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November 2014 Moms
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My horrible birth story ;( pic of Avery included.
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4 am exactly I head to the bathroom. Nothing unusual that I don't fully make it there before I start peeing. After I make it to the steps it's a full on run to the toilet with a splash all over as I sit. I look down on floor to find bloody water. I instantly start calling everyone quietly. Then tell my husband everyone is on their way and we need to go to hospital. Weather is bad we drive 45 minutes to hospital. By then it's been 1 1/2 hour since water break. I walk into labor and delivery with a huge smile on my face and yell my water broke let's have a baby!!! They all start laughing! We get to a delivery room and they hook me up and tell me they aren't seeming contractions. Check for amniotic fluid. Inconclusive. My insurance doesn't pay for test so they do fern test. Negative and an ultrasound showed fluid around baby. You can walk halls or go home. Water didn't break and no contractions. I am upset and I don't understand and I am crying hysterically. I get dressed and limp down the hall in pain while holding rail and go home.
I cry all the way home not understanding what it was. I was no longer leaking fluid. By 10 am I start to calm down enough to realize my contractions are able to be timed. They are a little sporadic but pretty close to 5-1-1. I labored for 2-3 hours at home on body ball and hot showers. By 100 my husband said we are going to hospital. I cried on way there that they would send me home. Once again another drive over 30 minutes away in bad weather. They stick me in triage hook me up and tell me I'm not having contractions. I said yes I am I have been timing them. She said they aren't showing up. She checks me and in 5 cm and 90 effaced but says no contractions. Calls doctor and she admits me. The nurse keeps staying I'm not having contractions. I said then what am I feeling!!! I ask for pain Meds she says let me check you obviously taking her time to finish admitting me. Checks me 6-7 and fully effaced. I said I wanted epidural. She said I should really wait because I'm not having contractions. Mind you I have actively been in labor. Having a hard time breathing through them. Death grip on rails of bed laying on my side. She gives me IV Meds. I can breath but contractions still not better. She says it won't work for back labor. Despite her opinion that I don't need epidural I ask for one. And tell her I need to push. She says you aren't ready and your not having contractions so pushing isn't going to help. It takes 15 minutes for epidural guy to get there. I start feeling it working. She says let me check you. Puts my feet up in bed and says your ready. As she walks out of the room stating that she doesn't see how I'm 10 cm if I'm not having contractions. She never comes back at all. A new nurse is present. My doctor shoes shortly and says she is going to break my water. Looks at nurses and says did you guys break her water. Charge nurse keeps asking who broke the water. Finally says. Her water did not break here. Because my water broke at 4 am!!!!! My birth experience was horrible!!! I begged my husband to just forget about it. As my family and friends started visiting I became very emotional about what happened. With no sleep. Not eating. My colostrum was drying up. My blood pressure was 168/132 at one reading. My daughter wasn't latching in anymore. I finally told my nurse and lactation consultant They were both in tears. I had to tell the story numerous times to unit manager and others.
My muse didn't beleive I was in labor or having contractions. Was nasty to me because of it. Pretty much implied I was faking contractions even though I was progressing. Everyone told me I would know when I felt them. I did know. Now I was being told I was wrong. So I made it to 10 cm before an epidural. If she had checked me again I would never have had An epidural.
I honestly can't tell if I have the baby blues or PTSD. I cry every time I think about it or tell the story. I've asked my husband not to talk about what happened around me and let's not tell anyone the story anymore because I really don't want to relive it.
So in the end I still have this adorable little girl. Her daddy is in complete love and she has him wrapped already.
Avery Rose Saam. Our rainbow baby. Born the day after our wedding anniversary and the day before my 38th birthday. She is amazing.
