Harassed on Instagram about Pregnancy Size? *vent

Re: Harassed on Instagram about Pregnancy Size? *vent

• robsbabygirl08 member

  November 2014

  You do have one of the tiniest bumps here, but I think it's cute. Sorry somebody was a dick to you about it.

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• BookitBoo member

  November 2014

  What? Seriously? Random strangers do this? I'm sorry you had to deal with this. How creepy!

  
  

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• peggels24 member

  November 2014

  I'm sorry - that's really shitty. Why would a stranger feel the need to comment? Asshole..

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• littleprettybride member

  November 2014

  grumpycat88 brilliant idea!

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• ncampese member

  November 2014

  People are sick! You could always put your Insta on a private setting so only your followers can see your stuff. Sorry they were a dick to you. That shit isn't cool.

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• nursemarie925 member

  November 2014

  Idk why ppl feel it's ok to comment on others' bodies. I hear it daily at work. Apparently I'm not "big" enough to be 32 weeks. I still have no idea the best way to respond to that. I usually say it's because I'm tall, and she's more stretched up than out. Lol. But it's still a pain. And pretty damn awkward.

  

  
  

  

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• NatureLovers member

  November 2014

  I agree that your bump is pretty small, but I sure as hell wouldn't say anything, especially to a complete stranger! How freaking rude.

  
  

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• littleprettybride member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  @nursemarie925‌ yep! Sucks right? I mean to finally have a bump and to be so happy about it and then someone comes and shizzes all over it. I'm sorry it's awkward for you too. Everyone carries differently and people just don't get that I guess. But who is searching pregnant women hashtags to harass them about stuff- weirdos. Never had a problem with Instagram for years until this! Smh.
  
  Everyone else, thanks for agreeing that it's off the wall. I don't know why I am still bent out of shape over it. She deleted her comments though - probably realizes she was an being a creepy idiot (hopefully!).
  
  
  This is how it started. a compete stranger!

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• littleprettybride member

  November 2014

  Ahh I know why I'm still stewing on it. Because I didn't respond at all to her and the later comments she posted to others saying how dumb she is. I never got to give her a piece of my mind. I like to have the last word but as I grow older and wiser I'm learning to not say or do anything.

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• GirlWithAnchors member

  November 2014

  Omg how dare she go as far as to say you're basically starving your baby to stay thin ! Like what the hell! How stupid and rude! I'm sorry you had to deal with such a B***tch. Ugh that really gets on my nerves.

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• stephchris0321 member

  November 2014

  What a jerk! I'm sorry. It's probably a good thing that I'm not on Instagram because that would piss me off!

   

  

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• csjsmom member

  November 2014

  That's crazy! I'm almost 30 weeks and can still hide my bump if I want to. I went out with some friends and they couldn't tell. ( But I'm bigger than you and my chest sticks out way more than my stomach). No one suggests I'm not feeding my baby. RidiculOus! None of their business. You look great now. You'll probably look great after and they're just jealous or something!

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• Britt1406 member

  November 2014

  Did she suddenly become your OB? Who does that?? I would def keep my photos/account private. 

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• Milagros315 member

  November 2014

  That's fucked up. I'm sorry that someone did that to you

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• moonfaerie member

  November 2014

  WTF is wrong with some people?! Good for you for being the bigger person and ignoring her crazy shit.
  

  

  
  

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• ShuShubee member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  I can't believe a stranger would do that. Well, actually I can, but that is not okay. Some women are just smaller and some are larger (pregnant or not). That doesn't mean that a small or thin person is unhealthy. I was very skinny in my teen years (I was the epitome of an awkward teenager) and I would have people walk up to me asking me if I had an eating disorder. I didn't. In fact, I ate quite a bit, I just had a fast metabolism. It has since slowed a little getting older.
  
  My point is that some people don't know when to shut up. You and your baby are healthy and that is all that matters.
  

