visitors after delivery?

dorota5314 · November 2014

I have been thinking about whether or not to have visitors after delivery. My husband would rather having visitors the same day! I am against it as I'd rather rest and bond and enjoy our new baby. It's our first

What are people's thoughts on having visitors (including immediate family) in the hospital?

Currently, we have agreed on no visitors day 1 and possibly having visitors on day 2 depending on how I am feeling.

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TeeJ526 · November 2014

I was in hospital for 2 days I had visitors and loved it. Being in the hospital can be very lobely outside of random checkins from nurses so having my family around was nice. Now, I made it a point to say that I didn't want people waiting while I was in labor, but it was pretty fair game after delivery as long as I knew who was coming.

Neesey · November 2014

I'm having people text DH first to check. If I'm good then come in in!

amandamarie2 · November 2014

FTM so no previous experience but I think I would have people text DH first. We did that with our friends after they had kids so we could make sure to come at a time that was convenient for them, though we waited until they were home from the hospital.

AnnaK1985 · November 2014

I haven't even given this any thought. I don't know how I'm going to feel after delivery, but I'll probably pass on visitors. And hope people respect that. I do like the idea of people texting to see if it's OK.

mwerren · November 2014

FTM but my intentions are to let family and friends visit while I'm in the hospital after birth, pending everything went smoothly. I don't really want everyone knocking on my house door that first week we get to bring the baby home. I would rather just have my privacy then

ashiscute · November 2014

I loved having visitors as well. My mom was in the room when both babies were born and both grandparents came up that day. You'd be surprised how quickly you will feel better and how slow time moves in the hospital. Also, I agree that people tend to stay for shorter time than if they came to your house.

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thejucheidea · November 2014

My husband and doula are the only ones who will be at the hospital, but both sets of grandparents will probably be at our house seven miles from the hospital. After birth, I'll let my husband contact everyone and have just the four grandparents come by. I don't think I want anyone but the grandparents to visit in the hospital -- others can come by the house later.

missamERICA · November 2014

I had my son at 9:30pm and my parents and inlaws were in the waiting room. After 2 hours they were allowed in to see us/him quickly before they had to leave. I enjoyed being able to share him with them right away - especially bc he was the first grandchild to both. The next day I had a few visitors.. it was a weekday so most people were working, so I wasn't bombarded which was nice, and the next day we went home.. so I really didn't have too many. I was fine with it. I wanted to show him off

This time, my DH doesn't want anyone there, but I do (if they want to be there) so we have to discuss it a little further, but I don't mind the visitors.

jess412love · November 2014

The birth of my son ended up being an emergency c section ("stat section") where they put me out and my husband didn't even make it in the room in time before my son was out. It took me 2 or 3 hrs before I woke up and met my son. By that time he had already met my mom, my husbands parents, my sister in law, and my best friend. (Crazy huh?!) anywho...I had a longer hospital stay due to needing a blood transfusion and other things, so we had quite a few visitors in the 6 days we were there. I was ok with it, just wish I would've been able to be more "present" in the first few hours, but I didn't mind sharing!

For this birth we are playing everything by ear. I want my son to meet his baby sister before all the craziness, but after that I don't mind.

Edited bc words are hard tonight

becnicole0210 · November 2014

Well for us it got kinda crazy. Right after delivery maybe 10-15 min after my room got packed about 20-25 ppl all came into our room all at once. It was a little bit stressful. We wanted to spend time with our son alone but weren't able to. It was a big relief when every body left. I plan on only allowing one person or maybe 2 ppl in the room at a time this round.

Anne Mommy · November 2014

We had people check first to make sure it was ok. At least everyone but my parents checked. They just showed up repeatedly. I loved having visitors to break up the time. Our hospital has "Mommy and baby nap time" every afternoon. You can have visitors if you want, but you can also tell the nurses that you need rest. I frequently said things like "DS needs to eat, so you can wait in the gathering space" to our visitors. I wasn't super comfortable with breastfeeding and didn't want a bunch of people staring.

mamaloaf · November 2014

I had visitors as soon as I was moved from L&D to recovery and it was fine. Next time, I will ask that they hold off an hour or so because my new nurse was trying to give me my fancy underwear and pads and I couldn't hear her because everyone was groveling over baby girl.

I was adamant about not having anyone but DH and I in the room during my labor or delivery, and it was a beautiful experience to share with him.

ruthf1989 · November 2014

I don't want to have visitors until a few hours after my baby is back in the room with me. We haven't told anyone yet since I'm not due until april. I want to have some time with my baby before everyone starts coming up to visit.

bmstee03 · November 2014

I hated visitors. I would have preferred no one coming to see us until we got home. That didn't happen the first time and won't happen this time either I'm sure. I did keep it to the bare minimum though. You have to do what makes you comfortable.

jobotrobot · November 2014

I can't imagine not having visitors, especially my mom, sister, aunts, and close friends. I'll probably make a list of who I want to have come and then DH can inform them when it's time. Other people won't come because they won't know to come.

orangecurls · November 2014

With my first, we had no visitors until baby was about 2 weeks old. I liked it this way. Im pretty private, and when My In-laws visited, they held baby a lot and didn't want to give him back for feedings and comfort. They gave me time to rest, and that was really nice.

nilvero · November 2014

LO was born at midnight and we had visitors come by once visiting hours were available. It was actually really nice to have people around that first day. Now the next day, I was ready for everyone but my mother to be gone, due to some feeding issues we were having. Each person is different! I didn't think I would want anyone but DH in the room with me and no visitors but family. I changed my mind on both those points!

DrBatlyMD · November 2014

As others have said, I much preferred having visitors in the hospital, as opposed to having people come to my house soon after the baby was born. When DS was born, I felt lonely, since H was at home with DD much of the time. And I loved not having to care about the messiness of the house when visitors came by.

tinyjoys · November 2014

My parents, grandparents and inlaws came up to the hospital a few hours after delivery with my first. They stayed for a half hour or so. He was the first {biological} grandchild on both sides. My husband's best friend came up a few hours later and then took my husband to dinner at a burger place by the hospital. He hadn't eaten since the previous night and I was on a liquid diet {csection}, so he didn't want to eat real food in front of me. The next day, my mom came back up, along with my SIL and cousin. I liked visitors. It stopped the 12x12 room walls from closing in around us and broke up the time. As much as I loved my son, it was kind of boring in the hospital.

This time around, our son will get to come in to meet his sibling first. I'll be having a repeat, scheduled csection, assuming I don't go into labor beforehand. Since it'll probably be in the morning, we'll have our son dropped off in the mid afternoon and then after spending an hour or two as a family of 4, we'll allow immediate family to come in. We'll welcome any visitors the following day.

orangecrush32 · November 2014

My mom was in the delivery room with DH and I and his parents, my dad, three of his friends and my sister were all in the waiting room. Everybody came in one at a time after i had DD and met her while i was pretty out of it.

Then the next day my friends and aunt and cousins stopped in to visit. I really didn't mind it and gave me something to do because I was so bored.

I'm assuming this time will be much the same.

ruemorgan · November 2014

Were going to play it by ear. We've told people to please not sit in the family waiting room during the birth, well give you a call/text when were ready.

lianeski · November 2014

you may want to check with your hospital too. mine has a mandatory hour of just mom, dad, and baby time after delivery. after that, depending on how you're feeling, it is perfectly acceptable to limit the number of visitors or request immediate family only the first day. definitely do what you have energy and tolerance for.. and that could change even as the day goes on. I second the suggestions from pp that your SO should be your advocate and can let people know when you're both ready/available for visitors.

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