Officially sick of being approached - bratty vent

sasky · November 2014

I know we talk about this all.the.time on this board. But I've hit a wall.

I've always been fine with people coming up to me to talk about the twins. I've gone out almost every day for the last 4-5 months (I get stir crazy!). I'm approached multiple times, as we all are. No big deal, I'm fine with it. Until recently.

It's the same conversation every time.

Are they twins?
Two boys/girls?
You're so lucky.
They're beautiful.
You must have your hands full.
Good luck!

If it's not all of those it's a couple.

I have to run errands today and I am dreading it. I'm trying to think of some way out of it. I just don't want to deal. I want to walk around without anticipating the next conversation! I miss being invisible! Haha

nebrasskagal · November 2014

I am tired of people coming up and interrupting my conversation when out to eat. Unless they are paying for my meal they should but out. Also annoyedat the waitress who asked me, are they natural? Well they aren't plastic! And what business is it of yours! Vent over

PinkinProvence · November 2014

At least their comments are nice. With b/b twins, I get daily "It would have been so nice if they boy/girl" or "Too bad they are not boy and girl" or My nephew is so lucky he had a boy and a girl."

Makes my blood boil especially after I was so happy and relieved to find out that they were the same sex!

sasky · November 2014

PinkinProvence said:
At least their comments are nice. With b/b twins, I get daily "It would have been so nice if they boy/girl" or "Too bad they are not boy and girl" or My nephew is so lucky he had a boy and a girl."

Makes my blood boil especially after I was so happy and relieved to find out that they were the same sex!

This is why I always feel weird when people tell me I'm lucky to have b/g. I feel like it's a shot at people who have b/b or g/g. I would have been lucky no matter what to have 2 healthy babies!

CaliCarly77 · November 2014

PinkinProvence said:

At least their comments are nice. With b/b twins, I get daily "It would have been so nice if they boy/girl" or "Too bad they are not boy and girl" or My nephew is so lucky he had a boy and a girl."

Makes my blood boil especially after I was so happy and relieved to find out that they were the same sex!

I get this too all the time!!!! And "so your husband must want a boy then!" YES HE DOES actually and its effing annoying lol lol.

CaliCarly77 · November 2014

Oh or I get "too bad they aren't identical" mmm ok?? really?

chickaboo1974 · November 2014

I guess I am rude- I ignore them and continue on. My boys are 4- and yes I still get questioned at least once every time we go out. It gets less as time goes on, and many of my friends who have b/g twins stop getting asked around 4/5.

Early on I would just smile/answer question all while not stopping what I was doing- even if it was pushing a stroller thru the mall.

As for being asked if they are natural- I can top that. I was asked at a library story time- are they normal?. Yes I gave that woman a nasty look and said is your child normal? I think I shamed her.

MrsP419 · November 2014

I normally don't mind questions...but I am SO over "you must have your hands full." Seriously? Do they think they are original saying that? What does that even mean? Twins don't automatically = hands full. Having my first two made my "hands full" sometimes. And I get it from EVERYONE- even friends. It is just the lamest conversation piece (and I know it is probably because they don't know what else to say). At if you are going to be generic, say something that has a positive connotation.

carrotcake06 · November 2014

I've perfected my resting bitch face. I also avoid eye contact and don't longer.

ballygirl · November 2014

chickaboo1974 said:

I guess I am rude- I ignore them and continue on. My boys are 4- and yes I still get questioned at least once every time we go out. It gets less as time goes on, and many of my friends who have b/g twins stop getting asked around 4/5.

Early on I would just smile/answer question all while not stopping what I was doing- even if it was pushing a stroller thru the mall.

As for being asked if they are natural- I can top that. I was asked at a library story time- are they normal?. Yes I gave that woman a nasty look and said is your child normal? I think I shamed her.

OMG - whaaat? That is nutso. I would have ask the woman if SHE was normal? In this entire year I have not gotten any blatantly rude comments like some of the ones I've seen mentioned on this board. I do feel more self conscious when I go out now though because I know people look at us.

I normally don't mind it if they are just being friendly. Especially if they are old women. I get stopped by a lot of old women who seem lonely and just want to talk and I always have a soft spot for them. I get really annoyed though when I am clearly busy or the girls are clearly getting fussy and people want to stop and chat for 10 minutes.