  
  
  

   
  

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• AlfiesMOM member

  November 2014

  Thats why my instagram is priviate! Sorry its so rude I actually just read and article about how some woman just don't get that big and there is nothing wrong with their babies at all, its just how they carry! The woman they showed never went into maternity clothes and she had an 8lb baby! 

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• misslizzy82 member

  November 2014

  If you WERE sick, did she think that would help you?  like all people with eating disorders need is for some random person to call them out?  WTF..

  I think you look beautiful! 

  

   

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• southernyankeegirl member

  November 2014

  Size shaming is so wrong. Why do people feel it's any of their business, and who died and made them boss of what's healthy (based on a photo!)???
  
  I have seen it happen to larger Mamas - where people assume they have GD or aren't eating healthy. Why oh why would someone who doesn't even know you feel it's okay to assume you aren't eating enough?!!
  
  

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• emilyp2013 member

  November 2014

  I feel you. People tell me I look 5 months, not 7. I asked my doctor about it and the conclusion is that women who were more athletic and/or having first babies have tight, strong abs that hold baby more inward. In my case, I am also very tall which contributes. So when people comment on it I take it as a compliment to my abs of "steel." Lol ;-) But, hey, I can still sit myself up straight from a supine position without aid from my arms or help from another person, which my doctor says is pretty impressive for 32.5 weeks. Haha

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• misslizzy82 member

  November 2014

  I didn't want to admit it, but I instastalked too and I'm totally jealous of your salad/fruit lunch. 

  

   

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• littleprettybride member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  Thanks for all the support ladies! 

  
  

  Mamasaurus15  that poor, poor lady That's horrible. Here is the picture: 

   She commented more back to the other ladies but I didn't get a print screen of that.

  
  

  Mamasaurus15 Not going to lie- I had to Google supine. Yeah, I definitely can't do that. IMPRESSIVE!!!

  
  

  ladyamanuetMamasaurus15 instastalk away. Not going to lie. I googled her name- found her LinkedIn profile. In one of her later comments on my pic- she said she was a medical professional and has seen many people like me and that's how she knows I have an eating disorder. https://www.linkedin.com/pub/melissa-grogan/53/277/665 indicates she is NOT in a medical background.  Also, the company she works for says "CDW is an AA/EOE Employer with respect to females, minorities, veterans and individuals with disabilities." It's interesting to me they'd employ someone like her who clearly does not display the company value regardless of being on the company's time or not. 

  
  

  How do people get by in life being like this in this day and age?!

  
  

  Ok. I feel much better now. Thanks for letting me vent and thanks for the support fellow Jan bump ladies You rock.

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• littleprettybride member

  November 2014 edited November 2014

  misslizzy82 hubby made me the salad. It wasn't enough so I topped it off with trail mix. But I didn't post a photo of that and this girl attacked my salad photo too- saying that's not enough to eat and I'm starving my baby. Shoot - I agree. I was not enough to eat and so I ate more. Photos don't tell the whole story!!! 

  
  

  Hope you get a salad today if you're craving one now

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• shannjohnston member

  November 2014

  1) Other people suck

  2) You look awesome (and as someone "measuring big" I am super jealous)

  3) You have every right to post your photos

  4) Other people also have the right to post what they think, even if they're wrong, but that leads us back to #1

  Also, think about how entire show can be built around the premise "I didn't even know I was pregnant".  Some ladies never bump, or have bumps that stay perfectly round and adorable. Your baby will be wonderfully perfect and healthy because you take care of yourself.  I'm glad other posters stuck up for you, but you can always take solace in #1.  

  
  

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• ellbellbr member

  November 2014

  People suck - your bump is small but it's cute. It's no one's business how big or small your bump is. As long as you are feeling well and your OB says your are healthy that's all that matters. 

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• britb618 member

  November 2014

  This is honestly the reason I hate hashtags. The whole purpose of them is so that Random People can look at your stuff because you are being put into a category you've created where everyone else is posting stuff. You look adorable but like other PP's said, can't control peoples rudeness and when you put it out there in the public strangers will say what they will. 