I cry all the way home not understanding what it was. I was no longer leaking fluid. By 10 am I start to calm down enough to realize my contractions are able to be timed. They are a little sporadic but pretty close to 5-1-1. I labored for 2-3 hours at home on body ball and hot showers. By 100 my husband said we are going to hospital. I cried on way there that they would send me home. Once again another drive over 30 minutes away in bad weather. They stick me in triage hook me up and tell me I'm not having contractions. I said yes I am I have been timing them. She said they aren't showing up. She checks me and in 5 cm and 90 effaced but says no contractions. Calls doctor and she admits me. The nurse keeps staying I'm not having contractions. I said then what am I feeling!!! I ask for pain Meds she says let me check you obviously taking her time to finish admitting me. Checks me 6-7 and fully effaced. I said I wanted epidural. She said I should really wait because I'm not having contractions. Mind you I have actively been in labor. Having a hard time breathing through them. Death grip on rails of bed laying on my side. She gives me IV Meds. I can breath but contractions still not better. She says it won't work for back labor. Despite her opinion that I don't need epidural I ask for one. And tell her I need to push. She says you aren't ready and your not having contractions so pushing isn't going to help. It takes 15 minutes for epidural guy to get there. I start feeling it working. She says let me check you. Puts my feet up in bed and says your ready. As she walks out of the room stating that she doesn't see how I'm 10 cm if I'm not having contractions. She never comes back at all. A new nurse is present. My doctor shoes shortly and says she is going to break my water. Looks at nurses and says did you guys break her water. Charge nurse keeps asking who broke the water. Finally says. Her water did not break here. Because my water broke at 4 am!!!!! My birth experience was horrible!!! I begged my husband to just forget about it. As my family and friends started visiting I became very emotional about what happened. With no sleep. Not eating. My colostrum was drying up. My blood pressure was 168/132 at one reading. My daughter wasn't latching in anymore. I finally told my nurse and lactation consultant They were both in tears. I had to tell the story numerous times to unit manager and others.
My muse didn't beleive I was in labor or having contractions. Was nasty to me because of it. Pretty much implied I was faking contractions even though I was progressing. Everyone told me I would know when I felt them. I did know. Now I was being told I was wrong. So I made it to 10 cm before an epidural. If she had checked me again I would never have had An epidural.
I honestly can't tell if I have the baby blues or PTSD. I cry every time I think about it or tell the story. I've asked my husband not to talk about what happened around me and let's not tell anyone the story anymore because I really don't want to relive it.
So in the end I still have this adorable little girl. Her daddy is in complete love and she has him wrapped already.
Avery Rose Saam. Our rainbow baby. Born the day after our wedding anniversary and the day before my 38th birthday. She is amazing.
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Re: My horrible birth story ;( pic of Avery included.
I'm sorry you didn't have a great birth experience. Try not to focus on it, I'm sure some of the tears are purely post partum hormonal changes. Pay attention to your self though, especially if you start lacking motivation.
My birth experience wasn't great either, not quite like yours. I'm battling low milk supply atm and it's tough. I remind myself I worked damn hard to get this baby here and I'm not giving up yet. I do know that I will do what I need to and I won't give a crap what anybody thinks.
Also, being AL makes it completely different. Tears come for everything, past grief, happiness, anxiety, it's every emotional rolled into one. I was in tears telling my baby I love you the other day. Hang in there momma!!!
BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbow Baby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!
DX: Uterine Septum - Resection 9/5/13 || MTHFR Hetero A1298C || My Chart
Congratulations on your baby girl. She's beautyyy
Please take care of yourself!
Your daughter is simply gorgeous and I love her name
Avery is absolutely beautiful!
I hope there was some way to report that nurse, she sounds terrible!
@KMW08 I am also dealing with low milk right now. My colostrum was drying up in hospital. That became the emotional break for me after Avery's birth. After 6 hours of a fussy baby that wouldn't latch anymore I gave her formula. By her second feeding she was so happy and able to latch again. Still struggling with it. I just pump before she eats and mix it with the formula. All I can really do with 5 ml of milk. I might throw in the breast feeding towel. I get headaches from auto pump and slot of sinus pressure.
I am doing better with the birth of Avery. I can't wait to get that survey in the mail!!!!!! Actually I think I am going to write a letter. Hear to find out that nurse is nasty to people. Then I think for other women I should come forward and she should be fired!!! I shouldn't have to pay thousands of dollars for shitty service. Plus I wasn't in labor anyways right!!!!
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green