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New baby with older step siblings.

stephrob88stephrob88 member
in April 2015 Moms
Does anyone else have older step children and is now pg with baby? I am kinda nervous about how my 12 and 13 yo step kids will react when baby is born. So far the 13 yo seems excited she wants to help but 12 yo is pretty quiet about the whole deal. Kids at school have already told my 12yo step son that his dad won't love him anymore after baby is born. Both kids live with their mom full time and come to our house on weekends. I'm not sure how much of the first time baby stuff/excitement I should have because I don't want them to feel left out or forgotten about. - any tips or advise is welcome.
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  • lindsayanne14lindsayanne14 member
    I don't have step children, but I wanted to mention there is a blended families board you can check out if you don't get many responses here! Good luck!

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  • stephrob88stephrob88 member
    Thanks! I'll look into that.
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  • lirpaloof77lirpaloof77 member
    I have two step daughters and they are ages 11 and 8. They are very excited. My husband and I are expecting our 3rd child together. Our boys are 5 and 3 1/2. With our first, it was a bit tricky and there was quite a bit of jealousy. Make sure your husband still makes LOTS of time for them.
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  • rmaurer08rmaurer08 member
    edited November 2014
    I don't have any step-child advice to offer, but I do want to wish you good luck!! I think the fact that you are concerned is a great start! My only thought is what you said in regards to the "first time thoughts/excitement." Have it all! Share it with the kids! Does dad have any pictures from when his kids were born? Maybe bring those out so you can show then how excited he was when they were born and they can see that he was the same way for them? Or if nothing else, have him talk to them about "your mom and I were so excited when you were coming! We used to do x,y, and z." I understand you may not necessarily want to hear those past stories, but I think it's important for them to see the correlation. Now, step child or not, one important thing to do when introducing a child to their new sibling is allowing the existing child to help plan. Just some thoughts!! Good luck!!!
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  • stephrob88stephrob88 member
    Thank you ladies for your help. I should add because it kind of makes a difference we have a pretty good relationship with the kids mom as well. So We do have their baby info/pics available. I really like the idea of digging out their pics. I have helped raise these two for the last 7 years so they are my kids too and I just want them to feel loved and not left out.
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  • pistachio&blushpistachio&blush member
    I have an adult step daughter (20 years old). The new baby is her first sibling so I don't have any advice to give.


    I am also interested in reading any advice you get.
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  • tikatacotikataco member
    I was glad to see this thread and I also would be interested to see the advice here.
    I have a 13 year old stepson and he lives with his mom primarily as well. So far he seems excited, which I was really relieved about. He is mostly excited because he wants to babysit (for money lol.) But I'm also hoping he likes being a big brother.
    I want him to feel included and I really don't want him to feel like he's losing his dad in any way. I would be horrified if kids told him his dad won't love him!
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