Waiting is the Worst Thing

havingkittens · September 2014

I feel pregnant, like I'm having a lot of unusual symptoms that seem to add up to pregnancy. But my period isn't due until next Monday, and waiting is so incredibly hard. It seems that with each month that goes by, it's harder to handle getting my period and knowing I have to keep waiting.

Symptoms, for people who are curious: felt extremely hungover for three days last week (after not drinking any alcohol), feel like I'm getting a cold because I keep sneezing, bloated/tender abdomen, constipation (tmi, I know), mild yeast infection (even worse, yeah), fatigue/exhaustion, feeling thirsty all the time, headaches, and an unnerving feeling of calmness like I'm zoning out really badly.

It's not really easy because even though I'm 28, my husband is 40 and suffers from low sex drive, so we really only have sex when we think I might be ovulating. Every time my period comes, I feel more and more stressed, and more pressure to conceive. At this point I'm probably crazy enough that I'm fully capable of tricking myself into feeling pregnant even when I'm not.

Just had to get that all off my chest. Husband doesn't like talking about any symptoms I experience because he thinks I'm faking myself out, and I don't have any friends that are trying to conceive.

tbarker14 · September 2014

It can be really hard not to stress, however in the long run you end up hurting yourself.
Try and keep yourself busy with other things, work, hobbies, friends, reading, outings etc.
Try not to read too much into each symptom since the mind can make the body do crazy things. End up letting ourselves down when and if we are not pregnant.
I took a pregnancy test the day I was due for my AF and it was negative. - I was kinda bummed out because I felt pregnant. I just micro analyzed every feeling I was having... I had to talk myself out of analyzing everything. Three months later, took a test when I was a week late and it turned out to be positive.
Just basically, enjoy the now and try not to dwell on "am i?"

havingkittens · September 2014

tbarker14 said:

It can be really hard not to stress, however in the long run you end up hurting yourself. Try and keep yourself busy with other things, work, hobbies, friends, reading, outings etc. Try not to read too much into each symptom since the mind can make the body do crazy things. End up letting ourselves down when and if we are not pregnant. I took a pregnancy test the day I was due for my AF and it was negative. - I was kinda bummed out because I felt pregnant. I just micro analyzed every feeling I was having... I had to talk myself out of analyzing everything. Three months later, took a test when I was a week late and it turned out to be positive. Just basically, enjoy the now and try not to dwell on "am i?"

Good advice, thanks. I've wanted to have kids for years, so now that we're finally doing this it's hard not to get worked up over it. I am trying to focus less on potential symptoms and more on daily life, but it felt good to rant at people who know the feeling, lol.

havingkittens · September 2014

14whitney said:

I feel pregnant, like I'm having a lot of unusual symptoms that seem to add up to pregnancy. But my period isn't due until next Monday, and waiting is so incredibly hard. It seems that with each month that goes by, it's harder to handle getting my period and knowing I have to keep waiting.

Symptoms, for people who are curious: felt extremely hungover for three days last week (after not drinking any alcohol), feel like I'm getting a cold because I keep sneezing, bloated/tender abdomen, constipation (tmi, I know), mild yeast infection (even worse, yeah), fatigue/exhaustion, feeling thirsty all the time, headaches, and an unnerving feeling of calmness like I'm zoning out really badly.

It's not really easy because even though I'm 28, my husband is 40 and suffers from low sex drive, so we really only have sex when we think I might be ovulating. Every time my period comes, I feel more and more stressed, and more pressure to conceive. At this point I'm probably crazy enough that I'm fully capable of tricking myself into feeling pregnant even when I'm not.

Just had to get that all off my chest. Husband doesn't like talking about any symptoms I experience because he thinks I'm faking myself out, and I don't have any friends that are trying to conceive.
https://tbttgp.wordpress.com/

Thanks for the link?

havingkittens · September 2014

MrsMuq said:

havingkittens said:

I feel pregnant, like I'm having a lot of unusual symptoms that seem to add up to pregnancy. But my period isn't due until next Monday, and waiting is so incredibly hard. It seems that with each month that goes by, it's harder to handle getting my period and knowing I have to keep waiting.

Symptoms, for people who are curious: felt extremely hungover for three days last week (after not drinking any alcohol), feel like I'm getting a cold because I keep sneezing, bloated/tender abdomen, constipation (tmi, I know), mild yeast infection (even worse, yeah), fatigue/exhaustion, feeling thirsty all the time, headaches, and an unnerving feeling of calmness like I'm zoning out really badly.

It's not really easy because even though I'm 28, my husband is 40 and suffers from low sex drive, so we really only have sex when we think I might be ovulating. Every time my period comes, I feel more and more stressed, and more pressure to conceive. At this point I'm probably crazy enough that I'm fully capable of tricking myself into feeling pregnant even when I'm not.

