Out again this month:(

runner76 · November 2014

Well im out again.. I almost broke down crying in a meeting today. Of course the teacher in the meeting is pregnant and starting to show.. I am so emotional. Stupid pms.. I am 12 dpo and test was negative so I highly doubt there's a chance. I kept making my self think I saw a shadow of a line.. wishful thinking .. I asked my dr about OPK's and temping and she said if my periods are regular I shouldn't need any of that.. really?! Thought that was strange considering age. but I may seek another dr if a couple more cycles go by.. I am so sad.. I just feel like this is not possible now.

Davie813 · November 2014

runner76 said:

Well im out again.. I almost broke down crying in a meeting today. Of course the teacher in the meeting is pregnant and starting to show.. I am so emotional. Stupid pms.. I am 12 dpo and test was negative so I highly doubt there's a chance. I kept making my self think I saw a shadow of a line.. wishful thinking .. I asked my dr about OPK's and temping and she said if my periods are regular I shouldn't need any of that.. really?! Thought that was strange considering age. but I may seek another dr if a couple more cycles go by.. I am so sad.. I just feel like this is not possible now.

That is--not good advice. Without using charting/temping or opks, you can't know how long your luteal/follicular phases are and when you ovulate. If you haven't started already, this new cycle is the perfect time. While you establish this over the next couple of cycles, you might also want to start laying the groundwork to start seeing an RE when the times comes. You're not too old. Good luck.

vh2014 · November 2014

That sucks. Yeah... my doc said it would stress me out so just "have fun", but I advocated for myself and he said if it made me feel better and not stressed there would be no harm in doing so. If you haven't read it yet read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Women O on different times every month, even with a regular 28 day cycle...you can only get pregnant when you have sex in the appropriate window around your O... and if you are temping you can KNOW if you hit it or missed it and if you missed it you can keep from building yourself up so much.

stemi · November 2014

@runner76‌ that is weird advice that I have also gotten from a pharmacist relative (she said temping was too complicated?!?)
I'm also 12DPO with a BFN, so I can absolutely commiserate. I'm trying to stay busy to keep my mind off it, but it's a huge bummer! Sorry

runner76 · November 2014

I got the BBt thermometer so I am planning to start tomorrow.. My AF is due Wednesday. I am just so worried cause my husband had major issues last month. He has really bad anxiety and he couldn't get an erection my entire OV window. he did eventually but it was difficult and wasn't same as usual.. hoping that isn't the issue every month. YOu think I should see another doc that is more aggressive possibly? This is my second marriage. I am going to be devastated if we can't share a child. I am very lucky to have one ( shes 8) but I had a really bad marriage and want so bad to have a different experience now.. I will be crushed if I missed that chance.

runner76 · November 2014

well I used the clearblue advanced and I had sex every day from flashy smile to still smile.. we stopped that day after the still smiley. My husband had lot of issues cause he saw the test and got performance anxiety basically.. we did it still but wasn't like normal.. after the pos o test you probably O soon after right? Its so stressful!

MySallyGirl · November 2014

Wow your doctor did give you bad advice. Using OPKs and temping is not hard at all and it would help you time intercourse better.

Also I can relate to someone else at work being pregnant. My co-worker is pregnant and it was totally an accident. They were done. So she's shocked and getting used to the idea while I'm sitting over here jealous!

runner76 · November 2014

my coworker here talked about how"easy peasy"it was and she is due exactly when she planned..its so annoying!

runner76 · November 2014

emailed doc and now she said if not pg in 4 to 6 months come in.. What will she do at that point?blood work etc> My insurance wont' cover anything to determine infertility ... ugh

stemi · November 2014

I really think you would benefit from temping-- it would probably make you feel a lot more confident in your timing. If your husband has issues, I suggest you don't let him know when you are in your FW, as this may contribute to his troubles.

suziq1978 · November 2014

So sorry. Good luck for your next cycle.

runner76 · November 2014

I just don't know how.. He knows when I get my period so.. He also can tell ( feel when I am ov)its like impossible.. I just need to stop talking..we also have sex almost daily which I think is contributing to lower sperm count.. I don't know how to even temp cause he kisses me goodbye as soon as he leaves for work which is my time to test.

flyliceandcoffee · November 2014

when you say he leaves for work when it's your time to test, what do you mean? If you're still in bed (i.e haven't gotten out of bed yet) couldn't you just wait to take your temp until he leaves? From my limited understanding of this, I think as long as the circumstances at which you test is generally consistent, you should be able to see your temp shift. If you have to take your temp while he's still at home, if you're consistently taking your temp (i.e. everyday regardless of if AF is visiting or not), I'd bet that he'd eventually stop noticing what you're doing and/or no longer pay attention to it because it's just part of the routine instead of just something you do at a very specific time of the month.

If you're talking about taking your ovulation tests, could you not just hold your pee for 5 minutes and wait till he's gone?

runner76 · November 2014

the temp thing.. he wakes at 6 and wakes me to kissme goodbye, does him kissing me affect temp? Cause I can take it as soon as he leaves..

MySallyGirl · November 2014

You should just have him wake you at 5:55, temp and then kiss

MySallyGirl · November 2014

Romantic morning temping! Lo l

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