Pregnancy has turned me into a crappy mom

digwriter · November 2014

Poor DD1. I have so little patience for her toddler insanity these days. I'm tired all the time, haven't been joining in floor play as much, Bubble Guppies and Wallykazam are on far too often these days and I send her to play with daddy as much as possible. I just wish I had more energy, because she only has about 9 weeks left to be my one and only. I suck.

twinklymama · November 2014

Feeling the same way as you @digwriter. It gets better. God I hope it gets better.

jennjilljo · November 2014

Same here. When I do join in on floor play I'm just miserable and exhausted in minutes. I've started turning my chores into games so that he at least feels like he's getting attention when I physically have to be doing things that aren't paying attention to him.

t8keepr03 · November 2014

This made me sad because your post made me realize I am doing this too. I pawn her off on her daddy as much as possible because I just want to sit. She never stops moving and I just can't keep up. She is only 15 months and I feel bad because she just doesn't understand. Although, she knows something is up. She has been super clingy, specifically towards my belly. This morning she was sitting on her changing table and just hugged my belly out of no where. I cried because I realized that I only have about 13 weeks left with just her and I haven't been spending the quality time I should be. I know how you feel. I am going to really try to sit on the floor against the couch and play with her.

Zsmommmy · November 2014

I'm sure you're a great mommy don't get down on yourself it's not intentional that we somewhat neglect our kid it's just pregnancy is a lot and once the new baby come we will be able to do things that we sorta slacked on while the nb is sleeping not for nothing I feel the same way sometimes too but my son is 7 so when he misses me he comes to snuggle with me other than that he's glued to his game or toys

Paleomama · November 2014

Don't be so hard on yourself. You are only human. As long as we are there for our little ones that is all that matters. This does not mean we can't have some time for our selfs. If we can't keep ourself happy and healthy we are no good to our kids.

kerrigrooves · November 2014

Im in the same boat too, my DD turns two tomorrrow and Im throwing her a party at our house and Im so freaking tired and cranky. Its going to drain me but I realize I havent been playing with her as much and Mickey is on way too much...thank goodness for daddy time.

dreemkin84 · November 2014

I feel the same way. DD and I did not see eye to eye tonight and I think we both got frustrated. I hope it'll get better for us all going through this!

digwriter · November 2014

DD1 is a super active 2 year old and i just can't keep up. Sometimes i get my phone and hide in the bathroom just to get a few moments to myself. It's pretty bad.

SBmomma · November 2014

Same exact thing here!!

My DH has really had to step up and handle DS the majority of the time. And yes, I feel so bad knowing that I only have a small window of time alone with DS before the twins arrive.

WanderingA · November 2014

I feel ya, I'm ashamed of how much I have come to rely on Elmo. I try to make specific "mommy and Addie" times where we just sit on the floor and play for a while or go to a park, no distractions. It's extra hard with online school and I feel like I'm on my computer in front of her way too much, but we are doing the best we can. I'm trying to embrace these last weeks when it's just the two of us!

Beth.1212 · November 2014

t8keepr03 said:

This made me sad because your post made me realize I am doing this too. I pawn her off on her daddy as much as possible because I just want to sit. She never stops moving and I just can't keep up. She is only 15 months and I feel bad because she just doesn't understand. Although, she knows something is up. She has been super clingy, specifically towards my belly. This morning she was sitting on her changing table and just hugged my belly out of no where. I cried because I realized that I only have about 13 weeks left with just her and I haven't been spending the quality time I should be. I know how you feel. I am going to really try to sit on the floor against the couch and play with her.

I think that sounds really sweet. Does she have any inkling that her baby bro/sis is in there? If my DS (22 - no, wait, 23 months, how did that happen without me noticing?!) hugged my belly, I'd be like, oh you love your your baby sister, don't you?

phisigangel28 · November 2014

My daughter is almost 2 1/2 and I feel the same way lately.

ataylorbaby · November 2014

I'm so glad to hear that I'm not the only one going through this. My 2 year old son is non stop and I love him for that but I'm so tired that I can't keep up! I must admit that right now the iPad has become a lifesaver it's the only time I can get him to be still. I worry sometimes about how to handle it all. Work, him, my husband, and my house (which looks like a disaster all the time lately). Sleep is getting harder and harder which also doesn't help! For 3rd time mommies how did you get through?

cinnamonsugar · November 2014

I feel bad because I'm always looking up stuff we will need for the new baby, and I haven't even given a SERIOUS thought to Christmas for DD1. Baby won't/shouldn't be here until at least 6-8 weeks after Christmas and this is her last year to be my only one to spoil.
I have GOT to do better.

digwriter · November 2014

I'm thinking that if so many of us about to be moms of two are feeling this way that it must be a normal thing. Good to know that we're not alone here.

lizzybean · November 2014

You are definitely not alone! I have expressed this so many times. It is so tough to play with her on the floor now, and I am just so worn out and sore all the time!