Just had to get that all off my chest. Husband doesn't like talking about any symptoms I experience because he thinks I'm faking myself out, and I don't have any friends that are trying to conceive.

Every symptom you're describing is both a PMS symptom and an early pregnancy symptom. Early pregnancy "symptoms" do not mean you're pregnant. You could very well be PMSing.

The purpose of the link was for you to read it and gain some info about your body and the TTC process, because, based on your post, you come across as lacking info on how the whole process works.

Okay, that's what I thought. I'm actually pretty familiar with the whole thing. I know that I'm probably not pregnant, I was really just complaining about how easy it is to psych myself into thinking I am pregnant. Sorry I wasn't more clear about that in the original post.

havingkittens · September 2014

This was really just intended as a rant post, not asking people if I might be pregnant or saying that I think I am pregnant. I'm just ranting about how I keep feeling pregnant (even though I'm probably not) and how hard it is to wait until I get my period.

havingkittens · September 2014

MandJS said:

havingkittens said:

This was really just intended as a rant post, not asking people if I might be pregnant or saying that I think I am pregnant. I'm just ranting about how I keep feeling pregnant (even though I'm probably not) and how hard it is to wait until I get my period.

Okay, well it didn't really come across that way. However, you really SHOULD read the link. It has a lot of good information. AND. If you're far enough along for symptoms, you'd be far enough along to turn a HPT positive (if you are, indeed, pregnant). So ... if you have symptoms, pee on a stick.

Thanks, I did end up reading the link and it did have some good advice on it. I have read about women getting symptoms as early as a few days after conceiving, is that not physically possible until you have enough hcg to show on a test? My period isn't due until next Monday, and I did take a test, but it was negative.

It's so hard to stop thinking about things. I'm fighting a losing battle trying to get my brain to not interpret random fatigue and weird abdominal tingling as pregnancy. I really don't want to get my hopes up, as every symptom has a logical explanation other than pregnancy.

dreamjewl · September 2014

do your best not to stress out and pray it will all work out.Maybe he is the reason why your not getting pregnant. Best of Luck Doll your young it will happen !

havingkittens · September 2014

I actually got a really faint positive on a pregnancy test this morning. I have a doctor appointment in an hour for a suspected bladder infection, so I guess I will ask them to do a test as well.

havingkittens · September 2014

Doctor confirmed pregnancy, wow.

havingkittens · September 2014

Thanks guys. I'm still really stunned and trying to let myself believe it.

TKO86 · September 2014

Congrats!! I hope all the ladies here who are TTC have the same symptoms and same results

havingkittens · September 2014

Well...I was pregnant. Ended up miscarrying though. It was harder than I thought it would be so early in pregnancy.

The worst part was when the doctor's office called me today and told me that based on my ultrasound I was pregnant. Got my hopes up, asked about the blood work, then they conferred with the doctor and said they hadn't seen the negative blood work, so I must have miscarried.

Really nice to go through that twice. Sigh.

ashiscute · September 2014

Sorry for your loss

Empireceo · September 2014

Sorry for your loss

Knottie82236757 · September 2014

I know how you feel! I have been having weird symptoms that could be pregnancy and could be pregnancy, but maybe not. My period is late, but only by a couple of days. Which could be stress related-lets face it, it's tricky to stay stress free when trying to conceive. Life just has it's ups and downs and I am about to turn 35-I have never been more aware of my fertility and how it will be changing and is likely already changing. My fella also works off shore so he is home like 2 weeks a month. And it's never at my most fertile time. Stresssss! I hope it happens for you, soon! I'll be thinking of you! Waiting IS the worst!

havingkittens · September 2014

Thanks guys. Husband and I will try again soon, no doubt. Still pretty upset at the doctor's office for not double checking before calling me though.

FutureMrsK1021 · September 2014

I'm very sorry to hear for your loss.

May your little angel rest in peace. >:D<

SuddenlyISee · September 2014

Sorry for your loss

Positive thoughts coming your way.

Knottie87876623 · October 2014

I totally get it as I've had similar experiences and sadly also a lot worse.

Try to not stress in the future when you do start trying again. You're still young and you have plenty of time ahead of you. Stress does not help at all, believe me.

It's hard but you can do it. And the end result will be worth it

kksquared · November 2014

I'm waiting to test too! My husband isn't into hearing about the symptoms I'm having either lol. He says "if you're pregnant we'll find out when you test". Try and fill up your time with something useful like organizing a closet or get a head start on christmas shopping!

kksquared · November 2014

Sorry about my last post. I couldn't load your other post. I'm so sorry about your loss.

bookwormfnp · November 2014

I am so sorry about your loss. We are a family here. You can join us on TTC after a loss page. It is really helpful to have support from people who have been where you are.

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