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December 2014 Moms
desertsun
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STMs, talk to me about your childcare plans for during your hospital stay.
Is your husband/SO going to go home at night? Or is your older kid(s) going to stay at someone else's house while you are away from home? Maybe someone is coming to stay at your house to look after your kid(s)?
(I did search and saw a couple threads, but they were kinda old. I figure plans may have changed or become more detailed over the last several months.)
S+TMs: Childcare during L&D?
desertsun
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Is your husband/SO going to go home at night? Or is your older kid(s) going to stay at someone else's house while you are away from home? Maybe someone is coming to stay at your house to look after your kid(s)?
(I did search and saw a couple threads, but they were kinda old. I figure plans may have changed or become more detailed over the last several months.)
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Re: S+TMs: Childcare during L&D?
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Also, I feel like being in the hospital over Christmas is different from not, and RCS vs VBAC might change how I feel about having my H with me or not.
Clearly I am overthinking and making myself crazy!
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Delivery Day: My FIL will come to my house at 5am so my boys can sleep to their regular time (I have to check in at the hospital at 5:30). FIL will get the boys ready and take them to school (I am going to have them stay full days for the three days they go that week instead of the half days they normally do). My MIL will pick up the boys from school that day and hang on to them until bed time. My DH will go get them and take them home to bed.
The rest of my hospital stay: My DH will take the kids to school in the morning and then come to the hospital for a few hours. He will then pick up the boys and take care of them at home for the afternoon and over night.
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bfp#4 3/19/2014 edd 12/1/2014 please let this be the one!
beta @ 5w0d = 12,026! u/s 4/22/14 @ 8w1d it's twins!
If things go better this time, I think I'd be okay on my own after the first night.
So I think what I am most comfortable with is for our boy W to have one night away from home, and then my H can be home with him.
Alternatively or as a backup plan, my mom might be convinced to sleep in W's bed with him since it's a full size mattress. Actually, she'd probably LOVE it, and I would prefer that over worrying about fresh sheets on our bed and making our entire house guest-ready in the midst of the holidays and being vastly pregnant. (No guest room -- the old guest bed just became W's big boy bed.)
I lived far away from family for a long time and I definitely do not take for granted having some nearby now.
Maybe a couple of the more reliable friends or family members could alternate or be backups for each other?
**December 2014 September Siggy Challenge - Favorite Thing About Fall - Fall Leaves and Apple Cider**
With my second my MIL was suppose to drive and watch my oldest. Well... we didn't give her enough notice so she got pissed and decided not to come when we needed her. H watched him up at the hospital with me. MIL decided to show up hours after and H still had to go home and watch my oldest. Fun stuff.
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If I go into labor before then they will come when I call and hopefully make the 300mile trip to watch my son before the babies actually come so my husband can be with me.... otherwise husband will watch the lad and I will have the babies alone.
@Meether, that's adorable.
Sounds like lots of people have tentative plans with some kind of back up in mind. This is reassuring to me. Sometimes I get anxious because I can't plan or control as much as I might like when it comes to L&D.
This time the same person is coming back and so is another friend. Luckily we have an awesome friend who took her last 4 vacation days and used them to help care for our kids. I am very blessed. I know this. The first person... I know the other friend will need some help (or become burnt out) which is why she is coming back. But she is NOT to do food. The other friend was put in charge of that. She use to live with us (the one taking vacation days), so she knows the importance of things and why we do what we do.
This hospital seems to like to keep me 5 days instead of the standard 3. :-/ So we have to plan for that. Either way, both those women will be here. One is coming late Thanksgiving night and will go Black Friday shopping with me. Then be here when we leave Saturday morning for the Csection. The other one will be here on Friday night some time. I need to be at the hospital to check in at 6am on that Saturday morning.
