I need to stop freaking out

cdethwomp · November 2014

Long story short: Last summer, I had a m/c at about 5 weeks. Today, I am 5 weeks pregnant, first appointment a week from today (which seems a little early, but I am AMA and pregnant after m/c, I guess). (Also, we have a grade school aged son.)

I am fairly anxious about being pregnant. Very excited, but understandably worried.

Today, when I talked to my husband about it, he told me if this pregnancy doesn't work out, he was done trying for another, because he thinks we are getting too old. Not really what you want to hear when you're concerned about early miscarriage. I'm sure he did not mean to hurt my feelings. I am super emotional about it, though. Maybe the super emotional is early pregnancy hormones, so I guess that's a good sign.

We haven't told anyone that I'm pregnant yet, so I don't really have anyone to talk to but him.

I am just super teary and freaking out and I probably need to calm down.

Sorry for whining. Thanks for listening.

:-S

cdethwomp · November 2014

Thank you.

After you both posted, I went back and read the mantras, and I think they are helping.

My normal anxiety relief is either having an adult beverage or shopping for clothes on the internet. Obviously no drinks, and shopping for maternity clothes seems pretty perilous right now.

Also, you are probably right about him going through his own process.

I have not told my mom (no sisters). She said some pretty weird things after my m/c last year, so I am holding off on that for now. I think I will feel better after my first prenatal appointment.

Thank you thank you thank you.

footprint · November 2014

Congrats and welcome!!! The early part of this pregnancy was difficult for me (and probably every woman on here

) and the mantras really helped me.

Today my 2 year old and I watched a you tube video about a police officer stopping traffic on a four lane interstate so a mama duck and her 9 ducklings made it safely across and cried so much my son started crying. The super teary, hormonal part of this pregnancy has been a constant for me since my BFP! I just try to laugh about it.

Congrats again!

kate6214 · November 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome and congrats. It's ok to be nervous and emotional.

asglover514 · November 2014

Welcome and congrats! If it makes you feel better I can almost guarantee we were all crazy freaking out during our first weeks too. I still can't go to an appointment without some major anxiety. Sadly it comes with the PGAL territory. I'm sorry your husband doesn't seem super supportive right now but like PP have said he's probably just going though his own emotional things about it. Guys are weird, they want to be strong but it's hard after a loss of any kind and can come off the wrong way. FX that your appointment next week goes wonderfully!!

pblge · November 2014

Congratulations!! The first few weeks are just so hard. The mantras help. PP have given you other good advice. ((Hugs))

taylorandrus · November 2014

I completely understand what you mean. I miscarried last year at 5 weeks and I just passed 7 weeks in my current pregnancy and I have been freaking out the entire time... Worried that I'll have cramps or bleeding. So don't worry you aren't the only one!!

tigerlynx31413 · November 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss and understand your emotions. I am at my second loss milestone today and my first one will be on Friday. I am just praying to get there, then to get to my first appt which is in a week. My hope is it gets easier as time goes by, but I know there will still be rough days being PgAL. Take care of yourself!

Emren · November 2014

Really sorry to hear that you are going through this. I am sorry for your loss. I am normally more emotional in my first trimester as well. Hope everything works out for you guys!

((Hugs and Love))

Emren0316

cdethwomp · November 2014

I appreciate everything you've said to comfort me, ladies. It really helps knowing that other people are having the same emotions and reading about everyone's hopes and histories.

(I am feeling less upset about it today. I think I may need to keep distracting myself until after the first appointment.)

Thanks again!

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