Pregnant after 35

NPGR: 20-year Reunion, eeek!

So, DH's 20-year HS reunion is coming up in a couple weeks. He was very sweet and didn't pressure me to go with him, but it just wouldn't feel right not to. As it gets closer, I'm getting really nervous! He went to school in a somewhat upscale part of town, and I only point that out because it means that the women will, in general, be pretty into their looks. (while I'm so natural, I'm still sporting my own hair color).  Of course, this is my choice, so normally, I could suck it up... but being just into my 2nd tri, means: 

1. I don't look or feel my best right now. 
2. NO ALCOHOL!

I bought a nice flowy maxi dress to disguise the blump and might splurge on some better makeup... but with all the current/upcoming PG expenses, it seems a little frivolous to go out and blow much more $$ than that on getting primped. 

The good news is that even though I don't have a cute bump to show, at least now we can tell people we're expecting. If this had been in the spring or summer (after TTC unsuccessfully for 2+ years), I would not have been in the emotional state to handle those questions from a bunch of strangers.  

Anyway, thanks for letting me get that off my chest. Any tips for surviving a reunion (without alcohol)?
Me-37, DH-38
Married in 2006, TTC #1 since Jan 2012

Baby Boy born June 1, 2015

He settles her in her home as a happy mother of children, praise the Lord! (Psalms 113:9)
And the peace of God, which surpasses all understand, will guard your heart and mind in Jesus Christ (Philippians 4:7)

Re: NPGR: 20-year Reunion, eeek!

  • Go to a makeup counter at Macy's or Dillards or Sephora (if you have one in your area) and ask for a makeover. They can give you some cook tips on getting gorgeous! Have fun!
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  • I hate reunions and avoid them like the plague.. haha

    If you have the time and desire, you could look through and practice hair and make-up looks on youtube.  I've learned a couple of updos that way.

    As for surviving the night, remember that everyone is probably anxious about appearing their best too.  Relax, be yourself, and try to have fun.
  • I recently went to my DH's 20 year hs reunion - was about 18 weeks pregnant. He also grew up in a pretty well-to-do area. We mostly socialized with his closest friends (who I already know) and then of course met lots of other folks I have heard of over the years.

    The funny thing - I don't think anyone really paid that much attention to how they/others looked. Fortunately I think a lot of that superficial stuff went away in the last 20 years. (I have my 20th next year so hopefully it will be the same!)

    Plus even if the people are superficial - who cares what they think - you probably won't see them again for another 10 - 20 years :)

    Hope you are able to have some fun.
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    TTC#1 since 3/2012

    Diagnosis : Unexplained Infertility

    3 BFN rounds Clomid + IUI
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    IVF 2 - BFN, 5 Frozen
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  • Yep, I'm in the do what you feel like doing for you to feel good, but to hell with anyone who wants to judge you camp. You've got bigger and better things to deal with :)

    As for surviving without alcohol, I've avoided reunions entirely but have ended up at plenty of social functions I'd rather not be at. So 2 ideas: 1) mocktails - fool yourself into thinking you're having a drink and 2) pregnancy perks, as in "phew I thought I could stay out later but I am pooped and even though I've only been here 45 min I think I need to go home and rest"
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  • Thanks all!

    I should go get a mall makeover, I've never done that.  I'm sure it will be worth braving the mall Thanksgiving weekend... right?

    And I guess if I can fool myself with decaf, I can fool myself with some "mocktails,' haha :) 

    I'm sure it will fun and my worries for nothing.  I'm just so frickin' emotional right now, that everything feels extra daunting.
    Me-37, DH-38
    Married in 2006, TTC #1 since Jan 2012

    Baby Boy born June 1, 2015

    He settles her in her home as a happy mother of children, praise the Lord! (Psalms 113:9)
    And the peace of God, which surpasses all understand, will guard your heart and mind in Jesus Christ (Philippians 4:7)

  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    edited November 2014
    Oh the no alcohol would kill me haha. Seriously though when I get my hair done and makeup done I feel like a hundred bucks!! Like Lady said you'll probably never see them ever again!

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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