When I am feeling up to visitors (my kids first) then I will give my friend a call to bring my little tribe of minions up. Then we will let some others know. I don't like lots of people at once.... Ok, actually I don't like people at all in the hospital except for my kids. But we set it up so people can come after our kids come but they need to call first. I got annoyed with me taking a nap and loud mouth would show up unexpected and then not see the issue because "you get more rest at the hospital"... lol No, I get a LOT more sleep at home. I would rather be home where I can lock you out.
IF #6 has jaundice pretty bad like #5 did (they kept her another day and wanted to longer), then the friend who took the days off for us will have to go home Friday morning so she can work Friday afternoon. BUT she will come back very late Friday night. I
I wish grandparents could care for the kids. One works full time at a factory still and works 6-7 days a week (SO's mother passed away 5 years ago) and my parents are NOT to ever watch the kids. Not even for an hour. They have issues. Like not understanding #1's disability and basically if kids don't act like little adults, they must be spoiled brats. The last olive branch I held out ended with my then 2 year old getting 10 spanking for crying because she was told "No" while we were camping. I thought my mother was just going to take her across camp like we normally did and let her cry. She stops pretty fast and was only crying so much because she thought my mother would take pity on her. Nope, My mother took her across camp and spanked her 10 times before I got over there, take my child away from her, rip her a new one and end our joint camping trip. I felt bad that it took so many for me to get over there, but I was lifting a hot pan off the fire and was beginning to serve the kids food. I needed to put it down while not tripping on the other kids. Either her meds aren't right or her depression is not the cause of her... attitude. That attitude may just be her. Very sad. She will never get another chance though. Nope.
And yes, this is the mother who I have decided I will not be going over there for Thanksgiving.
DS2 - 8/08
DS3- 9/09
DD1 - 11/11
DD2 - 10/13
DD3 - Csection Scheduled November 29th
If I go into labor on my own earlier, she'll get the girls from school or come over and we'll head to the hospital.
I think H will go home at night with DD though. I would prefer this because he was miserable on the pull out bed in the hospital and annoyed me complaining about it.
If I go into labor at night again, I'll call my mom to come over before heading to the hospital. She can get DD1 up and then bring her home. My mom is DD1 normal care provider so she is used to being at my parents house. After DD2 is born, my mom will bring DD1 to the hospital or DH will go get her. DH probably won't stay the night at the hospital. Last time he stayed the first night but I sent him home the second. Not sure how we'll do bedtime yet. DD1 has spent the night at my parents but if DH isn't staying with me she probably will sleep at home. Not sure if he'll go home before her bedtime or if my mom will put her to bed so DH can stay later. In the morning DH will bring her to my parents before coming back to the hospital.
We have a "flexible" set of plans right meow (not a typo). It all depends on if LO is early or decides to camp out past his due date.
I'm due on the Dec 14. DD's winter break starts on Dec 20. DH is in school and is home all week except for wed, thurs, and fri afternoon. So Great Grandma-in-law (who is awesome) picks up DD from school on those days and watches her until one of us gets home. GGIL and FIL have both offered to watch DD when it is go time. Day or night. DD has spent the night at both houses before and never wants to come home. (Cuz they spoil her)
DH is going to stay with me the whole time in the hospital. Apparently the recovery stay at my hospital is 24 hours for an uncomplicated vaginal birth.
So basically, if I go into labor while DD is at school, she will go on with her normal routine with the exception of spending the night at GGIL house instead of coming home ( hmmm need to pack her a little overnight bag as well now that I think about it) If it happens on the weekend or during her school break, we will drop her off on the way.
BFP #1 5/12/12; EDD 1/20/13; Eliana Grace born 1/25/13
BFP #2 12/11/13; EDD 8/23/14; M/C 6 weeks
BFP #3 4/3/14; EDD 12/13/14
My husband will stay with me in the hospital, but will need to go home once a day to feed and exercise the dogs, and take care of the aquariums. (he has a saltwater reef tank that is the love of his life and if something happened to his corals and fish he would probably die right then and there) He will also take a blanket home every day that has the new baby's scent so that they can get used to it before they meet him. My parents will bring our son to the hospital at least once a day to see us.