I have been encouraging lots of story time and snuggle time in Mommy's bed, she is my "big helper" a lot and helps me take things to the recycling or garbage can, and there has definitely been more Mickey Mouse Clubhouse on our TV lately than I care to admit.

And on the subject of hiding in the bathroom, I do the same damn thing. When my husband gets home I tell him I need to use the washroom, lock the bedroom door, and lounge on my bed for a good 5 minutes. Then I walk into the bathroom and flush the toilet before coming back out. How's that for pathetic?!

Hang in there, we are all doing our best!

chicagojackie · November 2014

DD is 2y and she is such a momma's girl. So we spend a lot of time watching "Mickey Mouse Clubhouse" if I am not feeling well. I also bring her in the shower with me, which she totally loves, so that is a good 30 minutes where she and I are just to ourselves. She got this precious robe from Gap kids for her birthday so she gets to wear her robe and do her hair "just like mama" which she really likes.

Not helping is that I am working most of this weekend picking up a few shifts so am gone more than normal. She really gave H a hard time yesterday too, adding to the mommy guilt. But honestly? This idea that every day has to be an amazing special day with our kids is kind of ridiculous. My mother did not exist to entertain me. Sure she played with me here and there and read me books and interacted, but she had to do things, too.

WanderingA · November 2014

@lizzybean I'm now pretty convinced we're leading identical lives. The flushing the toilet/running the water after I laid on the bed for 5 minutes trick works wonders!

vpeazy · November 2014

I'm glad I'm not the only one! The other day I posted on FB how much I love my boys, but I would give anything for a full nights sleep and a few hours to just relax. I had so many nasty comments about counting my blessings, and how many women would love to be me etc... I count my blessings DAILY esp after the last few weeks in my family. All I was saying was that I'm human, and I'm tired! Working 10 hr days and raising 3 kids along with running a household of 5 is a lot aid work! Yes I chose it, and I love it, but even the best mother needs a break! Don't be so hard on yourself. I think if we didn't feel this way sometimes, then we should worry! Chin up mama!

lizzybean · November 2014

LOL @WanderingA I love it!! Glad to know there's someone out there doing the same thing!

mishka29 · November 2014

Ugh this is me too but my issue is more that my already limited patience is wearing even thinner these days and just when the terrible twos are hitting early. The fake tantrums are just too much and she pushes every button I have!

pixelatedjane · November 2014

I'm right there with all of y'all. I've felt so bad throughout this pregnancy because I feel like there's so much I can't (or don't have the energy to) do with my DS. He's almost 4 and I've been struggling with the idea of sharing my love and attention with another child. It's exciting and sad simultaneously. I was a single mom for the first 2.5 years and we got so close... It's tough to rely on his stepdad now to do so much that I used to do with/for him. Today he asked "mommy, when you have the baby does that mean you can hold me again?" Because I haven't been able to carry him.

it just about broke my heart. I'm very much looking forward to having DD here so that we can get back to (at least some of) our old routine.

sleepymama29 · November 2014

I am so happy I found this post. Know you are not alone! DD is almost 2 1/2 and most days she plays with play doh and watches Peppa Pig. I feel so bad that I don't play with her like I used to especially since she is a huge mamas girl but I am also using all this time to just cuddle with her lol! I figure after the baby comes I'll feel up to playing with her more so I'm not too worried about this period affecting her too much!

wendy46001 · November 2014

I'm with you all. DD is 3 and its just exhausting to watch her run around. We've been playing on the couch/ottoman a lot because I just cant get to the floor. I've also stepped up our coloring time, not to mention the tv and ipad. DH has been wonderful but it just breaks your heart when she says mommy play with me.

michelle142 · November 2014

I'm right there with you.

DS will be 3 in 2 weeks. I can't keep up with his energy level and I feel awful that I can't enjoy these last months of time with just him.

triplej9 · November 2014

I definitely feel the same way most days, and it hurts really bad. Thank goodness DH has been more than a savior and helping me out anytime I need him.

I am glad I'm not the only one.

jbbarrett · November 2014

So glad I'm not the only one my son is 2 1/2 and I have been feeling the same way.

Oem617 · November 2014

I understand 100%. Each day gets harder. DH was not around this weekend and it was so tough. Hoping I can get an hour to myself this holiday weekend.

digwriter · November 2014

Is anyone planning to do a special mommy and me day prior to the arrival of the new baby?

lorifromwi · November 2014

My DH is a life saver. Our DD is only 5 months old and he's doing a lot of the up and down to get her on her playmat, out of her crib, etc. We had a weekend away this past weekend it was so nice to not have to lift and bend over. This will get more interesting with two!

CatLadyTX · November 2014

Don't beat yourself up too much. I have a tough time playing with my 2yo son, too. It is so hard sitting on the floor, it hurts and is exhausting. She knows you love her.

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