afternoon). I would have been a wreck all weekend.

And I agree, spotting is terrifying now matter how normal it may be.

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I am so glad. It is a bummer that your H missed it though. I guess I should thank my stars that the reason for the scan isn't because of signs of trouble, and DH can't go.
It is just a routine scan that DH can't go to.

OK I'm sorry for being a baby. I am over it now. (though still worried). The Christmas shopping excuse for a babysitter is a brilliant one, thank you @3timemom‌

@bim38106‌ good luck tomorrow!!! Let me know how it goes, I'll be thinking of you.

bim38106 · November 2014

Thanks @JulyMommy24! Just got back and I got to see and hear a heartbeat! So very thankful for that!

JulyMommy24 · November 2014

bim38106 said:

Thanks @JulyMommy24! Just got back and I got to see and hear a heartbeat! So very thankful for that!

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