MIL

mancila60 · November 2014

I have been missing MIL a lot lately. She passed away in 2012 right after H and I got married. I took 100% care of her the last 2 months of her life. She never knew I was pregnant and obviously never met Ethan. It breaks my heart because he would have been her first grandchild. When we see stuff for him that reminds us of her we always try to buy it so that he has a little piece of her with him. Lately I have been missing her. Lot we were really close and when things with my family were crazy I always turned to her and she just seemed to know what to say. I'm sure it's just because the holidays are coming up and I'm not sure how things with my family will be this year but I just can't help but wonder how different things would be with her here. Sorry to start Monday off so sad but I needed to share with someone and I always hate talking to H about it because he gets a little depressed (understandably). What helps you when you start to miss someone who has passed away?

AlwaysForgetful · November 2014

I don't know the feeling. MIL passed away the year before SO and I met. I do know that she meant a lot to him and was one of his main support people. That is why #4 is named after her.

SIL has issues all the time because she was so mean to MIL. So she always is a ball of emotion 5 years later and projects it onto her kids. I am not saying you are doing that! Just telling you our situation.

What I do is, on the anniversary of MIL's birthday, I buy a yellow rose plant. It sits in the window. That is all we do. SO says it has helped a lot without being to much. Yellow roses were MIL's favorite flower.

deedee1017 · November 2014

Hugs. I'm sorry for the passing of your MIL.

It's not the same, but when I miss my grandfather I talk to him. I feel like he always sees me and he's everywhere so, sometimes I just talk to him--wherever I am. Usually I end up crying but after I've said what's on my mind, I feel better.