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• LaBellaVida member

  November 2014

  I was curious to see your bump, but I don't have IG. I don't even know how to stalk IG.
  Anyway. .. you look fabulous! People can be so rude!

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Samiantha101 member

  November 2014

  I am not a doctor, and I don't feel comfortable commenting on yours or anybody else's size. With that said, um, it's the Internet. I am not super familiar with Instagram, but obviously your settings allow for others to see your photos. If the comments really upset you, maybe you should stop posting them for all the world to see and comment on. Of course, that just seems like the obvious answer to me.

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• Kayanne87 member

  November 2014

  People can be dumb obnoxious trolls on the Internet. Just assume that instead of a medical degree she has sand in her hooha and that's why she feels the need to be bitter and judgy. What really sucks though are how many people who think they have the expertise to judge someone's health and criticize them for it. Bumps, like hands, ears and boobs, come in all different sizes and shapes and as long as your doctor says you're good, you're good! Plus that picture is so cute. Totally instagram-worthy. 

  

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• MKateG member

  November 2014

  Ugh, that girl is disgusting for saying that. She's definitely just jealous that you look fabulous pregnant and for some reason needs to make herself feel better by putting you down. I loved your last HDBD pic btw!
  
  I had a Nurse practitioner (specializing in urology) give me a look when I told her how far along I was with twins. She then asked what I was measuring! and said really that's not good you should be measuring 8 weeks ahead of that...blah blah blah. I just said well actually the babies are measuring big. I don't know why ppl think they have the right to say anything about another ladies' pregnancy health.

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• raveness member

  November 2014

  Wow... what a rude obnoxious bitch! I'm sorry this happened to you.

  
  

  
  

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• Beamer14 member

  November 2014

  Hey there...bored lurker from M15
  Just wanted to say what that woman said to you disgusts me, and way crossed a line. I totally understand why it upset you and got under your skin, but you are obviously beautiful and taking wonderful care of that little one! Don't let some weird creepo get you down...
  Oh, and thought she might like a taste of her own medicine...took a screenshot just in case she deleted

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• littleprettybride member

  November 2014

  Beamer14 THANK YOU! At first I didn't understand that was you commenting on her photo. It's hilarious, awesome and a fantastic taste of her own medicine. Definitely highlights how obnoxious the comment was.  I showed hubby and he enjoyed it too Thanks for sticking up for me and helping prevent (hopefully) her from harassing others.

  
  

  MKateG Thanks! That's crazy that a nurse practitioner (specializing in urology) would ask you that... pregnant ladies get urinary infections all the time, right? You'd think she'd be better educated in stuff like that for her line of work. (Then again, I am not anywhere close to that line of work so I could be wrong here). I'm sorry she gave you a hard time But you have double the joy coming, that's awesome! Hope you are feeling good

  
  

  emmyg65 and Kayanne87 - thanks sweeties!

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• pleirey member

  November 2014

  @Beamer14, is that your "bleach is bad for you" comment?  Because that is hilarious!  ) 

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• Beamer14 member

  November 2014

  @pleirey‌ lol yes it is she never replied either!
  @littleprettybride‌ you are very welcome what she did was uncalled for!

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• misslizzy82 member

  November 2014

  HAHAHAHA CDW is a software company...

  

   

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• FitmomJess member

  November 2014

  I've had people say I look small, then some say I look like I'm going to pop lol. It's hard to not let it bother you when you are already have enough to worry about. I think you look great, not that my opinion matters. You have a small frame to begin with and everyone carries differently. :-)
  

  

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• littleprettybride member

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  If only this chick could see this pic now of my baby delivered vaginally!

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• misslizzy82 member

  January 2015

  WOAH! what a big dude!  congrats!

  

   

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• robsbabygirl08 member

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  What a cute little chunky monkey!
  
  
  Edit: I'm referring to the baby in case anyone thinks I'm being an ass.

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