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Mean Mommy

MrsCase1MrsCase1 member
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My husband says I am a Mean Mommy because I don't buy our kids Christmas or birthday presents till they're old enough to understand. I bought Lincoln gifts this year when he turned 3 and he didn't even notice in all the commotion so I saved them for potty training rewards. All of their needs are met and I have plenty of plastic from China littering my house so I feel no rush to ad to the chaos.

So...

1. Am I a mean mommy?

2. Bonus if you share what makes you a Mean Mommy.
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  • rainbowdashhrainbowdashh member
    If you're a mean mommy so am I! She doesn't understand, so I'm not going to spend the money.

    People couldn't wrap their heads around me not taking my toddler trick or treating. She's not very verbal so she can't even say trick or treat, I didn't need the candy, and it was windy as heck that night. I'm a meanie.
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  • MrsCase1MrsCase1 member
    Budget is a factor for me, too. I can't lie, money has been tight and we spent a small fortune getting Remington a bedroom set (each kid gets one nice set from us, LOL) so I don't feel the need. Especially at Christmas, they have two sets of grandparents, school parties, etc so lots of festivities and opportunities to get junk.
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  • nunzchucksnunzchucks member
    No. I'm actually annoyed that H is insisting on getting an equal number of gifts for DS and DD. DS has no idea he is getting less. Come on!
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  • CrysW08CrysW08 member
    I might buy my LO something, maybe the pjs/book idea that pp said. She has 3 sets of grandparents who have already started shipping her presents, no need for us to buy more!
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  • tbmadeamistaketbmadeamistake member
    Not mean. I'm getting him things but they are more to teach his sister that something actually belongs to Charlie, not just to her.  They are small and cheap and things we need anyway. 

    I also didn't trick or treat my toddler.  She helped me hand out candy and didn't once ask why she wasn't out collecting any of her own.  It will stay that way until she does ask.  If I'm lucky, I figure I have one more year. 

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  • MrsAyMrsAy member
    We keep having this discussion with DH, he is already buying her toys that she's not going to be able to use for another year or two. I've told him I just wanted to get her one special gift for us to remember her first Christmas and then something we need for her (a convertible car seat or whatever) but he won't have it.
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  • bridie926bridie926 member
    Not mean. Hands down.

    DH is already talking about how LO is gonna need a bigger tv in his room than the 20" one we have in there.
    1. The kid doesn't need ANY tv in his room.
    2. If he does have a tv, I don't want him to have a big one in there. Unless he gets a job and buys it for himself...IN HIS TEENS.
    3. He only wants this because DH was an only child in a wealthy family. A very nice and humble family, but of course he got all the things he asked for. Another reason I hope we have two kids. To teach EVERYONE that sharing and learning to live simply are important lessons.
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  • Hairstylist16Hairstylist16 member
    Definitely not a mean mom, when my DS was a three month old during Christmas I begged people to buy him diapers because he didn't need anything and it went on deaf ears. Money is pretty tight this year so DH and I was just joking/hoping that we'd skip Christmas since neither of the kids will remember and honestly my DS has so many toys its ridiculous and he'll be getting spoiled by grandparents anyway. Save the stress for when their 9 and want the newest IPhone and Tablet and everything else that's expensive.
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  • meritsamommameritsamomma member
    edited November 2014
    Definitely not mean. I'm making an Amazon Wish List for her which I plan to send to Grandparents/Aunts/Uncles. DH and i are debating buying a convertible carseat or this:
    https://smile.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00C2P6VWW/ref=aw_wl_ov_dp_2_7?colid=2M09MNVRCUK9Q&coliid=I2HNMHA5C4MVM6
    we figure even if she's not really aware of what's going on it would be nice to get her something we know she'll be playing with for a while.
    ETA: Gramma has gotten all of her favorite toys so far so that factors in to us wanting to give her something.
    And my Mean Momma moment is when DH wants to go next door (we live next door to my IL's) and K is ready for a nap I veto him taking her so I'm being "mean" by keeping her on a schedule (or at least a routine)
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  • babygabe614babygabe614 member
    Regarding the original question, I don't think you're mean at all. I did buy a few things for LO but that's because I have never actually bought her anything new before. Any toys she has were either given to us at my shower or I bought second hand from local yard sale/swap sites. Same for 99% of her clothes and all of her books. So I felt like for me personally, it was a nice and special thing to get her a couple things brand new and they are toys she can use for a while (like a sit and stand walker). 

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  • coffee89coffee89 member
    I gave my mom and sister, and plan to do the same for my in-law's a list of practical things Zach needs/will need and a few guidelines on what to purchase toy wise. Things I know he is getting from my family include a bouncer, some toys for when he is closer to 9mo, piggy bank, books, and some pajamas.

    From us he is getting a children's bible, a new baby gate, some bigger clothes, sippy cups etc. Mostly just things we would be buying him anyway.


    I don't need a million toys littering the floor. I also plan to do toy rotation to keep his interest so we don't need a whole lot anyways.
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  • brooklyngirl46brooklyngirl46 member
    I bought a Chanukah related picture book, and will probably buy other books for the holiday. Right now LO is still fascinated by the tag on the pack n play mattress. I'm sure she will be fine without new toys overwhelming her space. I don't think it's mean to spend only when it makes sense to spend. 

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  • tbmadeamistaketbmadeamistake member
    @MegK82‌ you sound like my parents. Love it.

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  • lechollslecholls member
    Definitely not mean.
    I asked all family to please only buy E one gift or nothing at all for this Christmas since he has no idea what is going on. Absolutely no one is listening to me though. MH and I got him a lovey and a cute outfit and besides stocking stuffers like bowls, spoons, teethers, that's all that he is getting from us.
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  • jenlynne0624jenlynne0624 member
    Not mean. I bought him a bunch of presents anyway because I couldn't resist. When I say a bunch I mean three toys for Christmas morning and two small things for his stocking. I had to give grandparents a list and tell them to keep it to a minimum because he's the only grandkid and people would have gone bonkers. They seemed receptive. I wanted clothes and books for H more than anything. 
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